My fiancé and I are getting married in just 42 days and my ROCD hasn’t spiked this hard in a long time. So many triggers, so much stress around planning makes it difficult not to fall into back on compulsions. I’m trying hard not to confess exact thoughts here nor am I looking for any reassurance. Just needed somewhere to put down that this is damn hard!!
I understand I’ve had the same happen recently. My partner and I bought a car together. Financed it specifically. Huge step for us and we got our first apartment alone without roommates. My rocd has been trying to drag me to hell I swear 😭😭 but we are aware that it’s ocd which is the first step to feeling better. Once my partner and I were settled into our new place with our new car I felt a lot better. You are going to be SO happy on your wedding night. You are going to be over the moon, and you will feel so much better. I promise. ❤️🩹
@EmmettMirabella Thank you! This was so relatable and I really appreciate you sharing your experience as well. Congrats on taking big relationship steps too!
@EmmettMirabella I really pray I get this far in my relationship too 🥲
Omg… I had this… it feels like you need to get anything in your head out on the table otherwise it feels like your not being transparent or true with them, and your about to get married. You’ll get through this I know it doesn’t feel like it, but find time for yourself, lean into those fears and just let them pass give them no importance, on hindsight I realised that nothing I confessed to my (now) husband was ever really relevant. Try to explain to you mr fiancé and tell him not to indulge you, it will encourage you to try and deal with yourself, without really dealing with it if you know what I mean! Massive love to you and congratulations x
@lubrad89 Thank you so much! Your experience is relevant and I commend you for how you have gotten through it too. Really am grateful you shared!
Me and my Fiancé get married in 3 months. We have been together for almost 3yrs now. I started dealing with OCD and different subtypes around Mid 2022 without knowing it was OCD. (Im not officially diagnosed btw) Because I didn't know it was OCD for a long time all i did was confess and confess to my Fiancé, mainly things about my past some from my distant past and some from my more recent past. Eventually my OCD switched themes and all of sudden now i was having intrusive thoughts. Present intrusive thoughts that's when I learned about ROCD and I immediately felt identified. Anyways i was barely learning about compulsions and how to resist them so i was still not doing good regarding my confessions and i began to now confess my intrusive thoughts. Afterwards as OCD usually does i started obsessing over the most trivial things in my past, i started dealing with Real Event/False Memory OCD I confessed about that too. All the way to present time. I have gotten better at resisting my main compulsion which is confessing, yet i still fail from time to time. What has happened now is that my Fiancé is getting affected. She is the most patient, supportive & kind woman i have ever met. She is literally an angel from heaven and has been by my side through my/our darkest times. However lately she hasn't been feeling well. Due to our economical situation we've decided to move back to my hometown after the wedding. This is difficult for her of course because she has to leave behind. Family, Friends, her job and basically what has been her whole life till now. The thing is that she tell's me that all of that would be easier if she knew she was giving it up for something that's gonna last and she feels like my constant confessing and my intrusive thoughts is just me secretly telling her that I'm not sure about being with her. Keep in mind, she knows about my ROCD, I've explained it, we've read articles together, watched videos about it together. Even then she tells me to try to look at things from her side and how its not easy for her to deal with this change in her life and feel like she has to keep us together as well. I've also felt like OCD has changed who i am. I used to be confident, positive, spontaneous, detailed and romantic. Now all my energy seems to be focused on just getting through the day with my thoughts. So I understand that she hasn't been feeling swooned lately. Specially after so much time of me being the amazing boyfriend. I guess what im trying to figure out is how to deal with all of this. How do i deal with my ROCD and support my Fiancé at the same time. How can I reassure her i love her and that I don't have any doubts about being with her depsite what i feel or think. I don't mind my OCD hurting me or torturing me. But not her, i just want her to be happy. If anyone is going through something similar or has any advice it would be greatly appreciated. Thank you. Life is so hard.
Has anyone recently gotten married and was able to cope with their OCD through their engagement and actual wedding weekend? I’ve been doing great and just want to make sure I can handle the stress over the next few months and not ruin the weekend I’ve looked forward to for over a year. I feel some recent intrusive thoughts coming through that are “I am” statements which are new for me. Any tips or tricks would be appreciated.
I can't seem to stop ruminating on my fiances past experiences and sexual encounters. We get married in 24 days and I'm sick to my stomach daily thinking about her past and the possibility of us not working out and me being abandoned again like I always am. I have done bad things in going through my spouses phone and deleting and blocking people from her past and I'm not even entirely sure she knows I've done that. I have brought up things in her phone that I have found that bother me and when I do she gets very angry. But my OCD won't allow me to not keep digging to find the reason why I am not enough for her like I haven't been for everyone else in my life. Seeing her talk about past sexual partners in private conversations has killed my soul because I can't compare or compete with those people on that plane. Feel like I'm drowning and losing the only important things in my life due to this sickness.
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