- Date posted
- 5y ago
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Yeah I get it, I have it as well so I know how you feel. But what do you want? What do you want to come home to? Don’t let your mind pick, make yourself pick. Your mind will tell you different than what you truly want if you have OCD. Ask yourself these basic questions, and that’s your answer. But of course OCD will make you doubt that answer, but don’t let the doubt fool you. Don’t let the OCD take over.
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I think this is the wrong question to be asking. I think the right one would be “ how do I accept the possibility of being gay ? “. That’s going to get under the fear and turn it into something that is no longer a fear. Because once this question is answered , you’ll move onto something similar or something completely different. I’m sure you already know this but just wanted to say it just Incase. You could do things like talk to gay people or go to a gay club ( obviously not to do anything , just to see that they’re normal people and can live fun lives too and it would be the same with you ). Ask yourself this ; would you rather live a life full of worrying about whether or not you’re gay or accepting it as a possibility and learning to be okay with it and living a happy life in the process ? The latter is totally possible man. You got it , we’re all here for you ????
- Date posted
- 5y ago
It’s simple really. HOCD is a subtype of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, and being gay is wanting and seeking out romantic or sexual relationships with the same sex exclusively.
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Ok. I just can’t tell if I am gay, or I’ve just let the ocd take over. I have other forms of ocd, but this is one that I’ve been dealing with for the longest time.
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- Date posted
- 9w ago
Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
- Date posted
- 6w ago
I cant afford therapy which is why i’m not diagnosed with ocd. The first time i had heard what ocd was truly abt was 6 years ago when i overthinking my sexual identity and it fit. Additionally, i struggle with debilitating health anxiety and when i was in a rlt i was extremely anxious that i might not love my partner. This is the third year i experience distress around my sexuality but this year it feels real. And it could also explain my rlt anxiety. Comphet is a concept that really scares me. I dont want to be with a girl. I would rather die than discover i was lesbian. I cant accept uncertainty cz i dont want to be homosexual. Chat GPT told me it wasnt ocd + the thoughts dont distress me anymore. I experience 3 intense weeks of anxiety prior to now. Maybe its internalized homophobia. Maybe its comphet. I do find women to be attractive but i dont wanna be with them. Maybe i’m in denial. Idk anything anymore. I’m remembering times where i would find an actress attractive and try to shift my focus towards the man cz it would make me anxious. I’m not well at all.
- Date posted
- 5w ago
So I’ve talked to a couple of gay people and they all told me the same thing. They ALWAYS knew they liked guys and they have ever gotten aroused by a woman in their life. In fact they told me that they always found a woman’s body disgusting. Looking back in my life I’ve been attracted to girls for as long as I can remember even before puberty. All my fantasies were about girls and I can’t remember a time where I felt the same for a guy (because it never happened). At the end I can still get aroused by women and you can clearly see how much stupid this obsession about being gay is. Gay people can’t get instinctively aroused by a woman and like it. Groinal responses and sensations don’t mean anything because they simply do not bring joy or a feeling of desire. Instead they bring panic. I once got a groinal when “testing my reactions” and I was sitting there crying like my life is over. That’s not how genuine attraction works and no one has woken up one day feeling different and no one has been secretly gay and never noticed it and spent his whole life into women instead.
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