rocd tips?

Hi everyone. I am in a sort of situationship with someone I really care about. My OCD has been spiking around our relationship, and it’s been hard. We have been talking about taking a break - and it’s been very triggering for me. I’ve been ruminating, and checking messages and socials, and seeking reassurance a lot. It feels like a “right person wrong time” situation and I am not dealing well with this uncertainty. Has anyone else dealt with this? And does anyone have advice for how to get through this?

Relationship OCD

Username: elliss2elliss2

Date posted: 34w ago

Those things are horrible. I think when someone is involved emotionally but with no commitment, it’s not good. Both should have the strength to walk away (innerly), in order to have the chance to become healthy. This is my personal opinion… I need to do this myself, not only saying this to you😅

Username: lilguy898lilguy898

Date posted: 34w ago

@elliss2 thank you for saying this! i hope we both remember that we are strong enough to do this! it’s so hard :( but you are so right

Username: FearlessturkeyFearlessturkey

Date posted: 34w ago

I went through this exact thing for 2.5 years. It was horrible. I wanted to die. It was trauma every day. I’m really sorry you’re going through this. I can tell you that the way that I saved myself was that I finally accepted that he wasn’t ready for a relationship and this was killing me. I prayed and God sent me my best friend to live with me and the guy and I broke up for two months. During the two months we broke up , I met someone that I liked but it wasn’t anything serious. Meeting him pulled me out of the obsession/unhealthy relationship and I was able to heal quickly and realize that my mind set was the problem. I was in too deep. I needed a paradigm shift and I got one. Two months later I felt 100% different and we ended up getting back together. We’re getting married in three months lol. I recommend trying your best to realize that this relationship is hurting you and you both need space from it to see clearly what you want. They obviously like you or they wouldn’t be sticking around. Maybe they just need to see that they can’t be without you if you give them space. i recommend more than two months for healing before you get back together. If not, you heal and move on.

Username: lilguy898lilguy898

Date posted: 34w ago

@Fearlessturkey thank you for sharing this. this is really helpful and just what i needed to hear!

Username: FearlessturkeyFearlessturkey

Date posted: 34w ago

@lilguy898 Glad it helped. If you need a buddy you can always message me. Good luck ❤️

Username: AlwaysAnxious26

Date posted: 2y ago

My partner and I are currently broken up/taking a break. Has anyone with ROCD dealt with this? How did it work out? I’m scared and relieved but I know I love them.

Relationship OCD

Username: gussywussy

Date posted: 2y ago

rocd flare up. please help.

hi. i have been dealing with the worst rocd episode to date. i’ve been with an amazing man for almost 2 years. i flirted around and dated one person in high school. i entered my first long term relationship in 2020 when i was 18. I was never the party type. I always liked having a close knit group of friends and having intimate gatherings. two weeks ago i saw a post about how relationships in your 20s dont last and that your 20s are for dating around. that sent me into a spiral and i felt that i had to date around or i was doing something wrong. after tears on both ends he allowed me three months to date around and bate a decision. i tearfully downloaded tinder and swiped left on everyone. i called him back that same night and sobbed begging for us to not do this break thing because i knew that’s not what i really wanted. since then i’ve had days of clarity where I know I don’t want anyone else. when we are together, i feel at peace. but when we’re apart i’m back to spiraling. this is the worst episode i’ve had to date and mind you i’ve had cheating ocd, false memories, and compulsive confessions in the past. I keep giving into the compulsions to look at articles about how young relationships are destined to fail they don’t make me feel good at all. I don’t want reassurance, just want to know how people move past these flare ups. any advice is greatly appreciated please.

Relationship OCD

Username: calicocookie

Date posted: 1y ago

distressed ROCD relapse

I've been dealing with an Relationship OCD relapse for a few weeks now and im currently distressed, overanalyzing my feelings towards my boyfriend, I feel the urge to break up with him at random times daily, for context I'm in a healthy happy relationship but this is causing me so much distress and anxiety. I fear I might loose control and break up with him.

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