OCD while having young kids

I have two beautiful healthy young boys. This OCD has sucked away all of my joy and being able to enjoy parenting and being with them. Being a mom has always been my whole identity and dream and I was thriving in it until I was hit with OCD. It is the most distressing thing that it is sucking away me enjoying these precious ages with my boys that I’ll never get back. I am so distraught. Anyone else who has kids on here who deals with OCD? How do you cope?

Username: ZoroarcanineZoroarcanine

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 31w ago

When I was at the bottom of my spiral during my current flare up, I was questioning everything, including if I even loved my daughter. I was such a wreck that I couldn’t enjoy my time with her and I was so miserable and hated myself for it. I felt like I couldn’t be her fun loving dad with all the junk that was gunking up my mind. It’s tough but it does get better. If you haven’t, start ERP therapy because it has helped me tremendously and if you haven’t yet, let yourself be angry or upset over having this terrible mental illness. I think that’s helped me a lot in my acceptance of it, but knowing I’m not what OCD wants me to be. Not everyday will be easy, and when I was at the pit of my spiral, it felt like I had to act like myself, but doing that, I think, helped me find myself again though, even if I’m not fully back there yet. It’s okay if your kids see you struggle, you are human, and I know as parents we want to put on these brave faces, but I think sometimes seeing us go through hard things can help them know they have someone who can help them out with their’s

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 31w ago

This is so me. It is so scary. I am so upset I am missing out on all of this time. It’s made me not be able to enjoy the time at all. Why does OCD attack what matters to us the most 😭

Username: annonymous7annonymous7

Date posted: 31w ago

This is me too lately! It’s hard to interact and hold them or anything! I’ll either stay away, like move out of their way, avoid changing them, or go way too far I feel. I used to cuddle my boy a lot and now it’s hard to even hug him or dress him. Yesterday I was turning my 5 year old by his shoulder and saw his hand on or by his privates and feel like I pushed into it harder so his hand pushed into his privates. Like wtf?!! I have 2 boys, 2 and 5.

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 31w ago

Being a mom is my number one in life, i never had this before, my kids have always been my life. I don’t get it.

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 31w ago

Anyway us parents could chat more? Would love to hear more of your stories

Username: ssilent ssilent

Date posted: 26w ago

This is me!! I don’t know how to cope at all with it, sometimes I look at my kids and it’s almost like I don’t know who they are anymore. It has strong my life from me, I’m so sorry you are dealing with this.

Username: hereintheUK

Date posted: 2y ago

Parents and mums to be…….

Hi everyone I’m new here. I’ve been to hell and back in the last 5 months with my OCD which has affected me with various themes in various ways for since childhood but I’ve only this year discovered I have OCD. I have been suicidal 3 times and very close to ending it all. I have a question for all the parents out there/mums to be suffering with OCD…… I already have a 9 yr old boy and 8 yr old girl and have just found out I’m pregnant again…… I really want to be happy about it but my OCD is determined to make me terrified of having another baby and I am living in fear and dread of changing nappies etc as I know it will start affecting me with POCD type thoughts. I didn’t have OCD anything like as bad as it has been this year when I had my two eldest so never had any issues when they were babies. But I don’t even know how to feel except I am terrified now and very seriously considering abortion just to not go through what the OCD may do to me mentally! Though it would devastate my partner. I have had minimal therapy so far since August but no ERP therapy, I’ve lost faith in therapists as I’m yet to meet one that actually knows what OCD is like for those of us living with it. Is anyone else currently facing this situation with being pregnant or been through/currently going through it? How are you coping? Please don’t give too many details as I am scared of being triggered

Username: RiRiRavioli8

Date posted: 1y ago

Existential OCD, Derealization, New mom

Hi y’all! I’ve had OCD since 7 or 8 years old, but wasn’t fully diagnosed until I was in my twenties after having a major panic attack. This triggered my derealization and had intrusive thoughts that nothing was real, that everything was a projection of my imagination. My OCD was pretty quiet until now, 15 mos after having my precious babygirl (i figured it latches on to the things/people we cherish the most). My OCD is making me think that she isn’t real and it is making it hard for me to enjoy moments with my baby. It’s been a struggle and I’m hoping to find some light. 🥺

Username: butterfly23

Date posted: 1y ago

Mom with harm OCD

Is anyone else here a mom with harm OCD? It makes me question everything. If I love them enough, if I really want them, it's horrible I don't wanna have these questions or doubts. I wanna be a happy mom that is sure of herself and sure of wanting her kids and the love I have for them. OCD has taken a lot from me. I even was hospitalised for it because I couldn't take it anymore. Please tell me it gets better. Is anyone in the same position?

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