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Even if you wore masculine like clothes , so what ?? So what if that’s different than most people ? It means you’re contributing to a variety and difference between people is a great thing , it’s interesting and exciting to see many different people. There’s nothing wrong with that one bit , and try to understand that there is nothing wrong with a boyish female. There’s feminine guys too and there’s nothing wrong with that either. That says more about him than you that he judged you and it just shows that he hasn’t learned to keep his mouth shut when he should and that he’s really immature.
Thank you so much! This helps a lot
Exactly, everyone is different, they shouldnt have to conform to the norms of society if they choose not to and to do what they want to, whatever happened to being yourself?
Thank you, it just kinda brings me down you know. I’m 100% aware it’s not a bad thing but I don’t want that for me you know. I don’t wear masculine clothes. I’m just not girly, sweatshirts/cropped tops and jeans is my thing and I didn’t think that’s be considered masculine but neither girlish.
Ive worn my husbands pj pants and his shirts around anywhere and i get looks, people will be people and say mean stuff, ive been called a freak in high school and a boy when i was younger by some kid. For me i don't want to do what everyone else does, like do the same hairstyle, or the same makeup or the same style. Their is nothing wrong with looking boyish, i always think that their are women bodybuilders so idk. I know how you feel with being down about that stuff because people can be mean, but i agree with @xiiiandreww that it does say more about him and that he is immature. Stay strong, you're beautiful! ?
Yeah I totally get that. Clothes are just clothes in the end and anyone who judges someone off of the clothes they wear has a serious problem they need to overcome.
And you're welcome!
I don’t know what to do man I really feel like a lesbian, ugh I just want to cry and dig myself in a hole and die in it. it won’t stoppp:/ I thought I was doing well and now I’m just thinking about guys being gross and that I like girls and I’m in a lot of pain:/ I feel the phrase pop up whenever I know I like boys like “you don’t choose who you love” and that just triggers my hocd even further I can’t:/
I'm so hopeless. I have no one to talk about this, so I come here to vent about everything that has been on my mind, haunting me daily. Since I was a little girl, I've dreamt about my prince charming. I grew up with this in mind, but I never got in a relationship, as I've kept my heart shut, as I've dealt with melancholy and social anxiety. People scared me, and I wanted to make things right (on the way I saw fit for myself). Things got better, I grew up, made some friends. And then, on January, hocd came and changed everything. The fact that I watch same sex porn, and that I have never been in a relationship messed me up so bad. And amongst many thoughts, many what ifs, so much uncertainty, one thing is rock solid. I don't see myself with a woman, it doesn't feel right. Even the idea of being bisexual feels foreign for me. I have nothing against people who are LGBT, but that's not who I've always seen myself. And suddenly, that's all I can think of. Nothing else matters, I feel uncaring and cold. I feel like I'll never find a guy that I love, that im just now finding out that I'm LGBT even if I don't want that. I feel awful, and everyday I think about dying. If this thought crossed my mind before, I'd be so appalled by it, but today I'm pretty serious about it. Hocd is killing me little by little, and I'm crying as I write this. My mind tells me I'm in denial, that I'm just afraid of people's reactions, and that once I accept it, I'll be alright. But I don't want that, I simply don't. My mind doesn't work properly, I can't remember how I used to think before all this, but I remember having dreams, imagining scenarios of my "prince charming", of a future that made me cozy and happy. All that's in my mind now is torturous doubt, that feels so real.
Today was a horrible day... I got falsely accused of racism by a random stranger the first thing in the morning. I got yelled at by people on the discord community for it. I didn’t win the draw for the shoes I wanted to make money for. The girl I like hasn’t been responding to my DM’s, and my HOCD and POCD feel so real and it makes me feel like I’m in denial constantly with the intrusive thoughts... it feels so tempting to just give up and die...
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