You guys, I’m having a really bad day. I’ve been feelings so insecure about myself lately. I feel just so bad, I don’t want to be considered boyish or anything. Especially because of this whole hocd thing. But today I was really struggling with my clothes, and I cried. Then just now a boy called me and I quote a “dyke” and that just hurt me (sorry if I offend anyone, not my intentions). But then he said “oh no a rocker girl” and idk that kinda just hurts because im so insecure and I’m going through hocd and it’s making me feel worse about how people view me this way when it just feels like I’m not any of those things. So I just really hate these past few days. I am not looking forward to waking up in the mornings anymore. I hope everyone is having a good day.

Even if you wore masculine like clothes , so what ?? So what if that’s different than most people ? It means you’re contributing to a variety and difference between people is a great thing , it’s interesting and exciting to see many different people. There’s nothing wrong with that one bit , and try to understand that there is nothing wrong with a boyish female. There’s feminine guys too and there’s nothing wrong with that either. That says more about him than you that he judged you and it just shows that he hasn’t learned to keep his mouth shut when he should and that he’s really immature.

Thank you so much! This helps a lot

Exactly, everyone is different, they shouldnt have to conform to the norms of society if they choose not to and to do what they want to, whatever happened to being yourself?

Thank you, it just kinda brings me down you know. I’m 100% aware it’s not a bad thing but I don’t want that for me you know. I don’t wear masculine clothes. I’m just not girly, sweatshirts/cropped tops and jeans is my thing and I didn’t think that’s be considered masculine but neither girlish.

Ive worn my husbands pj pants and his shirts around anywhere and i get looks, people will be people and say mean stuff, ive been called a freak in high school and a boy when i was younger by some kid. For me i don't want to do what everyone else does, like do the same hairstyle, or the same makeup or the same style. Their is nothing wrong with looking boyish, i always think that their are women bodybuilders so idk. I know how you feel with being down about that stuff because people can be mean, but i agree with @xiiiandreww that it does say more about him and that he is immature. Stay strong, you're beautiful! ?

Yeah I totally get that. Clothes are just clothes in the end and anyone who judges someone off of the clothes they wear has a serious problem they need to overcome.

And you're welcome!