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Omg I had the exact same thing. It might be both. But I feel like it’s OCD for the most part. My ROCD looked like a borderline personality disorder lmao. I feel like it’s just the feelings of love are so intense and give you a high, so that OCD decides to join and make you overly jealous/ obsessive / clingy. It turns it into something unhealthy because it makes you too dependent on another person. Unhealthily dependent. What I found helpful is to resist the urge to act upon the obsessive though on checking on my partner/sending another message/overthinking whether their comma at the end of the sentence meant something catastrophic
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Omg I literally thought I was the only person. I obsess over like where he is, what he’s doing, I text him questions marks when he hasn’t replied in a while. It’s just really annoying, not just for him but for me too. I try and explain it to him but I don’t think he understands completely. I just want him near me all the time and it’s driving insane and him. ??
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I am so glad I’m not the only one who feels like this. I honestly thought it was just me? OCD is just the worst thing in relationship, it kinda makes you not trust anyone when you actually do trust them
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Thank you much for that. I really needed someone to tell me this because I just felt so alone with this. And so annoying to my boyfriend, thank you so much❤️
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I KNOW THAT FEELING. My ex partner (we are broken up now) struggled with some mental issues, too. So I also kinda incorporated their issues into my OCD. They were overly jealous, so I developed obsessive jealousy. Checking location, last seen, blah blah blah. And I know it was just a compulsion. What if they are cheating right now. What if they’re not at work. Omg they’re not replying for ten minutes. But now looking back at it, it was compulsively done. I felt that strong urge to check and obsess. It is really fascinating how OCD can literally affect any part of your life.
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What I have learned is to always keep in the back of your mind that love doesn’t look like that. It’s respect, trust, and personal space for the both of you. It might seem like you’re in love and they’re the one (since you obsess so much), but it’s just OCD. As we have learned from struggling with OCD, if something happens, it happens. Obsessing and ritualizing never helps.
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I totally know people who don’t have OCD but are overly obsessed about their partners. But they actually abuse them and objectify them. We are just all about not hurting and stuff. I suggest you take it easy, and try to act based on your logic (Do you need to check on him every ten minutes? No. Do you still feel the urge to? Yes? It’s OCD then. We just wait for anxiety to subside and we’re still in a relationship and actually not annoying ourselves and our partner)
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- 21w
For some reason, my brain gets upset when my boyfriend hangs out with other people. I know I shouldn’t feel this way, but sometimes I can’t help it. I understand that he has a life outside of our relationship, and that’s great. He reassures me all the time, in fact, he often tells me he would rather spend time with me than with his friends. He’s a perfect partner, and I love him more than anything. However, I don’t want this to become an issue in our relationship. I know why my mind thinks this way, even though I don’t believe it to be true. My brain keeps telling me that he would rather be somewhere else than with me. Those words repeat in my head every time he’s out with friends, and I don’t know why. I want to find a solution to this obsessive and jealous thought so that I don’t ruin his time with friends. I really need help with this issue.❤️
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I’m not diagnosed with ocd but I feel like I might because I relate to a lot of the relationship posts on here I know I love my boyfriend and I know I can trust him but I get so anxious for no reason I have his location and I can go through his phone without a problem but I get so anxious about being cheated on or him leaving me and it makes me feel like a bad person because I trust him but it feels like something else is telling me like he’s doing something but I have no reason to think that and again I have his location we work at the same place and I’m with him whenever he has off so I don’t get why I do this but it feels like obsession like I stress about upsetting him because I get anxious about upsetting him because it feels like he’s gonna leave me if I do anything to upset him and he’s never done anything to make me feel like this so I don’t get why I overthink like this
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Hello, this is my second post, not too long ago i made my first, talking about a sudden come-back of my intrusive thoughts. This post will talk about another of my issues, mainly regarding ocd (obviously) and relationships. As i had said before, i had been feeling terrible and felt like i didnt deserve love, especially the love of the guy that i love. I would like to add that in prior moments we have promised eachother and he has reassured me he will never leave me, but today he was pretty much gone all day (long distance) and for the most part ive just been overthinking, all night, actually.. thinking that at any moment he will just randomly block me on everything and never talk to me again. Its now 4:03 AM, and i just feel so scared. Im scared of losing him, this is predominantly because in a past relationship things ended suddenly, my ex switched up after we had promises and everything and i am absolutely horrified of things ending the same way for me and him. I’ve been anxious, trying to take my mind off of it, but if i do, my mind tells me that if i look away, when i look back, i’ll miss it and he’ll have already blocked me. and tries to tie in earlier conversations i had throughout the day and somehow ties them back to now. (Like my bestfriend telling me she had some dream where i apologized to my friends for ‘leaving’) For the past few hours ive just been out of it. Im scared of being obsessive, Im scared of losing him, and whenever i check to see, my heart skips a beat because i thinks he’s gone. The thing is, I know this isnt the case, and I know there must be an explanation, but for some reason im still worried. and I know these thoughts arent a reflection of reality, but ive also had the idea that my thoughts can also affect what actually happens. I would also like to add that he lives in the US and is mexican, and with the increasing violent situation, my mind even starts to wander off and ask itself what if something happened to him? It makes it worse. because i can’t control it. and that makes me afraid. Im also worried about being a horrible partner, about everything failing and its all just making me feel worse. Yesterday morning I woke up feeling sort of out of it, and throughout the day i felt as if i were emotionless, which made me wonder what if i had lost emotions for him? this also happens to me sometimes. I, for some reason begin thinking like “you lost your love for him nothings gonna happen ever.” and my mind starts making up reasons why, or simply gives me this feeling of emptiness for that love, as if i have been detached from it. and then i overthink again “what if i actually dont love him but im just obsessed and thats all it is an obsession and none of it is real?” that last part, im feeling it right now. along with everything else. Im exhausted, Im tired, and i just want to be happy with him. Thank you to all those who choose to read this. thank you. ❤️ Edit: I would also like to add that ive been also dealing with the occasional regular intrusive thoughts. which dont form fully in my brain but i can still sort of, “feel” the intrusive thoughts uncomfortable themes.
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