Does anyone else overthink their boyfriend? Like I went away with mine over the weekend and I didn’t see him yesterday and I just have the need to see him like I feel really really upset and lost without him near me. But I only saw him Monday and didn’t see him yesterday. What does this mean? Am I really needy or obsessed over him?

Omg I had the exact same thing. It might be both. But I feel like it’s OCD for the most part. My ROCD looked like a borderline personality disorder lmao. I feel like it’s just the feelings of love are so intense and give you a high, so that OCD decides to join and make you overly jealous/ obsessive / clingy. It turns it into something unhealthy because it makes you too dependent on another person. Unhealthily dependent. What I found helpful is to resist the urge to act upon the obsessive though on checking on my partner/sending another message/overthinking whether their comma at the end of the sentence meant something catastrophic

Omg I literally thought I was the only person. I obsess over like where he is, what he’s doing, I text him questions marks when he hasn’t replied in a while. It’s just really annoying, not just for him but for me too. I try and explain it to him but I don’t think he understands completely. I just want him near me all the time and it’s driving insane and him. ??

I am so glad I’m not the only one who feels like this. I honestly thought it was just me? OCD is just the worst thing in relationship, it kinda makes you not trust anyone when you actually do trust them

Thank you much for that. I really needed someone to tell me this because I just felt so alone with this. And so annoying to my boyfriend, thank you so much❤️

I KNOW THAT FEELING. My ex partner (we are broken up now) struggled with some mental issues, too. So I also kinda incorporated their issues into my OCD. They were overly jealous, so I developed obsessive jealousy. Checking location, last seen, blah blah blah. And I know it was just a compulsion. What if they are cheating right now. What if they’re not at work. Omg they’re not replying for ten minutes. But now looking back at it, it was compulsively done. I felt that strong urge to check and obsess. It is really fascinating how OCD can literally affect any part of your life.

What I have learned is to always keep in the back of your mind that love doesn’t look like that. It’s respect, trust, and personal space for the both of you. It might seem like you’re in love and they’re the one (since you obsess so much), but it’s just OCD. As we have learned from struggling with OCD, if something happens, it happens. Obsessing and ritualizing never helps.

I totally know people who don’t have OCD but are overly obsessed about their partners. But they actually abuse them and objectify them. We are just all about not hurting and stuff. I suggest you take it easy, and try to act based on your logic (Do you need to check on him every ten minutes? No. Do you still feel the urge to? Yes? It’s OCD then. We just wait for anxiety to subside and we’re still in a relationship and actually not annoying ourselves and our partner)