boyfriend again

Hi!! If there’s anything I learned from my previous relationship, never lower your expectations for someone else to meet them. Chances are, he’s causing your anxiety. My ex cheated on me, manipulated me, gaslit me, etc. All of the things. I’m constantly looking for reassurance in my current relationship and he happily gives it to me. But also, perfection doesn’t exist! We’re all perfectly imperfect! And don’t rush love. It’ll happen when it happens. Im sorry it bothers him to give you reassurance! It bothered my ex too. Keep trying to communicate with him, but also, don’t stress yourself out trying to make it work. At some point, it’s not worth it!! I hope you have an amazing day!!❤️

Hi! I’m so sorry to hear you’re struggling with this so much. One of the biggest things you can do is communicate those concerns with your bf. Maybe there are some underlying issues that need to be discussed. I know there are a lot of people out there who struggle with relationships due to different fears and relationship anxiety, and it can bring up all kinds of doubts, making it difficult to fully express love. I struggle with what I can only hope is ROCD and I feel terrible because it makes me constantly question my love for my partner, I feel a lot of doubt and I struggle to express my love to him sometimes because I’m constantly worried that I’m lying to myself or to him. That’s not to say that your bf is definitely experiencing this, but it is to say that there could very well be some deeper things that need to be discussed. Clear communication is key! And I would also encourage you to avoid excessive reassurance seeking if you know that it is one of your compulsions (not saying that it is, just encouraging you to not give in to compulsions, whatever they may be 😊) I wish you all the best!