CPTSD and OCD

I am terrified of posting this but am doing it as part of an exposure. This post will contain mentions of grooming, csa, pedophilia, zoophilia, incest, rape, porn, and chronic guilt. I got my first computer when I was around six years old. This was the late 2000s and my parents were pretty old when they had me so I had basically no restrictions. It basically put a huge target on my head. Over the years I was groomed a lot into thinking things like pedophilia and zoophilia were okay, i dated a guy who was 18-19 when i was 9, i saw a lot of horrific porn that I am ashamed to have seen. For a long while I looked at anime porn of things like incest, rape, beastiality, etc. I finally stopped when I was around 16 but the guilt and fear I feel over it is eating me alive. I grew up in a school system that told me 14-17 is a “young adult” and so I feel like I should have known better. I also owned a fantasy werewolf/furry dildo but threw it out a while ago because I felt so much guilt. I feel no attraction to kids or animals but if I see one I get intrusive thoughts and images which heavily distress me. I am so scared of turning into a pedophile or zoophile because of what I used to look at as a kid. I know rationally that kids and teens are weird and curious, and that being groomed wasn’t my fault. But I can’t move on or forgive myself. My OCD latches onto anything it can get its hands on but this has by far been the worst. It has made me completely abstain from anything sexual out of fear and I hate myself daily because of what I’ve seen. I am currently working with an OCD therapist and a trauma therapist. They have helped a lot but I still feel so alone in this.

Jesse1982

Date posted: 1y

Sorry you feel that way, I have pocd and hocd I understand the past and the present can make you feel really guilty. But you feel guilt because you're a good person. I'm trying to forgive myself for my mistakes you should too.

regretfulrain

Date posted: 1y

@Jesse1982 Thank you so much. I am working on forgiveness and it has been a tough journey for sure.

Lulu~

Date posted: 23w

False memories + real events (TW: POCD)

Hello 😭, so uhm I’m kind of in the point of my POCD where I’m just tired. I just need to get it all out and get some sort of instruction of how to just idk live? So for me my childhood is pretty blurry. I have a few real event blended with false memory events there but other than that I’m a csa victim. And the way I tried to cope? By fetishising nyself, making CP of myself, seeing my life goal as being used, raped and a prostitue. Self destructive behaviour through talking to pedophiles and seeing my only worth as if I was sexually attractive. Which made me kind of numb to CP as a coping mechanism I guess. And heres’s where my main event of REOCD/false memory ocd comes in. I have a few events in my life when I’ve accidentally stumbled across CP ish mangas or just plan abuse and not had a big reaction. Some of them I even liked the story. And my ocd LOVES playing with it, making me truly believe I enjoy and get of from CP. I’ve also had quite a few dreams. A few days ago I had a dream about me getting triggered by something I did in the dream. Which I now can’t figure out if it actually was a dream. But also moments overall where I’ve unintentionally touched my private part while my siblings are in the room or when I found a guy 2 years younger than me pretty in 4th grade. Or a few of my only friends who turned out to be younger than me, and I had talked about sexual things (like fan fictions, my trauma ect) with them. AHSHB I absolutely hate ruminating and I’m tired so so so so so so tried 😭 idk help me? Please TT

POCD

danielllll

Date posted: 22w

Feeling extremely guilty and don’t know what to do

I think I know what honestly is what caused my OCD. I’ve never told anyone this but I have to if I want help. When I was either 10 or 11, I think 10 I was at my family’s thanksgiving dinner. Around this time I discovered porn and got addicted. I would watch porn and read erotica. Because of this I guess I wanted to experiment. I feel absolutely horrible just thinking about this but I was playing around with my little cousin, he was around 7 I think and I remember we were playing chase or hide and seek, and I grabbed him and hugged him (something I never done before), and got a boner. I did this for pleasure. That’s all I did that was sexual but I feel so horrible. I try to give myself grace as I was only 10 and didn’t know the consequences of something so disgusting. I keep thinking “what if I went farther and hurt him?”. I talk to him sometimes and he seems comfortable with me and I think he doesn’t even remember this ever happened and just thought I hugged him for some reason all those years ago. I am NOT attracted to him at all but I think this incident and remembering it when I was 14 has caused my OCD such as POCD for all these years. I am 18 now but I feel absolutely horrible. And now it’s even worse because I have been invited to his 15th birthday party in Mexico. I’m traveling all the way to another country just to be near him! Obviously I know I won’t touch him or be innopropriate with him. But what if he has felt uncomfortable with me all this time? He seems fine with me and not uncomfortable around me but still. If I feel as if I go to this trip, I am a horrible person. I don’t know what to do. Am I a horrible person for what I did and continuing to be around him? I remember reading Reddit and Quora stories of similar people who felt horrible and people told them to not feel bad as they were only children and they learned and now know that was wrong and that to not tell anyone as it could only make things extremely awkward.Please help. I know COCSA is a very serious topic that harms people and I feel like a horrible perpetrator now.

Anonymous

Date posted: 22w

Real event false memory ruining enjoyment guilt

Hi everyone, I'm struggling with what I think are intrusive thoughts, possibly related to OCD, and I'm hoping someone here might relate. When I was younger, in my early teens, I went through a period where I had a strong interest in pornography. During that time, I encountered hentai involving male characters, related to an anime I enjoyed. One of the characters was someone I even looked up to. I feel incredibly uncomfortable admitting this, but I believe I engaged in sexual activity related to it. Years later, I'm plagued by intrusive thoughts about this. I feel intense self-disgust and shame. It's like this memory has "tainted" my ability to enjoy that anime, and sometimes other things. I'm constantly replaying the situation in my mind, questioning my past actions, and worrying about what it means about me. The anxiety is significantly impacting my life. Does anyone else experience intrusive thoughts focused on past events, particularly those that cause feelings of shame or disgust? How do you cope with the constant replaying and questioning? I'm looking for support and understanding. Thank you for listening.

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