i think I'm developing relationship OCD. i keep feeling like I don't want to look at my partner because I'm worried I won't be attracted to him. so many people online say that if you don't feel physically attracted you have to break up. i think that's going to happen. please don't reassure me even though my head's saying this might be real and not OCD. i want to always treat it like it's OCD
Def OCD I have the same with my partner. Although reddit and stuff can be helpful those answers aren't really meant for more complicated situations or relationships particularly for troubles where a partner experiences relationship anxiety, those online people's advice made on general forums doesn't really work because they've typically never dealt with anxiety or OCD or understand it. Best of luck
thank you. I'm doing my best to redirect myself and continue on as normal and it seems like everything's fine when I'm not ruminating. hopefully catching this early will keep it from getting worse
From my personal experience I would highly advise against going online for answers! I know that’s hard to do sometimes and I REALLY struggle with not doing it. But I’ve learned that there are billions of people in the world, and each one of them has a different experience and definition of what love is to them. Love is not experienced and expressed the same way for every single person. Everyone has a different idea of what love is, and trying to get answers from strangers online will only lead to more questions and confusion and doubt. Keep pushing! You can get through this 😊
i'm scared I don't have OCD, I used to be 50/50 about it but now I just keep doubting I do. The reason i'm scared is because I can't feel anything for my girlfriend anymore, sometimes I do and want to love up on her but other times I just feel unnatracted to her and don't feel anything for her. This is taking a tole on the both of us, she cries alot because she knows what i'm going through but it's also hurting her. I also sometimes (not very often) think about breaking up with her or being with someone else and it scares me because I want to love her and only her and only be with her. I'm afraid I should break up with her but I really don't want to. Whenever she compliments me I get uncomfortable, sometimes whenever she says I love you I hesitate to say it because I feel kind of guilty and I can't really feel anything. She picks up on all of these things which makes it even harder to really hide. i know I shouldn't hide it but she's the crying type and I upset her too much already with all of this. Someone please tell me they can relate or that it's OCD, can someone please help me?
My relationship OCD has been severe lately and with seemingly no trigger to cause this flare up. I am constantly anxious, doubtful and panicked that I don't love my partner, overanalyzing whether or not I'm attracted to him, and ruminating on the numbness I feel when we are together. Every idea I can come up with to test and check to see if there's that love feeling, that attraction or interest/excitement in doing things together feels invalid, like it won't work. I get triggered further when my partner asks me if I'm okay, and that wave of panic comes back. I can't tell if this is OCD, or if it's my gut telling me it's not a relationship I should stay in. We've been together for five years, I'm not in OCD therapy, and I've been off meds for four months now.
It has completely switched to me being scared I don’t want to be with him. I’ve been struggling for days. I’ve been googling stuff all day too. And then my friend asked me “do you actually like him?” And it’s been stuck in my head. And then I answered yes but my head was like do you really though? Can it really convince you that you don’t and that you’re lying to yourself? And can you feel like you’re lying to them about it all? It makes me feel sick. And then my friend said “I think you’re just second guessing things because you’ve never been in a healthy relationship” my mind keeps going to “what if you really are not mean to be together? You know deep down. What if you’re having all these thoughts because you just aren’t mean to be?” And I don’t have like insane butterflies or infatuation with him like I did my previous partners, but they were so abusive and toxic. Im so terrified my mind will convince me to break up with him and I don’t want to 😞
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