All people have thoughts like that

Hi, its so frustrating to experience how people try to comfort me when I choose to be open(after 28 years without saying anything), it feels good to share and explain what ocd is and how it works for me. Often I realize how difficult it is for others to grasp and how common it is that people say: oh! All people have thoughts like that, or they say, it's just a matter of thinking positive. I understand they try to comfort and encourage but its creating a desperate feeling inside me that I will never manage to reach a way of telling about ocd that will make people really listen and understand.

Wolfram

Date posted: 1y

It is hard for someone without ocd to understand. Our brains relate to these thoughts differently compared to them. They will most likely never know. The information and education needs to be articulated in a way that they understand. The way I get people to understand is that the initial intrusive thoughts conflict with out own personal core values so violently that our brain identifies it as a threat. Your brain will then run fire drills to check if that threat is a problem, especially when stressed. Brains don't know the difference between perceived and real threats. So when you try to resist a compulsion, your brain will pump out the same fear responses compared to someone free falling from a plan without a parachute or coming face to face with a real life dragon. You will feel the same level of fear and when you feel that, you will want to do the compulsion or anything you can to get rid of it. People say we do compulsions or something bad will happen, I think the feelings come first then thoughts attach to them. Your brain fills in a gap to make sense of it. Every time I've explained this to people , they seem to understand what ocd is but still can't relate fortunately for them. Hope this helps 👍

Cathrine

Date posted: 1y

So nice to read your respons. Thank you!

Cathrine

Date posted: 1y

Thank you so much for your understanding! I will check out the unstuck tool!

flyana

Date posted: 20w

My mom keeps getting mad at me for obsessing

Listen, I totally get it. It’s hard to hear a loved one obsessing over small, insignificant things. My mom tries to be supportive, but she gets so mad when I tell her what’s on my mind, and she just yells at me and says I’m crazy for thinking like this. So, I just sent her this, and I hope it helps: Mom, I know it’s really hard, but when I’m suffering with OCD thoughts, all I need is sympathy. Getting mad at someone for having OCD is like getting mad at someone for having a head injury. Please understand that I can’t help it, or else I would stop it. I need someone to say, “I’m so sorry that’s bothering you this much. It must be so overwhelming. It must be so hard to cope with this.” You could even ask me questions, like “What does it feel like? How much are you thinking about this? What helps you feel better?” I just need someone to validate my experience and sympathize, not tell me that I’m crazy or say my problems aren’t real. I’m aware these thoughts are crazy — that’s why I feel so alone and sad and scared. When you tell me my thoughts are crazy, it makes me feel even more like a freak. Sometimes, I just need someone to hold my hand and tell me I’m not alone.

Anonymous

Date posted: 13w

A quick Vent here

I'm sry if this may make people worry or feel uncomfortable in advance! Hello everyone as u can see I struggle with ocd and I HATE IT WITH MY LIFE , it started in 2020 covid obv contamination ocd started here , I used to carry alcohol everywhere and used to wash my hands so much that it bled ( had to wear gloves to cover it so friends or family won't see it ) and everything else started since then , harm ocd with myself or friends I couldn't hold a knife..it was really hard..and I have unwanted sexual thoughts ocd , I have panic attacks bc of this..I sometimes cannot look people into their eyes and its so random and so scary..thoughts about.. 🍇..whether it's me or I'm gonna harm someone else uk..I sometimes cannot function properly.. unfortunately friends don't understand it rather think it's about " perfectionism "..I wrote those thoughts and stuff in a journal in more details ofc and doodle ( I'm scared someone will find it ) I hate myself tbh and I don't think someone will read this... I suspect I have ADHD with all this but ocd is " ur faking it " even though lots of people have hinted about it , I thought I actually killed someone for 2 years a girl..until I realized what HOCD is , I thought I faked my ocd too in fact , I have perfectionism ocd too it's bad and I HATE PURE O it's so DRAINING uk.. also idk if this has caused a problem for anyone but if y'all know the Truman show ( basically if u don't know the main character is being filmed and his life is fake and he doesn't know it ) THAT MOVIE HAS HARMED ME SO BADLY FOR YEARS that until today I have to check in the bathroom if there are cameras cuz like ocd makes me think I'm living in a fake world , I used to think people around me , everyone was like a Ai model or smth.. everytime until today I have to clean the toilet seat bc it may be dirty..I have been taking up to 5 showers a day cuz maybe I'm dirty..that's it for today tysm if u read this till the end I'd like to know ur thoughts if u got tips or have similar experiences ! 🤗 U get a chocolate bar 🍫 bc u earned it bc ik how ocd is so frustrating ( I also noticed everyone who has ocd is so nice right 😆! )

024lifeislove

Date posted: 13w

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When I hear the others might think that they could also have ocd when I tell them I could have it or they want to say they have it after I’ve got diagnosed with, without knowing how I feel it is like why do I always have to have something and then they say they also might have it are they supporting, joking or what?

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