I can't get this person out of my head help me

I KNOW I AM NOT ATTRACTED. I just met that person in the middle of my So - ocd flare up and it has messed me up badly, they caught my attention because they were VERY weird and acted weirdly too. I was talking to them and out of nowhere a thought popped: "What if you just met your soulmate?" that immediately made me feel sick and disgusted, because I didn't even want to be friends with them. It's been so hard since that happened and bow everything triggers an intrusive thought about that person, I genuinely don't want to do anything to that person, not even approach them ever again. I must say this has happened with more people, not just with this specific person, but I can assure this one has been the one that has affected me the most. I need help, what do I do? I feel so bad and disgusted, I love my boyfriend with my whole heart and I feel like I'm betraying him. I feel very, very guilty.

Sexual Orientation OCD

Username: ivrecivrec

Date posted: 23w ago

Just when these thoughts come into your head recognize them as an OCD symptom that has no reflection of your values. Focus on what is TRUE and what you know for sure. You are not attracted to this person. Allow any feelings of anxiety come and go. Then go about your day. I hope this helps. The false guilt is a symptom of OCD. Recognize it as that.

Username: аliеиаliеи

Date posted: 23w ago

It's hard, I always try to but it stays

Username: ivrecivrec

Date posted: 23w ago

@аliеи Usually when you start not accepting those OCD thoughts as important they may get worse in the beginning. Your brain is used to reacting in a way that over thinks those thoughts as important. It is hard and takes time. Try as best as you can to “not care” that they stick around. Just remember that guilt that comes with OCD is just another trick it uses to dwell in those false thoughts. Hang in there and give yourself credit for any victories that come.

Username: аliеиаliеи

Date posted: 23w ago

@ivrec Okay, thank you so much for the advice :)

Username: ChibeeChibee

Date posted: 23w ago

I’m going through this as well with a bunch of my coworkers.😅 My intrusive thoughts have been nasty as well, I’ve been horrified by the sentences I’ve uttered in my head. The worst part is the cycle of guilt and obsession—-because you obsess over that guilty thought it only makes you fixate on the person more! Every second spent on guiltily ruminating over what happened is another minute that that stranger stays in your brain! Remember that!!

Username: аliеиаliеи

Date posted: 23w ago

Thank you so much for commenting, I'll have that in mind :)

Username: tasha123

Date posted: 5y ago

Anyone else fear falling out of love with your partner and falling in love with someone else you know of? My ocd convinces me this other guy I go to university with is ‘the one’ and creates false memories! It’s the worst feeling ever i feel so much guilt and don’t feel happy and loving when I’m around my boyfriend anymore :( I don’t want to be with anyone else but my boyfriend I just wish I was happy with him and never had these thoughts in the first place.

Relationship OCD

Username: Youcanheal

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

Relationship OCD

Has anyone ever had an intrusive thought that they have a crush on someone else while they’re in a relationship? I had an intrusive thought about one of my co-workers who is female. I don’t believe I am even gay but for a moment I had a small panic attack that I had a crush on her. I know I love my boyfriend and want to be with him but now I feel like I betrayed him by thinking about someone else like that even though it was an accident. I know I can’t say anything to him about it because I’m pretty sure the crush isn’t real and it would just make things weird between him and I. Anyone have any suggestions or can relate to this?

Relationship OCD

Username: pengunaranja

Date posted: 42w ago

Im SO confused

Thing is that i'm OBSESSED with a girl, i think about her all day and i hate this, i love My boyfriend, but she appears everywere and un everything, Even in unrelated things, She's a classmate and it's the third time i have an HOCD obsession with her, it makes me think and tried to make me believe im really in love with her, to also make me think i'm gay and makes me feel as if i don't want to be with my bf anymore, when i really love him and this actually started when i was scared of my bf falling in love with her.. i don't know what to do anymore, because Even if i Say i don't like her, it feels as if i'm lying, and also feels that i don't like My bf anymore which makes it Even MORE real, is this OCD? It feels like denial, but after the first 2 OCD obsessions with her i kept going with my normal life and loved My bf normally (Even tho i still had HOCD), pls answer:( i'm not gay, also, it came back because she cut her hair and now uses glasses, which i thought she looked cute or good in, but was scared of my boyfriend liking her, then it turned into, what if i liked her to directly thinking i'm in love with her (which i'm not and saying that made me anxious)..PLD READ I NEED ANSWERD :(

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