Cheating OCD/ROCD

Does anyone else get ROCD thoughts surrounding possibly cheating on your partner? Mine focuses on other interactions with men other than my partner that may have been cheating. Even from years ago. And then i get the strong urge to confess to my partner even thought it’s almost embarrassing because these situations aren’t considered cheating by definition. Sometimes, I obsess on interactions that “could have” led to me cheating. Does anyone else experience this? I’m recently engaged, and it’s flared up since then. I’d love to know if anyone else deals with this and/or has any advice. Thanks!

Username: Dalia H.Dalia H.

Date posted: 26w ago

Yes yes yes!! Recovered from a really horrific and devastating bout of this exact theme 6 months ago and currently going through another one. It’s terrible because each time it comes back, it gets more and more ridiculous. At first, I was certain that I had never physically cheated but I was worried I might have accidentally emotionally cheated or flirted online. Now I’m having a bad episode where I am convinced that I physically cheated on him a year and a half ago with a mutual friend. There are countless logical indicators that this did NOT happen, but my mind is convinced that because I can easily imagine it, it must be true.

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 21w ago

@Dalia H. Did you overcome it? I’m struggling with something very similar and wondering for any advice

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 25w ago

Literally exactly this right now. I’m struggling myself with this same thing and also have a big life event triggering the flare up. Haven’t truly mastered this one (meeting with my therapist this week to strategize) but want you to know you’re not alone in what you’re experiencing ❤️

Username: Ella1212

Date posted: 2y ago

ROCD

Plz only respond with positive advice or thoughts. Last time I posted someone responded with a bad thought and it made everything worse. I have ROCD and I am absolutely terrified that I might cheat or doing something that’s cheating. Like everything is either bad or good. It’s all just black and white. I’ve never slept with anyone, given my number out, kissed anyone, texted anyone or secretly been seeing anyone. I freak out over things like making eye contacts with a guy and I notice he thinks I’m pretty (which feels good cuz I struggle with insecurities) and I make eye contact for too long, but the entire time I have no intentions of doing any with this guy and I’m very prepared to tell him I have a boyfriend if he comes over and telling him to leave. Anyways, that’s an example of the small things I tend to obsess over and just wondering if anyone worries about the same thing and any positive advice you could give before I go insane.

Relationship OCD

Username: LivingInMyHead

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y ago

Cheating OCD and False Memory

Does anyone have any recommendations of how to fight back cheating ocd / false memory rumination? I’m continuously ruminating over past experiences/events (struggling with false memory ocd too) and whether I acted inappropriately or did something bad. All revolves around cheating and feeling guilty that I did something wrong and don’t remember it or twisting up the story in my head. This rumination has been nagging me for months!! I have a very outgoing and bubbly personality and get worried if I come off as flirting to other men when I’m really just being myself and not trying to flirt. For context, I’ve been in a relationship with my partner for over 4.5 years and we recently got engaged. I love him so much and just don’t want to do anything wrong to jeopardize our relationship.

Username: TT2022

Date posted: 1y ago

ROCD? Cheating OCD?

Is it normal to find someone else attractive. When I get this thought or feeling.. whatever it is.. I feel as though I’m about to act on something. Or I guess my fear is that I WANT to act on something even though I know I don’t want to because I love my partner and family and I don’t want to jeopardize it. But I still get this urge when I find someone attractive and so my best idea is to avoid them. Does this happen to anyone else in a long term relationship/married? It makes me feel horrible and I hate having to confess this.

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