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Real Event
Hi it’s been a while since I’ve been on here but to those who has real event, have any of you confronted the person about it since they were like involved?
Hi it’s been a while since I’ve been on here but to those who has real event, have any of you confronted the person about it since they were like involved?
I’m struggling with this at the moment. I really really want to message the person involved and ask them to reassure me that this event DID NOT happen. However, I am finding some relief in the realization that I can’t do this because I know how weirded out they would be because they wouldn’t know what I was talking about at all. Which proves to me that nothing happened
My therapist told me If you know them still, and you think it wouldn’t hurt them more to reach out or cause issue then it’s good to reach out but realize that you only get that once to reach out, you can’t keep reaching out. I am not reaching out to my person bc I don’t want her to try and call the cops (i don’t live in her state or near her) I don’t know if she’s ever thought of this event ever again, I hope that if she had she would contact me bc I can’t stand the thought of ruining her life, and it could do more harm bc I haven’t seen her in like 8 years maybe longer and we haven’t talked or been friends since then either
@Justmesadly It’s just that I confronted them with it but I didn’t say anything about it cause I said it was best to call. I’m worried he’ll bring it up cause we’ll be calling in a bit
@Justmesadly Hey I’m curious about this perspective. In my case I am absolutely terrified that I made out with someone a year and a half ago. I am scared I cheated on my partner. I KNOW that the chances that this happened are extremely low but it has not left my brain for the past 3 weeks and I feel a significant level of anxiety. This person is still kinda in my social circle and part of me desperately wants to message him and just confirm nothing happened and just put my mind at ease. He isn’t really a close friend at all and he barely talks to the people who matter in my life. He has also had mental health issues that others have been aware of. I’m wondering how bad of an idea it would be to just shoot him a text quickly explaining my OCD and quickly asking to confirm that nothing happened
@Dalia H. since it’s false memory OCD it sounds like, I recommend not reaching out. You have to learn to let it pass without seeking reassurance and without compulsions
*Trigger Warning: Work, Mistake, Harm, Real Event* Afraid to post this… One of the worst theme I've ever had is the fact that I made a mistake at work many years ago and will not be able to find out if anyone was harmed. My brain takes the worst-case scenario as reality (which is so painful), and researching has only led to more panic. I have been thinking about this incident for about a year now and am filled with fear and guilt. Is there anyone here with similar experiences or tips that could help? I would be grateful for any response...
just wanted to see if others struggle with real event ocd really kicking their a**. i feel like my mind is a constant battleground of every mistake ive made and they feel so huge and life altering to me that it’s hard to continue going on in their wake. just wondering if anyone else feels this way too.
Hey everyone — I just want to say upfront that as someone who actively deals with real events OCD, most of the posts I share here are going to come straight from my personal experience. Just real & lived reality. Because I know how lonely this type of OCD can feel, and if there’s even one person out there who reads my words and feels less alone — then it’s worth sharing every piece of it. Now… let’s talk about the kind of OCD that doesn’t get enough attention. The kind that doesn’t just whisper scary things — it reminds you of real ones. Real Events OCD. This isn’t about bizarre or outta nowhere intrusive thoughts. This is the kind that takes real things you’ve done — whether it was a genuine mistake, a cringey moment, a bad decision, or even something you already made peace with — and it replays them on a loop like a horror film in your head. It’s the constant questioning: “Am I actually a good person?” “Was that actually wrong and I just didn’t realize it?” “What if I’ve hurt someone and don’t deserve to be okay?” And it’s exhausting. I’ve had moments where I can’t focus, can’t sleep, can’t breathe because my brain pulls up something from years ago and convinces me I’m evil, dangerous, unforgivable. I can be having a good day, laughing with people I love, and boom — my mind hits me with “Remember this? You should feel horrible about it forever.” Even if I’ve apologized. Even if I’ve changed. Even if I’ve done the work. Real Events OCD doesn’t care. It thrives off your guilt. It uses your conscience against you. And when you’re young — still figuring out who you are, still healing — it makes you question whether you even deserve to move forward. That’s what’s so cruel about it. It doesn’t just make you anxious. It makes you feel like you’re a danger to the people you love. That you’re secretly the villain in your own story. But let me tell you something I’ve been learning — slowly, painfully, but honestly.. You are not your past. You are not your worst mistake. And you are not the voice in your head trying to punish you forever. You’re a person with a heart. A person who cares. And that’s exactly why OCD picked this flavor to mess with you. ERP is SOO helping. So is community. But the biggest help? Giving myself permission to stop chasing reassurance and start living again. I do not have to confess, over and over, for the rest of my life. I do not have to torture myself to prove I’m good. I can grow — and growing is enough. So if you’re reading this and you know exactly what I’m talking about… I see you. I am you. Let’s keep showing up. Let’s keep living. Let’s keep healing — even when OCD tells us we don’t deserve to. You do. I do. We all do.
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