letme_go
- Date posted
- 1y
Real Event
Hi it’s been a while since I’ve been on here but to those who has real event, have any of you confronted the person about it since they were like involved?
Dalia H.Dalia H.
- Date posted
- 1y
I’m struggling with this at the moment. I really really want to message the person involved and ask them to reassure me that this event DID NOT happen. However, I am finding some relief in the realization that I can’t do this because I know how weirded out they would be because they wouldn’t know what I was talking about at all. Which proves to me that nothing happened
JustmesadlyJustmesadly
- Date posted
- 1y
My therapist told me If you know them still, and you think it wouldn’t hurt them more to reach out or cause issue then it’s good to reach out but realize that you only get that once to reach out, you can’t keep reaching out. I am not reaching out to my person bc I don’t want her to try and call the cops (i don’t live in her state or near her) I don’t know if she’s ever thought of this event ever again, I hope that if she had she would contact me bc I can’t stand the thought of ruining her life, and it could do more harm bc I haven’t seen her in like 8 years maybe longer and we haven’t talked or been friends since then either
letme_goletme_go
- Date posted
- 1y
@Justmesadly It’s just that I confronted them with it but I didn’t say anything about it cause I said it was best to call. I’m worried he’ll bring it up cause we’ll be calling in a bit
Dalia H.Dalia H.
- Date posted
- 1y
@Justmesadly Hey I’m curious about this perspective. In my case I am absolutely terrified that I made out with someone a year and a half ago. I am scared I cheated on my partner. I KNOW that the chances that this happened are extremely low but it has not left my brain for the past 3 weeks and I feel a significant level of anxiety. This person is still kinda in my social circle and part of me desperately wants to message him and just confirm nothing happened and just put my mind at ease. He isn’t really a close friend at all and he barely talks to the people who matter in my life. He has also had mental health issues that others have been aware of. I’m wondering how bad of an idea it would be to just shoot him a text quickly explaining my OCD and quickly asking to confirm that nothing happened
JustmesadlyJustmesadly
- Date posted
- 1y
@Dalia H. since it’s false memory OCD it sounds like, I recommend not reaching out. You have to learn to let it pass without seeking reassurance and without compulsions
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- Date posted
- 16w
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- Date posted
- 8w
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