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Real Event
Hi it’s been a while since I’ve been on here but to those who has real event, have any of you confronted the person about it since they were like involved?
Hi it’s been a while since I’ve been on here but to those who has real event, have any of you confronted the person about it since they were like involved?
I’m struggling with this at the moment. I really really want to message the person involved and ask them to reassure me that this event DID NOT happen. However, I am finding some relief in the realization that I can’t do this because I know how weirded out they would be because they wouldn’t know what I was talking about at all. Which proves to me that nothing happened
My therapist told me If you know them still, and you think it wouldn’t hurt them more to reach out or cause issue then it’s good to reach out but realize that you only get that once to reach out, you can’t keep reaching out. I am not reaching out to my person bc I don’t want her to try and call the cops (i don’t live in her state or near her) I don’t know if she’s ever thought of this event ever again, I hope that if she had she would contact me bc I can’t stand the thought of ruining her life, and it could do more harm bc I haven’t seen her in like 8 years maybe longer and we haven’t talked or been friends since then either
@Justmesadly It’s just that I confronted them with it but I didn’t say anything about it cause I said it was best to call. I’m worried he’ll bring it up cause we’ll be calling in a bit
@Justmesadly Hey I’m curious about this perspective. In my case I am absolutely terrified that I made out with someone a year and a half ago. I am scared I cheated on my partner. I KNOW that the chances that this happened are extremely low but it has not left my brain for the past 3 weeks and I feel a significant level of anxiety. This person is still kinda in my social circle and part of me desperately wants to message him and just confirm nothing happened and just put my mind at ease. He isn’t really a close friend at all and he barely talks to the people who matter in my life. He has also had mental health issues that others have been aware of. I’m wondering how bad of an idea it would be to just shoot him a text quickly explaining my OCD and quickly asking to confirm that nothing happened
@Dalia H. since it’s false memory OCD it sounds like, I recommend not reaching out. You have to learn to let it pass without seeking reassurance and without compulsions
Does anyone have harm OCD related to recent events? Like events that just happened or happened not long ago? I feel like my OCD is trying to find something bad/immoral I could have done in nearly every situation that I am experiencing, for example “Did you just do that?”. And I constantly want to check, ask people for reassurance, try to find a logic answer by going it though in my head,… It’s many different themes but all related to doing sth bad/immoral (e.g., touching someone inappropriately, pushing someone in front of a vehicle, putting something in a drink/food). Does anyone have the same? Or the other thing that I experienced recently is that I did something (a rather unimportant action, not harming anyone) and I go over and over it and ask myself “why did you do that? What does that say about you? Are you actually a weird person?” It feels like I draw “false conclusions” from a real event… I don’t know if that’s OCD though or not. Just wondering if anyone has experienced the same. Good luck to you all! We’re not alone in this! 😊
Hi there I talk about religion (but I'm not trying to force it down anyone's throat) So my main event (which is the one that truly bothers me) happened in 2015 when I was 14. I won't go into any details or anything. I will say that it got so bad once that I almost committed something detrimental to my health earlier this year. Not long after that I spoke to a doctor and basically confessed what's been happening to my brain and my mistakes, he mentioned things that really resonated with me, I'll paraphrase a bit: "Okay, so what you did was not good but it's not something to condemn yourself for. It falls into the grey area, you've apologized and have been forgiven (even though I apologized over text, which comes across cowardly)but it seems that you haven't forgiven yourself. There's a whole lot of difference between you at 14 and you at 23. Try to have some perspective." This really helped and it still does, but unfortunately ocd tries to find a way around this. I'll get a thought of "oh but you forgot to mention that other part of the event" and it magnifies it. Can anyone relate? I've done everything but fully move on because I sometimes feel like I don't deserve to move on. And I'm still worried over the future.
I’m at a loss.. me and my ex girlfriend of 5 years (subject of the real event) broke up a couple months ago. The problem is, we met at work when I was 19 and she was 17. We started flirting while I was 19 and she was 17 and then I turned 20 as we were going on dates while she was still 17. We started our relationship while she was 17.5 and I had just turned 20. There was a whole 6 month period while there was this age gap and now I feel as though if any new partner I have in the future finds out, they will be disgusted and leave/reject me. I don’t know what to do. I feel as though my future is ruined and that I will never find true love again due to this age gap thing. I’m 25 now and would not date anyone younger than 22 so I know im into the appropriate age range for my age, yet I’m so shameful and guilt ridden..
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