Relationship ocd

Me and my bf r completely the opposite he’s always going out with friends and busy with work doing stuff and im always at home doing nothing and sometimes since he’s so busy he cant answer the phone I get so many random scenarios of him just cheating on me and just doing awful things that I know he wouldn’t do and has reassured me about and I believe it but I keep getting these thoughts when he doesn’t reply and it makes me so anxious and I don’t wanna sound crazy by bringing it up because I do trust him when it comes down to it it’s just intrusive thoughts that keep telling me he’s doing these things

Young adults with OCD

Justagirla

Date posted: 1y

I’m so sorry that you’re dealing with this. Remember, OCD is against you and your values. It will always latch onto your biggest fears. It will always make you second guess your self. It will always make you doubt yourself. You know the truth: your boyfriend loves you and he would never cheat on you. He has reassured you of that. Your OCD will always come up with the worst things possible, even when there is no evidence to prove that it is true. Please try your best not to let your OCD cause you to doubt your boyfriend’s loyalty. Your relationship is so much bigger than these intrusive thoughts. Remember, intrusive thoughts have no meaning and they’re egodystonic. They’re merely thoughts, nothing else.

fcknsav

Date posted: 1y

@Justagirla Thank you :) I try to remember that because I know he’d never do anything like that it’s just the thoughts that really really get to me he’s the sweetest person I’ve ever met and is really good to me but it just is hard to not let those thoughts get in my head

Justagirla

Date posted: 1y

@fcknsav Yea I know how overwhelming these thoughts can be. It’s like you know it’s just your OCD, but that’s not enough to make you not worry. I’ve learned to let the thoughts float and sit with the anxiety without reacting to the thoughts or ruminating or anything. I hope this gets easier for you

JazzyRoses

Date posted: 19w

Being Cheated On OCD

Hi everyone! I have been having a rough time. So my boyfriend talks to his ex still as friends and I’ve been struggling with it lately and I can’t tell if it’s OCD or not but it does feel so distressing. She wasn’t texting him for about 2-3 months as she got into a relationship with this guy and they broke up. She had messaged him saying that she has no one else to talk to and needed to vent to someone. At first I felt okay, but my intrusive thoughts took over and it seemed like she was trying to get with him after the fact. It’s probably just my intrusive thoughts talking but he looks on Discord (the app where the message) constantly now and my intrusive thoughts convince me that he’s still in love with her. Then yesterday I saw one of his BeReals (a little photo app that shows a photo of the day) and I saw that he was watching one of her streams as she is a streamer. I struggled to talk about it because it made my worst thought feel like it came true where he is still in love with her. When we talked he gets a lil mad that I don’t tell him right away like straight up what I’m feeling but it’s hard to process because my thoughts flood in of all the worst things and I don’t want to come off as toxic at all and I know relationships are built on trust and I want to trust because this is literally the only thing that makes me nervous about him. It also doesn’t help that I’ve been cheated on before so I’m trying to protect myself but I’m lost. I get so depressed and so anxious because I feel like I have to grieve the relationship and it’s just so dramatic. I’ve never loved anyone like this before and I don’t wanna lose him by bringing this stuff up constantly when something occurs with his ex. I don’t know why I get triggered so easily and I just wanna heal from it and be the good girlfriend I’m supposed to be 😭

cambriar72

Date posted: 12w

Is it rocd or just overthinking

I’m not diagnosed with ocd but I feel like I might because I relate to a lot of the relationship posts on here I know I love my boyfriend and I know I can trust him but I get so anxious for no reason I have his location and I can go through his phone without a problem but I get so anxious about being cheated on or him leaving me and it makes me feel like a bad person because I trust him but it feels like something else is telling me like he’s doing something but I have no reason to think that and again I have his location we work at the same place and I’m with him whenever he has off so I don’t get why I do this but it feels like obsession like I stress about upsetting him because I get anxious about upsetting him because it feels like he’s gonna leave me if I do anything to upset him and he’s never done anything to make me feel like this so I don’t get why I overthink like this

naiad

Date posted: 9w

Relationship OCD

Hi all, I’m F(20) and I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend M(20) for 10 months now. Lately it feels like I’ve been getting triggered at the tiniest thing. My relationship OCD is centered around the idea that my bf will leave me, that suddenly his feelings will change and he’ll never look back. Inherently I know this is irrational and I know he loves me very much (as he tells me repeatedly when I compulsively ask for reassurance). I just can’t make my brain stop. I just feel so unsecured. He will mention that one of his friends drove an hour to see him for only 30 minutes. I will then spiral that I am not possibly doing enough and it’s because he’s secretly done with me and he’s longing for a reason to leave and go be with this friend instead. See? Truly irrational. But I cannot stop it. Any tips at all? Maybe I’m at least not alone in this. I often feel literally insane:(

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