Does anyone else experience this?

I’m getting anxiety around this coworker because I think I’ll get a crush on them and also with other guys I get anxiety that I will get a crush on them and thus, emotionally cheat on my partner. But then the anxiety is making me think I like them even though I know that’s not true. This only happened after I got really anxious that I felt an attraction towards someone even though all I said was that they were cute in appearance in my head. Now I’m deeply scared that my fears will come true because I don’t want anyone else. I only want to stay with my boyfriend ideally for the rest of my life.

Relationship OCD

Username: RocdvictimRocdvictim

Date posted: 27w ago

yes same!!! I like to just not go against those thoughts, when your seeing that guy and your head tells you that you find him attractive and you all like “oh my god no,no please can these thoughts go away” it mostly gets worse, instead think “okay so what” and act like you don’t care about it. It helps the thoughts to calm down a little bit. And another thing helping me is saying to myself to think with my heart not my head, cause rocd will make you think you’re cheating and like other guys but that’s just in your head, but thinking from your heart means thinking about the people you actually love.

Username: spookycupcakespookycupcake

Date posted: 27w ago

I have this same issue, I got anxious that I would start liking this coworker and I thought maybe he was flirting with me and then I started feeling like a false crush thing and I knew at first it was anxiety but after it’s been happening a while the uncertainty creeps in

Username: Anonymous600Anonymous600

Date posted: 27w ago

@spookycupcake I hate the uncertainty and I hate how yesterday I was so fearful I was gonna like other people and so that made me sad today when I was around my boyfriend. And then that feeling caused more worries about if I love him enough 😭😭 I can’t escape ocd.

Username: Anonymous600Anonymous600

Date posted: 27w ago

@spookycupcake I hope it gets better for you 🙏🏼

Username: spookycupcakespookycupcake

Date posted: 27w ago

@Anonymous600 I have totally felt that way before but it does get better! I am doing much better than I was in the past and I hope the same for you

Username: NT24

Date posted: 3y ago

So I’m in a committed relationship to which is all great. But I’m attracted to this person I work with and have a little crush and every time I talk to him I feel like I’m doing something wrong. I would never ever cheat on my boyfriend but I looked it up and the internet made be freak out that I am emotionally cheating. I know I don’t want to be with this guy. And now I’m obsessing over it and feel guilty.

Relationship OCD

Username: Mayte

Date posted: 1y ago

Thoughts.

Yes I find one of my boyfriends friend attractive. Do I think of him a lot? No. Do i wanna be with him? No. But when he gets mentioned I get scared. I get scared I’ll end up having a crush on him. I try to not look at his account out of fear I’ll end up liking him. Someone mentioned he went to a girls house and I think I felt kinda jealous and I was like why would I? And I’m scared now. I don’t wanna have a crush on this boy. I’m scared I will. It feels wrong I don’t want to I just wanna be with my boyfriend. My minds trying to tell me that I do like his friend and I don’t wanna and it feels like I do but I don’t want to :/

Username: Youcanheal

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

Relationship OCD

Has anyone ever had an intrusive thought that they have a crush on someone else while they’re in a relationship? I had an intrusive thought about one of my co-workers who is female. I don’t believe I am even gay but for a moment I had a small panic attack that I had a crush on her. I know I love my boyfriend and want to be with him but now I feel like I betrayed him by thinking about someone else like that even though it was an accident. I know I can’t say anything to him about it because I’m pretty sure the crush isn’t real and it would just make things weird between him and I. Anyone have any suggestions or can relate to this?

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