recently, i have noticed a significant spike in my perfectionism OCD. what are the best ways you know to cope with knowing everything is imperfect? i know this is a fact, but my OCD will not leave me alone until i feel like i’ve “perfected” everything as much as possible (which obv leads to more compulsions) :(
𝐈 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐬𝐮𝐠𝐠𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢t. 𝐔𝐫 𝐬𝐨 𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐟𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐚𝐧 𝐡𝐚𝐛𝐢𝐭. 𝐒𝐨 𝐨𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐮 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐢𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐢𝐭, 𝐢𝐭’𝐬 𝐠𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐚 𝐛𝐞 𝐚 𝐧𝐞𝐰 𝐡𝐚𝐛𝐢𝐭. 𝐈𝐭 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬𝐧𝐭 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 “𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐟𝐞𝐜𝐭“ 𝐢𝐭𝐬 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝟒 𝐮
@joemama7 thank you for this reminder!! 💓 i tend to forget often that OCD is a driving force in developing habits. it really is so wicked in that way!! 😔
It doesn’t matter if it’s perfect or not it matters if u feel comfortable so smack talk the ocd and start a new life filled with happiness
I feel like I have to be perfect and do things perfectly. What a heavy load that is. I feel like I let people down or they won’t like me if I’m not perfect. Something learned in childhood. A fairly easy thing to try is to do something imperfectly and leave it. If you can’t leave it all day try for an hour or a few minutes. Anything g so OCD does t get what it wants. Make your bed with a wrinkle in it or leave it unmade. Wash your dishes and leave a dirty pot or dish in the sink. Drop a paper on the floor and walk over it and leave it there.
@dph044@yahoo.com that is a great method!! i’ve tried it before and i’ve given up too easily due to the compulsions. i need to push myself to take control and practice this exposure!! thank you so much!! 😊
@dph044@yahoo.com Don’t worry about people not liking you bcuz something isn’t perfect like they probably aren’t perfect themselves too and also like I said it doesn’t matter if it’s perfect or not it matters if it makes u feel comfortable
@lyssielou3 Yes it works for me too. Maybe spend 20-30 minutes a day doing these exposures and avoiding the compulsions to tidy up. Set it up I staged so you don’t bail out and do the compulsions. I won’t wash this dish for 15 minutes or pick up this paper for one hour. Even I will count to 20 before I wash this pot. You can do it!!
@joemama7 exactly!! :)
@dph044@yahoo.com thank you so much for your help!! setting up a plan is the best way to put it into action!! 😊
@lyssielou3 You go!!! Get that plan written and start slowly doing ERP. you are motivating me too
My therapist brought up the concept of perfectionism. I never had considered this in my ocd but wow was he right. I see it as I reflect. I thought I was strictly pure o (HOCD, SOCD). What’s everyone know about the manifestation of perfectionism in OCD?
i’m so frustrated with myself. despite my attempts to lean into uncertainty, there’s still some part of that is convinced my theme is real and therefore needs to be looked into. i relapsed pretty badly after a stressful day two nights ago and i’m struggling get back onto the wagon. i know that many people say that you don’t need to know something is ocd definitively in order to treat it as such, but i feel like i do. because if it’s not ocd it’s a thing that needs to be solved. idk. does anyone have any advice on what i can do?
Hey everyone! I’m new to this app, but not new when it comes to OCD treatments. A few years ago I had to leave school/ my job in order to work on my mental health which was hard but needed. Mentally things have more or less gotten better OCD wise but I still really struggle with protectionism. I started a new job within the past 6 months that is challenging, but I enjoy enough to hopefully stay at for a few years. As of the past two weeks I have been really struggling with ruminating over my performance at work. I have been trying really hard to learn all the moving parts of the job, but because of lack of mentoring and constant little hiccups I have been stressing. Currently I have been overwhelmed/ overthinking so much that I have been messing up my work and it seems like my coworkers are pretty annoyed by constantly having to correct me. It’s honestly my worst fear as a perfectionist to feel like a burden. My intrusive thoughts as of late is that they are going to think I don’t care or try hard enough, that they talk bad about me to each other, and that they are going to fire me. Has anyone else experienced this type of OCD perfectionism that affects there performance within school or work and if so is there anything that you did in order to help recenter yourself in the moment to stop your brain from running in circles?
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