- Username
- neeks17
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I am a parent. I have 3 children. Ocd usually clings onto what you love the most, so, obviously my obsessions and fears revolve around my children, but I know I have been a good parent, you have to challenge your ocd daily, cause you can’t be stuck in your compulsions cause you have little people that depend on you, so in a way it has been helpful to me. You can try therapy before you start your family. But don’t be afraid, you can do this.
i’m definitely invested in therapy. thank you so much for the advice. it makes me hopeful!
I unexpectedly became a father after being told my ex partner couldn’t conceive by drs.. next thing she was pregnant.. my daughters 2.5 yrs old now an I wouldn’t change it for the world.. yes I do get some horrible obsessions about what ifs maybes an could haves but I see my daughter smile everyday and every night before bed she tells me she loves me and I get a big kiss.. no matter how I’m feelin that turns me around every time, so to answer your question yeah you can be a parent, a damn good one too, but always remember noones perfect and there’s no book on parenting, everyone gets something wrong at some point.. but as long your child is happy and loved, there’s nothing more in the world you could ask for
this made me tear up. thank you so much for the advice and kind words. you must make your little girl so happy. ?
same question here
Its what we’re all here for, to offload and support each other and it’s the happiness she brings me that makes the difference ?
Yes of course! But I have a secret to tell. You can actually defeat OCD. Go to the International OCD Foundation website and find a therapist in your area. You can defeat this monster so you can live in peace and take your freedom back :)
would love to hear the experiences of folks who have become parents. ?
What kind of OCD do you have?
How did you decide whether or not to have children? My psychologist tells me that people with contamination ocd can be great parents but I just don’t know how I will possibly be able to handle it. My partner wants children and I think I do too but I’m just not sure if it’s the right choice for someone like me. I can’t take care of a human being if I go back to having full-on breakdowns and constant panic. Any advice or personal experience is appreciated.
Does anyone with POCD have children? I want to have children in the future, but the idea of it really scares me because of my fears. Something I have been learning in therapy is not to make fear-based decisions. So it’s definitely something I want to do, but I just wanna know some of your experiences with this.
I struggle with pocd amongst many other ocd themes and even the thought of having children triggers it so badly. I try and avoid being around kids because they trigger it obviously but it makes me so sad because I was always so good with kids until I started struggling with this theme. I want children because I think it adds something very special to your life but I know having kids would drive my ocd insane. It’s like I can image how great I would be as a mum and then there is this ocd barrier between me and that. Maybe a lot of therapy could help but I’ve had ocd my whole life I think it’s just apart of my brain I don’t know if it can be fixed
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