- Username
- ocd sufferer
- Date posted
- 5y ago
You have to be okay with the thoughts and get as comfortable as you can with them. When they pop up , be like “ that was an interesting/funny thought ! “ that way you take the seriousness out of it. By doing this you’d be training your brain not to react so intensely to the thoughts , because giving them a reaction is keeping you in the cycle of OCD. Unlike other things in life , they aren’t going to go away by putting up a fight against them. Nor will they go away by telling yourself that they don’t represent you , because that’s just reassuring yourself. You should tell yourself that you don’t know if they mean anything and you never will know , and that it’s okay that you don’t know.
One thing that help me getting over this crap was when I realized that the OCD isn’t me. Differentiate yourself from it . The OCD doesn’t define you, it just wants to scare you . you didn’t ask for this and Ik it can be hard . Also don’t try and push the thoughts away trust me it may be hard but the more u do this the less anxious and worried u will get and then over time everything will come back into place
@Gianfranco that’s great advice !
Yup I can relate
The thoughts are incredibly real at the moment. Thoughts that come into my mind include a vivid "You are gay, just accept it." The pressure is too much. It feels like my brain is being mushed and flattened I've reached yet another low and I'm here praying that these thoughts will stop bullying me and controlling my life.
Hi :) I have always struggled with intrusive sexual thoughts since i was a kid. (probably due to sexual abuse) And in my teen years I spent a considerable amount of time fighting unwanted romantic feelings toward my girl friends. This year though, I think I’m coming to terms with the fact that I might be gay. I just never feel this way toward men. And it feels like all of my efforts to keep those unwanted gay thoughts away growing up didn’t work. I feel like it’s my fault somehow. I’m not sure if this makes sense, but I guess i’m trying to work on accepting these thoughts of mine.
How can i be constanly thinking of men. I just dont get this. I feel like if i go ok im gay its not going to change anything because its not what i want and i dont want the thoughts to be there ?😞
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