John 28
- Date posted
- 5y
andrewt_andrewt_
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 5y
I think part of the problem is that you’re calling it “ crap “ . Do I understand why you would and is it probably a crappy situation ? Definitely. But calling it that gives it power because it tells your brain that it’s something to be feared. You have to tell yourself that it may not be the easiest situation , but that you’re strong enough to power through and you technically don’t have to let it ruin your life. Through CBT and rewiring your brain , you can change your perception of the situation and your thought pattern will be far less destructive. The goal isn’t to make the thoughts go away , the goal is to become accepting of them and not let them dictate your life , and it may follow that they go away. But it’s normal to have intrusive thoughts every now and then , getting rid of them completely is unrealistic. I wish you the very best
butwhatifbutwhatif
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- 5y
I love this answer. I've always thought of my OCD a lot like a Chinese finger trap, where it only loosens once you are no longer struggling against it
andrewt_andrewt_
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 5y
@butwhatif Thanks so much and that’s the perfect way to look at it !
RedMaxRedMax
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- 5y
@xiiandrew yes exactly, it’s basically learning to live in harmony with your intrusive thoughts. @gianfranco They won’t go away but you can slowly temper your reaction to them. It takes time and effort with the help of therapy, maybe you need medication as well. However life does get better, it’s not about erasing the thoughts it’s about desensitizing yourself to them. Learning how to let the anxiety flow out your body, I’ve had intrusive thoughts allllll day but I learned how to let them exist without much reaction. I know it sounds like spiritual bullshit but with ERP it’s possible. I honestly contemplated suicide like 2 years ago, but I fought through and now I gained back control of my life. It’s possible you can do it.
John 28John 28
- Date posted
- 5y
Thanks it means a lot . I understand intrusive thoughts don’t go away . I just want to deal with them like anyone else will and I think therapy will help . Im getting better but I jus want it to go away fully lol? I know it’s a process and that with time everything will be okay
John 28John 28
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- 5y
It’s people like you that we need more of . My ocd isn’t that bad at the moment but talking with others who have OCD really helps
xgudwilxxgudwilx
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- 5y
Talking about it always makes it sound stupid when I think about it but when it's happening it's like you can't get out of what's happening. I've only told one family member about it and it always comes to that, I know it's stupid but it literally starts happening from the time I wake up. Maybe it's like any other habit, just replace it with new ones, idk.
xgudwilxxgudwilx
- Date posted
- 5y
Same question I always ask. At this point I've almost accepted the thoughts (if that's where this problem ended) its the repetitions & actions I do to "stop" these bad things from happening. I know I can't think things into existence, yet I keep doing rituals or whatever they're called. Takes up all my time & it's frustrating. I did them as I was typing this.
John 28John 28
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- 5y
It’s such a pain . I wanna do so much with my life and do so many things but how the hell can u do anything with this crap . Luckily it’s getting better .
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anxiousashhh
- Date posted
- 23w
idk
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kenzieisfound
- Date posted
- 6w
fear of losing control??
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