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Engagement ROCD (TW: assault)
I recently got engaged and then two weeks later, my partner told me they were assaulted by one of their friends. My OCD loves to wreck relationships, and I keep having intrusive thoughts that my partner cheated and is covering their tracks with a story of being assaulted. I feel like the worst person possible for having those doubts, because I know it’s highly unlikely that my partner would cheat two weeks after we got engaged. We’ve been together for almost two years with no infidelity and have had each other’s backs through rough times. I know they need my support and love right now, and it’s taking everything I have to resist my compulsions to question them and snoop for evidence of cheating. They want to move forward with planning the wedding and continue on with life, but whenever I try to plan I break down crying. I’ve been yelling at family and hiding from friends because everyone wants to know about the wedding planning. I don’t want to tell them the reason for the delay to protect my partner’s privacy. I have next to no support. I’m afraid to get help because of the risk of breaking my partner’s trust and also that people won’t understand ROCD and think I’m just being a bad person when I feel awful for having these doubts. Has anyone ever had to deal with anything like this? If so, how did you survive?