Does anybody have any advice for how to help your partner cope with your anxiety? It causes a lot of tension and fight or flight feelings in my partner and it’s clearly very distressing for him. I don’t want him to feel anxious because I am.
Dealing with this too at the moment (see my latest post from a few minutes ago). It’s challenging; I agree with that. My only advice (which I need to take myself!) is to try not to let yourself seek reassurance from your partner. Save it for your therapist or someone who understands it and can handle it. Don’t share all of your thoughts with your partner.
@jf44667 Thanks yeah it is difficult to decide when it’s an overshare but could save a lot of pain I think
@spookycupcake I’ve learned that when in doubt, keep it to yourself! Working on this myself and it’s hard but the best solution
@jf44667 Good advice I will try to remind myself that
Im going through this with my wife and i could use some help too. She just told me today how ive been in the past and i wonder if ocd has always been in my opinion and thoughts about my life. It sucks to see yourself as a monster when u were only trying to protect. Anyway sometimes we can talk too much.
Does anyone have any advice for helping your partner deal with your ocd? Mine is getting frustrated feeling it's stupid and finds intrusive thoughts I try and share hurtful.
I want to be open with my partner about my relationship anxiety in the moment, but hearing about the heaviness of my feelings time and time again has pushed him away. How do I cope with my ROCD without pushing my partner away? He’s open to hearing me talk about it sometimes but not as often as I do.
Hello, I do not have OCD but my boyfriend does. We’re both in our early 20s, we have been together for almost a year. I’m making this post seeking advice , thank you for taking the time to read. He’s always had issues obsessing over my past and asking me questions and things of that nature. I talk to him about it and answer when he wants to ask me stuff, but the problem is i don’t want to talk about these things because it’s really traumatic for me. He tends to obsess over my past romantic history which brings up bad feelings for me (SA, DV trauma etc) I want to help him but it’s VERY hard to stay patient when it’s triggering me. Every time he asks me about these things i either end up having a panic attack or getting so upset with him which ends up making him feel worse because he can’t control his obsessions and it’s a really hard cycle for both of us. I don’t understand much about OCD and it confuses me how one minute everything is fine and the next he is upset. and he hasn’t been diagnosed yet but is working on getting into therapy. He has his own trauma which i think is where this all stems from. But in the meantime I want to find better ways to help but also keep my own mental health in check. I’m willing to do whatever I can to help him with his issues. It’s also really isolating because it’s a difficult situation and i’m having difficulty finding anyone who relates and can help. Thank you for reading this. 🥺 And anyone who has advice would get greatly appreciated.
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