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how do I know what I felt wasn't genuine attraction but false attraction? I can't keep living like this.
how do I know what I felt wasn't genuine attraction but false attraction? I can't keep living like this.
If you are disgusted by the thought of being attracted to whatever your OCD is conjuring attraction to, then you and your personality are not attracted to it. From what i’ve researched on OCD, your mind may conjure up “situations” to test your biggest fears. There is no winning the test; either way you will not find relief. I suggest you work with a therapist on revealing your worries to confront your OCD and build coping mechanisms that dissipate your anxieties. You are NOT what your OCD is trying to convince you that you are. Your false attraction is built upon fear of being attracted to the subject, so it is contradictory to your morals. You are not a bad person and healing is not avoiding your fears it is confronting them as false. You can do this, your life is valuable and you are worthy of being understood.
False attraction has been killing me ive had it for months with the same person. I have a boyfriend so having false attraction makes me feel so guilty. And lately theyve felt so real and ive been so anxious. What if I do like him bla bla. Ive only ever saw him as a brother and we have a good connection and he is one of my good friends but even sometimes when im having a conversation I feel like im cheating. Sometimes I get excited like oh yay he is gonna be here and then I get scared that it’s romantical because I get excited when he is around because he is a funny. Im so scared thats its real attraction because I love my boyfriend I would never do such a thing. And lately my minds done stuff like oh grab his attention stuff like that and it feels like I have done those actions but I dont want to. Sometimes when he is like idk sitting near Im like oh is he looking and my minds like oh do something to empress him bla bla. Recently he was going thought stuff and my boyfriend was there and I was I can give him a hug because I think he needs it but after I thought of it as bad because he is a guy and I had this false attraction what if I did it because I like him bla bla. I am freaking out idk why my mind makes me do compulsions that I have acted on like oh go talk to him and I do its weird urges that I do not want to do. I am scared that it will come true
why do i feel like im starting to like the false attraction? i don’t want to liek it and it normal makes me feel disgusting but sometimes i feel like i like it. please help
Can anyone give their experience on FALSE ATTRACTION? At this moment, mine has become worse. Soon as I see a male my anxiety shoots up, I can feel this in my chest and my OCD is telling me I’m attracted. But I continue to look back or stare and the disgust comes over me and my body shakes and I feel my face screw up. I can’t listen to music I use too or watch movies which was a favourite thing of mine to do. I just feel disgusted and not who I am when it happens. It’s like a different me. P.S. I had a very good week few days ago where I knew this wasn’t me and these feelings/ thoughts isn’t me.
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