Is this ocd?

I’m not saying any of this to be rude or hateful in any way!! Basically, I like this guy and I really love him, but, everytime I look at this one photo of him, I keep noticing he looks unflattering and it makes me worry, because I’m scared what if he’s ugly? And why does that even matter? Why can’t I just love him in peace without having to check his photo to make sure he’s not ugly? Like that sounds really rude and disrespectful and it hurts even more to know that he’s self conscious and I would NEVER want to hurt him so I don’t tell him I check his photo to make sure he’s not ugly, I get anxious when I notice/feel that he is unattractive/unflattering, so I check till I feel certain that I don’t think he’s ugly, why do I even do this? Why does it matter? Why does my brain make it difficult to even look at a photo without worrying, can I be normal? I say “I think he’s cute/I love him” to his photo and my brain is like “nope cuz he’s unattractive” then I get worried and for what??? I ask myself why do I care and I genuinely don’t know

Relationship OCD

Username: HejdieHejdie

Date posted: 12w ago

This can be ocd yes! I have felt the same

Username: King sillyKing silly

Date posted: 12w ago

@Hejdie thank you oh my goodness

Username: pamelaterrypamelaterry

Date posted: 12w ago

Damn, I feel this to my core. It's like your brain is just constantly trying to mess with you, right? I totally get it, man. I used to have this thing where I’d obsess over whether my friends secretly hated me. I’d overanalyze every little thing they did or said, looking for signs that they were annoyed or that they didn't actually like me, even though deep down I knew they cared about me. It was like my brain was on a mission to ruin every good thing I had. Just last week, I caught myself spiraling again when a friend took too long to reply to a text. I started thinking, "Oh shit, maybe they’re mad at me" and spent hours trying to figure out what I might have done wrong. It’s rough, dude, and it’s exhausting. But remember, you're not alone in this. We all have these moments where our OCD just takes over and makes us question everything. It’s not about being normal, it’s about finding ways to manage these thoughts and not letting them control us. Keep pushing through, my friend, you got this. Sending you love and strength.

Username: BethyM3BethyM3

Date posted: 12w ago

I have clinically diagnosed OCD. I relate to your experience.

Username: King sillyKing silly

Date posted: 12w ago

@BethyM3 Thank you for letting me know

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 12w ago

This is 100% OCD…. and one of the most common symptoms ever. It creates a conundrum/dilemma you can’t possibly answer since it’s based on feelings and theory, and you are feeding into the compulsion every time you try to reason with the feeling. It’s important you don’t judge or try to change the feeling but just let it sit. Otherwise you suffocate your mind and emotions with constant judgement. Let the feeling sit, and over time it will subside. But you have to be willing to sit with discomfort and not get dragged into the rabbit hole of intrusive thoughts. His picture right now is a trigger and can be an excellent exposure down the line. Definitely discuss with therapist.

Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 22w ago

Guilt ocd

Idk if it’s ocd or not. But I’m feeling so guilty for thinking this. It’s bothered me since I started dating my bf. We been together 9 months now and he’s 5’8 and I’m 5’0. I understand how shallow and stupid it is to care about height. As every guy I spoke to has been about 5’8-5’10 idk why I care. It’s been bothering me how much I care about it. I’m in love with him so much but it isn’t getting out of my head how “I wish he was a little taller” I don’t want him to be 6’ or anything but even a bit taller. He’s also just smaller too and I feel so damn bad saying this and thinking it. He knew I felt this way in the beginning cuz someone told me and I told him it’s not how I felt now and I grew to love him so much so idc and it is true I don’t care he’s taller than me so who cares? And he’s the best person I’ve ever met and I don’t ever want to lose him. I have never ever felt this way for anyone ever I want to marry this man but I can’t stop fucking thinking this and it’s causing me so much guilt I don’t know what to do

Username: 𝐩𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐤𝐢𝐧🤍🦇🎃

Date posted: 18w ago

NEW RELATIONSHIP OCD

I just started dating this guy not too many months ago. he is everything i ever wanted and he treats me right. but now my OCD intrusive thoughts are creeping back in. ones like “do i love him/like him” and like “i have to tell him im having these horrible OCD thoughts or we will never know how i truly feel.” but i know i love/like him. And sometimes I’ll be having a good day and then BAM, the thoughts smack me in the face and i get stuck in an anxious loop and it ruins my mood. how can i break this compulsion without feeling so anxious and do i tell him i’m having these thoughts to relieve the anxiety?

Username: sgray4

Date posted: 10w ago

Relationship doubts

I’ve been struggling with relationship OCD and differentiating between what is an intrusive thought and what is a real doubt. I was really happy with my partner then I got one aggressive thought that I didn’t love him and this spiralled into noticing all his flaws. I struggle being around him because I feel a huge sense of guilt that these thoughts even come into my head and I cannot figure out if this is my brain lying to me or this is how I feel. It’s really impacting a relationship that is so important to me.

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