It’s getting really annoying not knowing if I’m straight or gay it’s really annoying me and giving me anxiety I want to punch something I can’t even talk to my girlfriend cause I don’t even want to text her
With OCD, when in doubt, it is not true.
@hanysm@gmail.com What do you mean
@hanysm@gmail.com Does this apply to any type of ocd?
@serenity_1 Doubt is the child of uncertainty—whether it’s about the past or future, regarding things you can’t control. OCD’s nickname, in a sense, is the uncertainty disorder.
It means, the thought that you having doubt about ( being gay), is not true.
@hanysm@gmail.com And how do you know that.
@ZapposAlt After some time in this platform noticing the same questions repeated over and over ... Your question should be, how I didn't know that.
@hanysm@gmail.com Lol got me there man I just want it to go away I want my feelings back for my girlfriend and I don’t want the constant doubt and the are you gay thoughts anymore I don’t want it anymore
@ZapposAlt I understand and empathize with you, my friend. First and foremost, I hope you're receiving some support in managing your OCD. If not, please consider seeking help, not just for yourself, but also for the sake of your loved ones. I have a theory about how OCD operates that I’d like to share with you—it might resonate and help alleviate some of your struggles. Here’s the link to my other post:https://app.treatmyocd.com/community/posts/2043944 Good luck my friend. You are not gay.
@hanysm@gmail.com Have u experience soocd?
@ZapposAlt Nope
@hanysm@gmail.com So how do you know that I have ocd and that what I’m going through is ocd
@ZapposAlt I'm not sure if you have OCD, but I assumed you might have been tested since you're using this app and mentioning symptoms similar to others with OCD. If you haven't been evaluated, have you considered seeing a therapist for an assessment?
@hanysm@gmail.com I mean I’ve been diagnosed twice with it
The whole point of treatment is to live with uncertainty ,maybe ,maybe not ,by you trying to figure out your sexual orientation you will be stuck with the ocd cycle
Ive had sexual orientation ocd. For months i was living with fear and anxiety because of the thought of being gay. But you know what helps? Accepting it! Who knows if you are or not?? You don’t know and no one else does either. Maybe you are, but maybe you’re not. It’s not a matter of black and white. It’s a spectrum and you can be straight but totally comfortable with having these thoughts. It’s okay to have them. It doesn’t mean they come true. What really bothered me was the shame I felt. Once I let go of that shame and accepted that maybe I could be, the thoughts didn’t stress me out anymore. I accepted them and turns out I’m not gay at all. But if I was, who cares!!!
@NickVad96 It’s just really annoying me the loss of attraction to girls and the constant gay thoughts when I wake up and the doubt how do I get over this and go back to normal?
@ZapposAlt What usually works for me is to accept that you’re going to have these thoughts, but they don’t define who you are. OCD is a big bully stripping away your confidence. If you can find the strength to push back a little bit and gain that confidence back, the thoughts won’t bother you anymore. And the loss of attraction to girls isn’t because you’re having these thoughts. It’s most likely because that’s the only thing you’re thinking of and it’s hard to have attraction to anyone when you’re in your head about anything too much
@ZapposAlt @ZapposAlt Try to start everyday with “maybe I am, maybe I’m not, who knows?” You have to dance with it a little bit to get it under control. It’s completely counter intuitive, but it does help in the long run. Think of it as tricking ocd. When you agree and accept the thoughts. You’re kind of giving it what it wants, therefore it leaves you alone more and more
@NickVad96 Thank you I’m just scared I’m never going to find girls attractive again question when you were dealing with this did you also lose attraction or yours was different
@ZapposAlt In my case, yes I did. I had a girlfriend and when the thoughts arose I felt so guilty and confused. I eventually broke down and even told her. This was even before I knew what SOOCD was and it can be scary, but just remember. It’s not you. It’s the ocd trying to push you down. Put in some work and you will feel better, i promise you
You can accept or acknowledge the thoughts but not agree with them. For me what help us to stay, focused on God and his truths for my life. ❤️🙏
@Lavender Fields!! You also had soocd?
@ZapposAlt No
im so scared that this is just denial and that im actuall gay. idk what to do anymore i need help. its just constant anxiety in my chest and i hate it. is there anything i can do to help?
I don't know for sure if I have HOCD, but it seems like I do, I tried to accept the idea that I'm gay, I felt calm, and then I started to get scared because I didn't feel anxiety anymore, I still feel attracted to my girlfriend, both physically and emotionally, but I feel an attraction to boys, sometimes I panic when I feel attracted and sometimes I don't (but most of the time I do) and I don't want to break up with my girlfriend I want to get back to normal
So I haven’t been on this app in a while. But I just want advice on how to overcome this. I’m now 18 and I’ve been trying out dating apps. I’m not gonna lie I’m kinda picky when it comes to dating only because I plan on dating to marry…so I take it a bit more seriously. But for some reason it’s so hard to click with people on these dating apps. So my friend was helping me through this dating apps process. I told her that I wasn’t interested in this guy I was texting anymore because of the way he was responding to my messages. And she says maybe you’re gay…this is honestly the sixth time (I’m definitely over exaggeration but this isn’t the first time someone had said this to me) someone has ask/said this. Every time someone says this it literally sends me down this spiral of are they seeing something I’m not seeing. Despite never having a crush on a girl my mind goes down this loop of overthinking. And when I say I don’t want that lifestyle or I don’t really find pleasure in being apart of the lgbtq community my mind is like in denial. I just wanted to have a fun teenage dating experience and now every time I open the app I always think what if I really am gay and I’m just in denial…or what if the reason why I’m not connecting with anyone is because I’m really into girls. Since i’m also religious, my mom wants to go what you’re denying who we are because of your religion. And I tried to reassure myself by saying I would know if that was the case like I would feel deep down who I’m truly attracted to and know that I’m trying to cover it up by dating men. This whole thing is so mentally taxing because I was going through this all throughout my senior year of high school and I’m not going into my freshman year of college so. Like I literally felt so much anxiety next to one of my classmates who was gay and a masculine presenting. I feel like if I would’ve told this to anyone, they’d say of course you’re in denial. But ig reply if you can relate
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