It’s getting really annoying not knowing if I’m straight or gay it’s really annoying me and giving me anxiety I want to punch something I can’t even talk to my girlfriend cause I don’t even want to text her
With OCD, when in doubt, it is not true.
@hanysm@gmail.com What do you mean
@hanysm@gmail.com Does this apply to any type of ocd?
@serenity_1 Doubt is the child of uncertainty—whether it’s about the past or future, regarding things you can’t control. OCD’s nickname, in a sense, is the uncertainty disorder.
It means, the thought that you having doubt about ( being gay), is not true.
@hanysm@gmail.com And how do you know that.
@ZapposAlt After some time in this platform noticing the same questions repeated over and over ... Your question should be, how I didn't know that.
@hanysm@gmail.com Lol got me there man I just want it to go away I want my feelings back for my girlfriend and I don’t want the constant doubt and the are you gay thoughts anymore I don’t want it anymore
@ZapposAlt I understand and empathize with you, my friend. First and foremost, I hope you're receiving some support in managing your OCD. If not, please consider seeking help, not just for yourself, but also for the sake of your loved ones. I have a theory about how OCD operates that I’d like to share with you—it might resonate and help alleviate some of your struggles. Here’s the link to my other post:https://app.treatmyocd.com/community/posts/2043944 Good luck my friend. You are not gay.
@hanysm@gmail.com Have u experience soocd?
@ZapposAlt Nope
@hanysm@gmail.com So how do you know that I have ocd and that what I’m going through is ocd
@ZapposAlt I'm not sure if you have OCD, but I assumed you might have been tested since you're using this app and mentioning symptoms similar to others with OCD. If you haven't been evaluated, have you considered seeing a therapist for an assessment?
@hanysm@gmail.com I mean I’ve been diagnosed twice with it
The whole point of treatment is to live with uncertainty ,maybe ,maybe not ,by you trying to figure out your sexual orientation you will be stuck with the ocd cycle
Ive had sexual orientation ocd. For months i was living with fear and anxiety because of the thought of being gay. But you know what helps? Accepting it! Who knows if you are or not?? You don’t know and no one else does either. Maybe you are, but maybe you’re not. It’s not a matter of black and white. It’s a spectrum and you can be straight but totally comfortable with having these thoughts. It’s okay to have them. It doesn’t mean they come true. What really bothered me was the shame I felt. Once I let go of that shame and accepted that maybe I could be, the thoughts didn’t stress me out anymore. I accepted them and turns out I’m not gay at all. But if I was, who cares!!!
@NickVad96 It’s just really annoying me the loss of attraction to girls and the constant gay thoughts when I wake up and the doubt how do I get over this and go back to normal?
@ZapposAlt What usually works for me is to accept that you’re going to have these thoughts, but they don’t define who you are. OCD is a big bully stripping away your confidence. If you can find the strength to push back a little bit and gain that confidence back, the thoughts won’t bother you anymore. And the loss of attraction to girls isn’t because you’re having these thoughts. It’s most likely because that’s the only thing you’re thinking of and it’s hard to have attraction to anyone when you’re in your head about anything too much
@ZapposAlt @ZapposAlt Try to start everyday with “maybe I am, maybe I’m not, who knows?” You have to dance with it a little bit to get it under control. It’s completely counter intuitive, but it does help in the long run. Think of it as tricking ocd. When you agree and accept the thoughts. You’re kind of giving it what it wants, therefore it leaves you alone more and more
@NickVad96 Thank you I’m just scared I’m never going to find girls attractive again question when you were dealing with this did you also lose attraction or yours was different
@ZapposAlt In my case, yes I did. I had a girlfriend and when the thoughts arose I felt so guilty and confused. I eventually broke down and even told her. This was even before I knew what SOOCD was and it can be scary, but just remember. It’s not you. It’s the ocd trying to push you down. Put in some work and you will feel better, i promise you
You can accept or acknowledge the thoughts but not agree with them. For me what help us to stay, focused on God and his truths for my life. ❤️🙏
@Lavender Fields!! You also had soocd?
@ZapposAlt No
I just can’t do this shit anymore.im tired of these “arousal” sensations that feel real but when I go check my arousal to the same gender I just get anxiety. I’m tired of feeling like I can’t like girls anymore. I’m tired of my arousal getting blocked every now and then because I’m anxious. I’m tired of not knowing who I am anymore. I’m tired of having my mind putting me into an identity I never asked for. I’m tired of this life
I’ve completely lost myself. I can’t focus on my studies, I can’t go to the gym. Dang it I can’t even be around my male friends normally anymore. I got no idea why or how this happened but the only thing I know for sure is that I never questioned my sexuality neither doubted it. I never cared in general. I just liked girls. I keep testing and keep testing and keep testing my arousal but no matter how many times I see but I don’t feel the same way for guys that I do with girls my mind will always try to make me believe that I am gay. It’s like it’s forcing me into an identity I never asked for. But at the end of the day like my psychologist told me. Sexuality doesn’t change. So since I never felt anything for guys in my life it’s ocd. I’ve been up and down for 5 months now and while the last week I was feeling way better. Monday now and I’m back to zero. I just want to go back when everything was normal. I can’t keep living with this.
I won’t explain this again if you’ve been or going through it you know what I’m talking about. I felt good about women about an hour ago and now I’m worrying again I’m anxious and the groinals are back and it’s so annoying because I can’t study. And honestly I’m so sick and tired of this. I’ve been a girl crazy my whole life and my mind randomly decides “well what if you are gay” like bro. I’ve never seen a guy that way and in general IT WAS NEVER SOMETHING I THOUGHT ABOUT OR ASSOCIATED MYSELF WITH. IVE NEVER FELT ANYTHING TOWARDS A MAN AND NOW IT FEELS LIKE IT RANDOMLY FLIPPED. I CANT DO THIS BRO. WHY WOULD THIS HAPPEN IVE BEEN GOING THROUGH INSECURITIES ALREADY AND MY ATTRACTION WAS THE ONLY REAL THING I HAD LEFT AND NOW THIS. HOW MUCH DO YOU HATE ME GOD.
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