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Well first of all sometimes I too don’t feel like I love my husband, I just feel the affection etc. However when I’m not anxious I know that it is completely normal and healthy, because you can’t maintain a crush for a lifetime, marriage is a path when sometimes you fall apart and then you enjoy meeting each other anew, on a micro scale. And if you’re lucky you’ll keep the affection and will always look in more or less the same direction. Love is really complicated. That being said, if you’ve had emotional trauma, you can feel I secure opening up. My husband and I came a long way for me to be comfortable to say that I love him and mean it. I was too afraid to trust and to feel emotionally naked, so it took me like 6 years and lots of therapy to build that trust.
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Omg girl! Why is the last part me too! Although I'm not married, it's taking me awhile to feel fully vulnerable and connected to bf because I am insecure with myself and what I have to offer. I am currently in therapy for my own unresolved traumas. Can you talk more about how that journey was for you and your husband to go through? Was there feelings of numbness in your relationship? Did the therapy bring you guys closer? Did therapy make you discover more about yourself and your relationship habits? Sorry for the amount of questions. I just find this topic really interesting
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That’s a good way to look at it, what if those feelings never get better? How do you differentiate between it being an OCD thought or a real one? Cause it feels real but I don’t want it to be, so that’s where it’s confusing. Regardless yes, I have been through a lot of emotional trauma my husband has his own mental health he just started therapy so it will be a while before we get into therapy together to understand eachother cause he definitely just needs time to focus on him finally as well and I’m in therapy and trying to get a specific OCD therapist, but like right now I get little spurts of love for him. It’s just all confusing and my mind won’t shut off from it cause I can’t figure it the real answer and it gets in the way of how I treat or act towards him and ignoring it makes me feel like I’m being fake and when I talk to him about it of course it hurts but he understands sorta and idk I’m just struggling pretty bad with all this I just want some relief. I do love him (but then it feels like I say it to make myself believe it) anything I say my mind always has a counter it’s so draining
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