Hi! For one of my exposures I’m practicing sitting with the distress from my OCD and not ruminating about my obsessions. I’m struggling with how to stop ruminating though because whenever I try the obsessive thoughts keep popping into my head and I can’t get them out. Does anyone have any advice?
Hey i am guessing you have rocd i need a little help I dont know what to do if you read this and can help pls reply …so i have just gotten into a relationship(my first) and i have struggled with different themes of ocd over the last 5 years or more now and i am now maybe struggling with this and i need help so… all i can think about is how even people telling me its rocd if i give them my concern and also like i am not even searching for rocd videos to give reassurance like it doesnt even cross my mind cause if it was true ocd i would be but now i am not so and this me writing here is just being scared and a coping mechanism and habit of 5 years and i know so cause i feel so while writing so if nothing gives reassurance its not rocd and actually i dont love him and just dont feel same and just am numb and dissociated with him? Nothing of rocd gives reassurance cause actually not love wver and not even seeing or agreeing to rocd doesn’t reassure and even while writing rn so no love and is true cause it feels so strongly that there is no love and like people say the KNOW they love their partner its just doubts mine its not even that i know i dont? And if not anxious and it is not ocd i am just not accepting right? Pls help me i would be grateful…
@Brave through Hey! So it definitely sounds like you have ROCD. I relate to a lot of what you are saying. Just remember that when you have these very distressing thoughts that is indicative of an OCD obsession taking over. I would suggest seeing one of the therapists at NOCD or if you already have one, talk to them about what you are experiencing. And sometimes when a thought is really distressing reassurance still doesn’t help, so that is not a sign that your thoughts are real.
@Anonymous Hey thanks for the replu..but Feeling nothing no love if i breakup it would feel normal and okay to do and not calling him nothing and even with not scared but okay to feel with the thoughts cause they are true and now also no feeling just going with it to see if i can but if all the above and feels so true and doing for the sake of it breakup wouldn’t hurt and not even call or text and thoughts of beeakup and if have to force to talk to him cause no feelings means sooner or later breakup and something knows not ocd so cant even be reassured and will breakup?!? And like also don’t want to talk or feel like i am okay with not talking and if i do thats to get through this rn but this rn feels not ocd but actually no feelings which means i am trying but no feelings and i will still feel this means i am just delaying the breakup sooner or later will happen and i will start behaving so ir already have and its proof its not ocd but all this like rather than calling him watching some show making a face when he calls and all of this means i dont care and dont wnat right and these are like actual proofs of everything i mentioned so it cant be ocd? What do i do? Pls help i feel dissociated and nothing and no love to even save the relationship just numb and if so there is no love and nothing and not ocd but real just scared to accept?
@Brave through The only thing that will make you feel better in the long run is doing exposures. Do you have a therapist?
@Anonymous Thankyou so much for replying to me but i still had a few things running in my head if you could help would be grateful… so to begin with as you mentioned i am anxious about not loving him but what if and not what if i know it is scared to accept i dont and i feel nothing as a proof as he loves me so much and is nice so its guilt and nothing else and not ocd and again erp with it feels like that wont help too cause i feel and maybe even know that if i do erp and it comes from knowing that its not ocd so erp will not help i will just accept the thought breakup with him and i am scared of that and if i already know i feel this and feel like it means i already should i dont know how to explain but all spiral comes back to okay but in the end i can write and say all this but feeling nothing means its not there and i cant deny that i dont which means i truly dont and i am lying about it as well and those thoughts as you mentioned about erp with what comes to my head like i should breakup and erp being okay you should for me it will be doing it accepting it and i know that so i should do that right? Just scared which means again its not ocd and if i feel this so strongly it means it is so and one more very important thing idk if i am alone in this but i need your advice..so today when i was talking to him i was finding ways to get out of it like do you need to go to the gym or i have to go eat and cut the call early like i had other things to do and not want to spend time with him which again seems like if i dont want to and i as actually saying and doing it and means its not ocd and if this is how i feel it means i dont love or care and i feel like that and also this is just me getting scared to accept not ocd right… and with erp as i mentioned idk what i will even end up accepting and if it is that then i dont love and sooner or later will breakup so what is even happening now? I booked with a therapist tom and i feel she will say okay you feel so leave him i wont be anxious or question it and i will so again that would mean i am already okay with doing that and will right? And also that it will happen and i know or feel so so strongly so it is no matter how much i write i cant deny he is not my love ig and with something completely different this happened and turned out what i couldn’t deny later was true so it was with this as well? Pls help me it feels similar so i dont love and not even anxious so it is so and i know and feel so?
@Anonymous Do i actually not love my bf with all that i mentioned and i feel so is so… and maybe not even feel genuinely is cause my actions like i mentioned are proof?
@Anonymous Help me pls i know this is long but i am requesting…
@Brave through I’m not sure how to help beyond telling you that what your are experiencing is definitely OCD. I would suggest talking to a NOCD therapist or using the S O S feature in the app
@Anonymous Hey, thankyou and yes i did speak to my therapist after quite a while but there as i said she said could be anxiety and not ocd and that what i think is true and the entire time i maybe even feeling so and that feeling didnt much nothing reassured cause its not ocd and not true ig? And like Feel like this so early on? And also my brain says and feelings say you feel not just thought and you are scared to accept and you know that and its true so its not ocd and you know know it!! Just dont accept. Nothing is helping even while therapy was happening Feeling this only but i dont feel only to all that she said about stable and didnt agree and it didnt budge from feeling that i dont have any feeling and everything she said was in my head like but i dont feel it like just numb or nothing and just that i was feeling feeling and nothing reassured and when she said breakup later about possibility considered it wasn’t scared would do it just sad and scare dont accept but is true from being backed up that constantly felt no feeling which is true and i mean was so with something else so this too?
@Anonymous With this guy who i didn’t want to accept was good for me but believe was but knew somewhere wasnt and and he wasnt and now i am with my boyfriend where i feel all this like i know no feeling which will turn out cause if i feel similar to that feeling means he isnt i just dont listen and i am okay with listening and breaking up just not taking that step and being numb about it not like i am not okay or scared which means not ocd and not anything else but with all is the truth? And like okay erp says you dont love him and i am like oh you actually dont and dont care so you are done and that also as a habit and nothing else i am writing and truly dont care means not OCD
@Brave through im not sure what else i can say to help you stop worrying because this is ocd and it doesn’t like to listen to reason. it seems like you are just ruminating and talking yourself in circles. that’s a sign of ocd. i would recommend seeing a therapist who specializes in ocd if you aren’t already
@Anonymous I understand but like a part of me feels like you know its ocd and i feel like i know its not and its feeling cause of how it feels and how my actions seem to back it up ig rn.. like even right now i am crying cause i am scared of breaking his heart and losing a great guy but not like scared i dont have feelings which is the part of ocd so that means its not and also does ocd make you think and feel like oh i dont even want to talk to him everything he says irritates me and wants to cut the convo short but out of guilt stays and this is not me thinking but actually happening so it means its so and yes i can ask you a hundred times as well and still not believe ig because what i feel is true which i mentioned above then i should just leave and breakup if i feel nothing but not doing that cause scared no other reason… my therapist spoke about wanting sure answers and if my feeling is already so sure it is so and i know so cant accept? Can this be ocd at all or just anxiousness that i cant accept this? Pls i am sorry to burden this on you but just need help ig …and i spoke to my therapist she said it could not be ocd also so that and with everything and doubt she said that maybe you will breakup and i am more scared of being hated by him which is why i am not doing it but feeling it all the while and when she said maybe it is ocd i was like i feel this cant be and when she said breakup wasnt scared or denied so idk?
@Brave through trust me, this is ocd. i know you may not believe it right now but it is. and yes i’ve had times where my anxieties have made me not want to be around him bc im scared of getting triggered and it causing me to spiral. i think you are feeling the same where is may seem like you want to break up with him but it is likely just bc you want to stop feeling all of this anxiety and the only way you know how to do that is to remove yourself from the situation. which is what you should not do.
@Brave through and wanting sure clear answers is what ocd wants and feeds on. getting these answers is a form of reassurance which is a compulsion
@Anonymous Thankyou for hearing me out but i honestly just have started to feel helpless and i dont know what is true or false anymore i really dont.. is there any way i can speak to you on maybe a different platform.. i could use the help ig…
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My NOCD therapist (who has been awesome) and I are both struggling to identify ways in which I can practice exposure therapy while in-session, because the vast majority of my OCD symptoms are mental compulsions. For example: indecision and inability to commit to a choice; seeking reassurance on decisions from friends and family; mental review of things that have just happened / social situations; over-thinking and catastrophizing. I also have some other hallmark symptoms (contamination fears, moral scrupulosity, etc) but those tend to be inconsistent too. It’s hard to really practice these during my sessions because so many are in the moment and fleeting. By the time I join my session they are no longer active. How can we establish exposure responses during my sessions, if most of my OCD involves mental rumination and overthinking patterns/thought loops that only occur “in the moments - rather than specific or consistent compulsions (such as hand washing)?
I have really started to take control of my compulsions and im starting to string together better days! Still not great days or even good, but they are better!!! I have controlled my outward compulsions (googling, research, reassurance, checking) the past couple of days and felt the positive impact of that. But unfortunately, I am realizing that the rumination is still constant. My sexuality and relationship are the only two things constantly on my brain, and if they aren’t I freak out and wonder why im not thinking about them! Anyone have any advice on how to deal with the rumination. Sometimes I don’t even notice im doing it, but it’s taking up 90% of my day. Once I start to tackle this I think I may make some real big progress! Hope everyone is fighting today! ❤️
My biggest is ruminating, i talk and talk and over share with myself and others Like what are some exposures?
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