I find men who are good with children very attractive. Is this weird? This is something that bothers me a little bit, because I fear that it means something. Now that I have been dealing with POCD for 2 years, I have noticed that this feeling has only increased. And I feel like every man that I see, who has a kid, is like so sexy to me??? Is this weird??? I didn’t think about this so much before. And even when I had a boyfriend, I never thought about it very much, so I have no way of knowing if I have been thinking like this my whole life. Even the thought of starting a family with the love of my life who is very handsome and lovely just makes me feel very romantic, like turned on. (I dont even have a man) Just to clarify: I only feel attracted towards adult men but why does the presence of a kid make me feel more attracted/turned on towards the man? Does this mean I’m a p***? Even today, my piano teacher came over (he gives me home lessons) and my mom was babysitting my niece at the same time. I was telling my niece to be quiet, because she was bothering the piano class. At that moment I felt turned on because somehow I felt like the piano teacher would find me attractive, and see that I’m good with kids, because I’m talking to my niece. Like wtf. Now I’m just so worrried. This did not feel like ocd, it felt like I was genuinely turned on. (towards the piano teacher, not the kid) But the thing that bothers me so much, why does the presence of a kid affect my feelings and attractions towards other people? Does this mean I’m a sick person? Wtf do I do? I know I have ocd and have had it since I was five, but this is just something that doesn’t feel like ocd. Is this bad?? Has anyone experienced anything similar??? I feel like dying it just keeps getting realer everyday. Please share if you know this feeling. Please help.

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polarbearxo1

Date posted: 1y

i think with ur ocd it’s very hard to the distinction with what you actually feel because with ur ocd mind it could distort this and bring you instrusive thoughts of people you care about the most and they could be so horrendous aswell. I feel like since you are questioning it and you feel worried this is just ocd playing with ur mind and ur feelings , if you were genuinely a p*** you wouldn’t feel ashamed or even worried about this so i think you shouldn’t worry. Maybe you just have an attraction to men who care about children because it’s something that you probably care about for your future self if you ever see that for yourself i mean we all want someone who would be good with our own future children or family so i don’t think theres anything other then that.

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Date posted: 1y

Thanks. It’s very hard to put into words. But if I see a handsome man, I’m definitely attracted to him, but when I see a handsome guy with a baby or a toddler, I get even more attracted. And sometimes even turned on. Towards the MAN. This feels like I’m a bad person. Sometimes I get this the other way around, as if I’d like to impress someone, that they see that I’m good with kids. And then I’d feel turned on a little bit because I think that they will be atrracted to me. I am NOT attracted to children. Somehow their presence just makes men in many situations more attractive and that is what I find conserning. It’s very hard to explain but I fear this is a sign of something. If these feelings weren’t from ocd, would they be wrong or a sign of me being a p***?

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