OrMsB

Date posted: 39w

Tw: Groinal response and I’m terrified

So I don’t think I ever had a groinal response until now. Like i hyper focused on the groinal and I don’t understand what I’m feeling. Like I don’t even know if it groinal because every time I hyper focus on this it’s feel like I’m doing it on purpose? I don’t understand. Like I’m focusing on it and then I feel like I do it on purpose. I’m afraid it going to be for life now? What? Yesterday I was better and this today? It’s feel like when I’m focusing on that I’m doing it on purpose. Now I’m trying to block the thought away cause I don’t know if it’s Groinal or not so I don’t want to think about it while I’m having a Groinal or purposely doing a Groinal? I really don’t understand it like I really don’t . It’s feel real. Now I don’t even want to go outside cause what if I see a kid and it will happen cause I’m afraid I’m doing it on purpose

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OrMsB

Date posted: 39w

I will talk with my therapist about it next week but until then I just don’t know what to do. Like how do I not care about it

Daniele.paesano

Date posted: 39w

Just breath my friend. It's very difficult but you can go trought this. You are not a bad person. This obsession are only because of your OCD. You are a great person that is so worried about children that is obsessed about what can harm them. But this doesen't mean that you want to harm them. Means only that you are a sensitive person.

OrMsB

Date posted: 39w

@Daniele.paesano I’m super afraid cause I feel like I’m doing it on purpose when I’m hyper focus on it and I don’t want to do it or have it. Like I’m terrified cause this week I’m going to see my baby cousin and what if I will hyper focus on it and will do it on purpose I feel not ready and I’m terrified because of it

Philipp2024

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 39w

Please don’t block the thought or feeling. This does not work. Allow yourself to feel and think whatever you want even around kids. They won’t be harmed by thoughts and feelings. If you want to tackle it hands on, take some 15-30 minutes each day where you purposefully think of it. Everytime you start ruminating during the exercise you gently get back to the groinal feeling (response prevention).

OrMsB

Date posted: 39w

@Philipp2024 I don’t want to think this thoughts cause what if I do the Groinal response on purpose when I’m focusing on the Groinal I’m terrified to even see a baby right now cause what if this happens? Like I’m going to see my baby cousin this Friday and I’m terrified I don’t want to go but I have to I’m not ready for it

OrMsB

Date posted: 39w

@Philipp2024 Like it’s feels weird cause I’m afraid I’m doing it on lip

OrMsB

Date posted: 39w

@OrMsB Purpose ****

Philipp2024

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 39w

@OrMsB I know that you are afraid you will think of the groinal on purpose. That’s why I’m telling you to do it on purpose as an exercise.

OrMsB

Date posted: 39w

@Philipp2024 I’m not afraid to think about the Groinal on purpose I’m afraid to do the Groinal on purpose so idk how to do the exposure

Philipp2024

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 39w

@OrMsB Sorry for misunderstanding, now I get you. You are afraid of having a groinal when you around or thinking of kids. Yes? First of all read up on groinal response in OCD and find out that the groinal response is not indicative for sexual orientation but an automatic bodily response to certain types of thoughts or stimuli. You are right thinking about an exercise is harder in this case. But I think you being with your little cousin would be a great one, if it does happen. If you get a groinal do the “maybe I’m attracted to him, maybe I’m not” and refocus back on spending some playful time with him.

OrMsB

Date posted: 39w

@Philipp2024 I’m more afraid of having a Groinal response on purpose like what if I do the Groinal response on purpose. I’m sorry if the English is not good it’s not my first language

OrMsB

Date posted: 39w

@Philipp2024 Idk how to move on if I will have a Groinal response on purpose while being with my cousin cause I feel like a bad person

OrMsB

Date posted: 39w

@Philipp2024 Too be honest idk if it’s even Groinal response it’s just happen when I’m focusing on the Groinal (sorry for the details) so i don’t think it’s a Groinal but it’s happend when I’m focusing on it. And I’m afraid to do it while I’m around my cousin and then afraid it will happen

Philipp2024

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 39w

@OrMsB Ahhh, okay so by thinking about it, you make it have a response. And now you don’t want to think of it because that would mean you are doing it on purpose. You cannot control your thoughts. You can test this by trying not to think of a pink elephant for a minute. If you now add the fact that you automatically get the response from the thought, that means, not only can you not control your thoughts it also means you cannot control your groinal response either. So when you cannot control it, the only way is to allow both, the thought and the groinal response to happen. (Accept the things you can’t control and focus on what you can control.) And please don’t let OCD win and cancel the meeting with your little cousin. This would not only let you miss out on a great exercise for this but also have your little cousin miss out on a great time with you.

OrMsB

Date posted: 39w

@Philipp2024 Yea when I’m hyper focused on it I feel it and I feel like I can’t control it. But what if I can’t? And I’m really terrified to go to the meeting because I know I will have it probably if I’m going to hyper focus on it and I don’t want too. I’m scared what if I will be a bad person for this

OrMsB

Date posted: 39w

@OrMsB It’s also happen not only with Groinal but with my tongue , and Saliva (sorry for the details) but my point is when I’m hyper focused on something I can just feel it move and its feel like I do it on purpose but I’m not sure if I do it on purpose so idk

Philipp2024

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 39w

@OrMsB I’m now realizing I’m arguing with your OCD which I don’t want to do. What I really want you to do is accept the fact that you might be a bad person or might not. And be okay with not knowing it. You get to this point by facing your triggers and when your OCD voice says: “this means you’re a bad person”, you respond neutrally with “maybe I am, maybe I’m not” and refocus on life. Btw the hyperawareness of saliva I had recently too. In this case the best thing is to accept the fact that the awareness might ruin your life or maybe it won’t (that was my underlying fear at least). Now that I read your profile and noticed you’re a young person and I’m not, I’m worrying too now, that I’m a bad person for talking about groinal stuff with you. My response is: “maybe I’m, maybe I’m not”.

Anonymous

Date posted: 25w

Will groinals go away with acceptance

I keep getting these groinal responses when I think about kids or see one and it's really distressing, I only just learned that OCD can make you feel that and it's not actually attraction but it's so hard to remember that and I've seen people talking about accepting uncertainty but I'm so scared to think "maybe it's attraction maybe it's not" instead of "no it's not attraction that's disgusting" and idk what to do

Faker6532

Date posted: 22w

Tingling or arousal sensations?

Does anyone else when they have the thoughts, they feel against it, but they still get arousal or tenglings sensations in the groinal area? Because this is what I experienced today and I feel like crap. This is going to be very triggering for a lot of you, but there are a lot of times that I notice things from kids. For example, there is a thirteen year old kid who looks very developed for her age, and I take notice of (and this already sounds creepy to me) her chest. Today with my thoughts, I imagined as if I were touching it, and although I usually "no no or "I don't want to do that", she is a kid, etc., I still get responses in my groinal area, and It felt very real. Even now, I feel as though I am faking it, even though I groan 😮‍💨 from it, and feel as though I am a fraud. Does anyone relate?

Anonynmous19

Date posted: 19w

Pocd groinals

A compulsion i do is if i get a groinal or anticipate it i take a step. Adjust my legs and feet to avoid the groinals. I was carrying my daughter and worry about groinals which sucks. I had groinals when I picked her up but discarded it didnt give it attention. Then when i put her down i had intrusive thoughts about groinals worrying if i get it. I took a step to my right and just sat with the groinals and the thoughts. I do t remember if i took a second step or not but ocd hyper-focused in the groinal sensations and i feel guilty its telling me i took tbe step to get groinals and i sat with it to arouse myself but i think i took the step as a compulsion and my ocd hyperfocused on the ocd and was aware of it and just let it be but ocd is saying i acted on the thoughts and aroused myself i know thats not true.

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