How do ya'll deal with not having any support from family? I had a panic attack yesterday and I didn't know what to do so I called my dad in hope he might offer some support. But all he did was scream at me and said that I should "stop whining". I understand that it might be annoying to deal with a family member with mental health issues. But his comment has hurt me so much and makes me feel like I am all alone in this.
also, sorry that your dad reacted that way. I 100% know how it feels to be unheard and just screamed at. I hope you find the support you need and deserve š¤
Thank you for your kind words. It's just so incredibly humiliating to get scolded for having OCD and panic attacks. There is already so much shame and stigma coming by simply having this illness. And then my own dad treats me as if I am just acting like a toddler throwing a tantrum for attention. As if I could just turn it off When in reality it is a serious debilitating illness, I didn't choose to have.
try to find anyone for support other than family maybe, like a friend? Or you can always try to call crisis lines which offer support! I do that sometimes when I feel like I have no support from anyone.
His reaction might include panic and a sense of helplessness, or even denial. However, it's important to understand that these responses are not driven by any malicious intent. I recommend seeing a specialist for a proper diagnosis if you haven't already. Additionally, consider directing your family to resources that can help them better understand and support someone dealing with OCD.
Yeah, I mean I know that it is probably hard on him as well having me as a daughter with OCD. What get's to me is just the conflicting messages I receive from my parents. Like, they will say things like "We will always be there no matter what" and "You can always call us when you need help". But when I do they get angry with me. I've been with therapist before and git diagnosed. I've also suggested that to my parents but they refuse because and say they don't need it since they are "not the ones having problems".
@Anonymous I think their reaction is because they think that the only way to help you is to make you snap out of it. No matter what is happening, know that they care about you and their reaction doesn't reflect their feelings. They probably just as anxious and terrified of loosing their daughter as you are. Instead of asking them to attend sessions, send them some videos links to watch, it should be softer way to educate them. Good luck to you, dear
@hanysm@gmail.com I am not sure about that. It is not the first time they get angry and scream at me for having OCD issues. Even though I have told them repeatedly that it doesn't make things better. But it actually makes things much much worse. I have told them that it is ok when they want to set boundaries and tell me if I should stop calling them for help. But then they will respond with "No no, you can always call yada yada". I just whish they were honest with me. I understand that they can be overwhelmed with me and my illness. But I don't think it is ok for them to promise support and then react like that when I ask for help.
@Anonymous I have been in their shoes and did exactly what they did. I believed that by pushing my son hard, I could make him see reality and come to his senses. Eventually, things got so bad that I realized I wasn't helping. I needed to educate myself more about the illness and understand what exactly goes through the mind of someone with OCD. Only then could I adjust my behavior with him. Initially, I thought my son could and should control those "stupid" thoughts. Despite knowing he is smart, I couldn't understand why he couldn't stop them. Now, I realize those thoughts are not under his will or control. It's his OCD brain generating those thoughts and the associated feelings of anxiety. Please read this post, and perhaps you can share it with others to help them understand. https://app.treatmyocd.com/community/posts/2043944
No one understands what Iām going through. My husband used to be my biggest supporter but not weāre separated and I try to explain to my parents why Iām upset when I have panic attacks but they donāt get it. For Example: This morning I told my mom I was having a panic attack. And she just kept asking āwhy? Whatās wrong? U were so happy yesterday. When I said, I didnāt know I just was having this panic attack. She did not understand one bit. She just kept asking me why why why? And Iām like I donāt know. š it makes me just wanna stay away from everyone and just isolate because people donāt understand. I know itās not their fault. Iām actually glad they donāt understand because that means theyāre not going through the pain Iām going through.
So I was at a family thing yesterday and my ice was bothering me and I kept washing my hands and my family noticed and started making fun of me for it and it was like non stop it made me feel really alone especially since they clearly know somethingās up but they just make it worse instead of at least trying to helpš
Yesterday I had a panic attack from OCD fears. I live alone, so in my panic I called my mum just to get some emotional support. It did not go well. I was asking for reassurnce to much and basically she got annoyed with me and started to chastise me. She said I was being ridiculous and accused me of just making up my symptoms to emotionally manipulate her. She even went as far as threatening to call the police on me to have me sectioned. I feel so humiliated. I know that I can be annoying during my panic attacks, and that my OCD puts a massive toll on my familiy. But I don't want to manipulate people. Now, I feel like an abuser. In these moments, seeing how much my weakness makes my family suffer makes me just want to not be here anymore.
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