- Date posted
- 35w
any helpful tips?
One of the major concerns with contamination OCD is bodily fluids. What I’m specifically looking for help with is related to sexual activity. I’m going to write in the comments a bit about my journey, but I’m going to get right into what I want advice on to spare you all the time! Recently I was going on some dates with a guy and he was frequently coming over. We’d have sex and then be going about our lives. Spit, semen, and whatever else felt like it was everywhere, and all I wanted to do was get rid of it. Avoid touching anything and disinfect, but clearly to someone without OCD that doesn’t even go through their head. He picked up his phone, started messaging friends, touched things in my room, door knobs, etc. I was mentally keeping track of everything so when he left I could wipe them all down (excessively) and avoiding touching anything myself. I had to wash all the bedding, shower, wash my hair, etc. Then he was coming over again two nights later and I was gonna have to do that all again? It seems like the cross contamination is the issue here, can’t touch this and then touch something else because it will just infinitely spread whatever contamination is being perceived to each subsequent thing. But it seemed like he was just able to go about his life, and from the behaviours I try to observe from friends etc. other people don’t seem to do all that. Friends have invited me over, told me about sex they had the night before, invite me to sit in their beds and clearly haven’t washed anything (which I try to find somewhere else to sit or awkwardly stand lol). Also I’ve never been in a relationship, but I imagine if you are a couple and spending every night together like you aren’t doing all that… So I turn here for some advice on how to fight this or to help get an understanding for what’s normal… anyone have some tips? Just want to feel more equipped cause I’m tired of avoiding parts of my life to accommodate these fears (more info in comments).