- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 38w
ROCD - My Journey So Far
Hey All, So, I’ve always had patterns of ether initially having anxiety when I get dating someone or close to me and the anxiety has become so extreme I believed it to be my body telling me that it was not ‘right’ relationship so I ended so many of them. I have struggled with POCD thoughts in my past and got over them. But I’m back to the ROCD side of things. I met my current partner through work and we never had a honeymoon period. We talked consistently! One day I woke up and said. “I bet myself tomorrow that I’m going to start feeling anxiety”. Then wake up the next day and anxiety rises upon me. My partner knows my OCD and past obsessions. But now this is the killer. She is supportive and has taken so many blows from my OCD with confessions and compulsions. Currently I have this awful feeling all day that I’m so unhappy, irritated, slight anxiety about this relationship. I’m not checking but being drawn to others who are more attractive and I just have to look and I know I enjoy it and do this behind her back. But don’t get anxiety. I have this “knowing” that I am lying and not in the right relationship and continuing because it is easier to carry on than suffer with the abandonment of ending it. But I just find myself worrying about what if she finds out how i truly feel and issues. Now if someone was to read this and say to my back, you need to break up with her and let her go. I’d trigger and get anxious but I know I would only be getting anxious over the truth. But I’d get ‘what ifs’ if we broke up and I made the right decision or wrong decision. I know this is gonna follow me to every and next relationship until I find the one who does not make me anxious. Or work on myself. But I feel that everytime she wants to do something or more commitment I get the voice and the feeling of “I don’t want to” and when I agree and do it or other things I feel like such a liar! Some advice or similarly stories would be great please.