Beachgirl2024
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It’s not bothering me
I was reading Reddit about people finding out there a late bloomer and I relate to all of it and the worse part is it’s not bothering me
Anon56Anon56
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Trust me don't worry. You don't want the anxiety to paralyze you. Behave your way out of it. Then anxiety reduction in many ways is a healing because that means goodbye to those intrusive thoughts too. And plus you are used to it by now. Roll around in grass meet your friends. Having friends helps you be so mindful, which you might miss when you are on your own. be with your family be with those people who pull you to the present really and when you are alone, you should watch movies, and read books or do your thing and allow yourself to be absorbed In it without any fear or anxiety over not being anxious enough. The anxiety is the inertia of your ocd. Once it's lost, ocd, the thoughts will recede. I have tried to be as non- reassuring as possible. Let the doubt stay and leave on it's own. Imagine you are good academic student and you score really high but you don't know if the answer to that one question you wrote is right or wrong. What can you do? You are not getting the sheets back unless the prof sits down to grade them. You will wait and eventually forget about it. After some days it won't matter AT ALL. My ocd filled brain could not have written this yesterday. But today with a dose of reality I am back to being clear touchwood. I hope the same happens for you. Imagine yourself disabling the ocd from your head.
noone9noone9
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Isn't this a good thing?
Beachgirl2024Beachgirl2024
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@Someone99 I mean yeah but it feels like it’s the real me and I want it/like it
noone9noone9
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@Beachgirl2024 You mean the attraction to same sex?
Beachgirl2024Beachgirl2024
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@Someone99 Yes
noone9noone9
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@Beachgirl2024 Themes connected with sexual attraction responses seem to be more complicated but can be dealt with the same way as others. I struggle with this as well. But it's the response that gives the anxiety and keeps us spiralling. "I can't be gay, life will be over if I'm gay..." and so on. It's shaking you at your core so we research... How badly is this affecting your normal day to day life?
Beachgirl2024Beachgirl2024
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@Someone99 24/7 all day everyday and then it goes away for a few weeks and then come back out of nowhere
noone9noone9
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@Beachgirl2024 Are you currently in a relationship, boyfriend, husband?
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@Someone99 No
noone9noone9
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@Beachgirl2024 What if you are a lesbian? (part of my ERP therapy was to write out worse case scenarios, the "what if")
Beachgirl2024Beachgirl2024
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@Someone99 I don’t have a problem with it I just don’t want it to be me
noone9noone9
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@Beachgirl2024 So you can say it's against your core values?
noone9noone9
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@Beachgirl2024 For your life, of course.
Beachgirl2024Beachgirl2024
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@Someone99 Yes but every since I’ve been having these thoughts it feels like it’s changing my values
noone9noone9
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@Beachgirl2024 The challenge is, to not research, investigate, and especially "test" this. These are compulsions and will make it worse. That very well may be the cycle you're in. This is something we need to apply tools to respond differently at the thought level.
noone9noone9
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@Beachgirl2024 And most importantly, build positives in to our lives, healthy positives.
noone9noone9
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@Beachgirl2024 Another thing to consider, are people born gay? That's not a fact, many claim it is, but it's not. A liar isn't a liar unless he tells a lie. So, it's not our thoughts, it's our actions that define us.
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