WHAT IS THIS!

@loganh55 DO YOU KNOW WHAT IT IS?

@ocdinglehopper Sure! It really just sounds like you are having intrusive thoughts, and they are really disturbing you because you may be convincing yourself that these thoughts are important and that they need a response from you or that you need to figure them out in your head, that's why they stay in your mind because you may be feeding into the thought that they are real problems that you need to solve, but in reality they are just thoughts, and that's all. Not every thought deserves a reaction or a response in your mind. Like your brain is creating problems to solve, that aren't actually real. I love to catch myself when I'm having these thoughts, and basically acknowledge the thought, and that's it. I don't respond to it, and it usually goes away. Sounds like your compulsion is telling your significant other about the thoughts(which only reinforces you to keep having the thought) you may just need to acknowledge these thoughts, and let them go instead of trying to figure them out. Because they aren't actually real problems to solve, your brain is just tricking you into thinking they are. Sorry for the long response!!

@loganh55 oh okay thank you! because i read something about false attraction? and i also have this huge fear of repeating my past and everything. and the thoughts just worry me sick, because the thought about his arm, yes i find big arms attractive absolutely, on anyone i would, but its something to do with him it just sent me into a spiral

@ocdinglehopper You know, it could also be a little bit of limerence! Limerence is something I struggle with in any relationship, it goes hand and hand with OCD. But yea, this sounds exactly like ROCD, which the treatment is usually the same as other types of OCD. Limerence kinda is like obsessing over someone you know or have known, you should check it out! A channel I really love is called OCD and Anxiety on YouTube. He goes through every kind of OCD, and all his tricks to help with OCD. Definitely to me at least sounds like classic symptoms of intrusive thoughts that are just really disturbing you, remember that they're just thoughts!!

@loganh55 i mean i dont like any part of him tho? thats the thing.

@loganh55 for it to be limeriance

@ocdinglehopper Yeah, that's very true. You may just have those very disturbing intrusive thoughts

@loganh55 like i genuinely dislike him as a person, and have for a long time because of our terrible past, and how he made me feel

@loganh55 no attachment, nothing. before the intrusive thought

@ocdinglehopper Yeah, that is definitely understandable, sorry to hear you went through that. Unfortunately with ROCD, it seems as if it doesn't matter if you are attached by feelings or not, ROCD is really good at manipulating your subconscious if you let it. I really feel you would benefit from acknowledging the thought, but not exploring the thought or the compulsions that come with the thought!

@loganh55 so, what do you mean? its not limerance or romantic feelings but rocd? because i really do hate the thoughts, the thoughrs did send me into a suicidal spiral one time.

@loganh55 so, what do you mean? its not limerance or romantic feelings but rocd? because i really do hate the thoughts, the thoughrs did send me into a suicidal spiral one time.

@ocdinglehopper I truly believe this is just ROCD specifically

@loganh55 okay, because like even when i was single for a long time, i still got the intrusive thoughts, and they drove me insane, and i still had complusions and didnt wish to hit him up at all.

@ocdinglehopper Yea, this really kinda solidifies ROCD in my opinion, I had the exact same thoughts and a very close scenario to yours, I have gotten psychiatric help in the past for it and was told it was ROCD.

@loganh55 the one thing is, i like always look for jom in areas? and like try to look at his face to see if i find him attractive? and, ever since i did like “talk” ro him, jve always debated if he was attractive. and then this happened

@loganh55 and i try to convince myself i find him attractive, so it’ll stop, like i just tell myself that i do? when i dont even know.

@ocdinglehopper So personally for me, I do not give into the thought, intrusive as they may be. I simply acknowledge that I'm having a disturbing thought, and I let myself know it's okay to have them, and it can stay as long as it wants, but I do not give into the thought. Giving Into the thought kinda sounds like a compulsion to feel that comfort and relief, but you don't really want to do that. Acknowledging your compulsions is a huuuuge step into letting them stay as long as they want, but NOT entertaining them! Don't give them power!

@loganh55 Be okay with not figuring it out

@loganh55 okay, if i did find him genuinely attractive? would i have like this false attraction stuff or debate it? or like worry like i am

@ocdinglehopper Yes, you would. Every person you meet will have attractive traits about them, that's just life, but the thought that you like someone else paired with disturbance and anxiety? It sounds like textbook intrusive thoughts. They come into your mind, cause anxiety and worry because your brain is telling you this is important and you need to figure it out, but it's not. It's just obsessive compulsive disorder in the Intimate relationships category. In my opinion it's very transparent that you're having intrusive thoughts and you may just be playing into the thought that they are important problems, but they aren't.