maybe i dont want to accept the factvthat i lost feelings, maybe i never actually loved my boyfriend and i hust wanted a relationship , i dont want reasurance, but in very scared i dont love him, because it feels real. im scared
The fact that you are afraid you don't love him, is a proof that you do. If you didn't love him, you wouldn't care. The feelings of numbness, is your brain trying to protect you from potential risk of getting hurt if this person is to leave you. Obviously you are a very loyal person, who maybe got hurt before, and to your brain falling in love carries the risk of getting hurt. It is ok, you really care about this person.
With how many times you've posted, this is clearly OCD. I don't mean that in a rude way, I mean that to say that you should trust that from the outside, this is clearly OCD and should be treated like it. You don't need an answer to all these questions right now. The strong feeling that you need an answer right now, shows it's OCD. Treat it like OCD. Lean into the uncertainty, lean into fear, and don't stop doing that. Treatment is hard, but so is living with OCD.
My feelings for him feel like theyre gone, but i want to be with him and i dont want to loose him. How do u know its the relationship OCD? ☹️ This feeling has happened before too, and my "feelings" come back after a fee weeks. Please help. Ive nonstop cried
@Anonymous i feel the same girl. i feel the same. i cry everyday its hard. i feel hopeless i wish i could help you but im in the same boat as you
@Mariabae Is it temporary for you? For me, I’m like that about a month or so and then my feelings come back out of nowhere but the fear remains in my head
@Anonymous i have been like this for over a year
@Mariabae Oh, I’m so sorry 😞 I know you can get through this. My therapist told me that I have to let myself feel the doubt because it won’t go away completely. I know I want to be with my boyfriend and that’s what matters. I am trying to enjoy my time with him even if the thoughts take over. Feelings are not facts, just like sometimes thoughts are just thoughts.
I think I did something I shouldnt have... I reasearched comphet on tiktok and saw a video of a girl explaining how she realised that first she wasnt bi and then she was a lesbian. She was talking all about how when she was with men she was craving "male validation" and wasnt actually attracted to men and that she confused platonnic and romantic love. and that whe she really thought about she realised that she loved being loved and desired by men but that she didnt specifically like men or wasnt attracted to men. She just found them attractive and was not attracted. And that when she broke up with her bf and stop dating man she realised how much more she could feel and how thinking about men gave her the ic. And I real all the comments and everyone was like omg omg omg. Anyways im sooo triggered because I feel like I could relate on some level. Im not sure if I like my bf for who he is or that i love how he loves me. And at first I used to calm my OCD by saying noo noo I love how he loves me but if I imagine breaking up with him it feels like it will be my last time with a men... what is happenning!!!
I was in this game with this person and I noticed his voice was deep, and his avatar looked attractive to me?? and my brain was like “his voice is so??? And his avatar kinda fine too” like omg, shut up, I’m not taken yet but I still want to be in this relationship with this other guy, I feel like there’s nothing I can do and I’ll always be a cheater, I don’t even know how I feel, like do I actually want to cheat??? And it freaks me out because I don’t even know how I feel? Because sometimes I’ll get a feeling that agrees with it, like I’ll have that feeling that wants me to date them and then I’ll hear something like “yeah I would” / “yeah I agree with that” ,, now I feel like I’ll be a cheater and I’m really scared, I would NEVER cheat, nor would I trade this boy for anything, but I can’t do it. I just need to know what to do.
my bf knows abt my googling and talking with chat bgt but does not know about this app, he is at my house and now im alone bc he is at the bathroom and he told me to not google and things but im confused idk what i feel i want to feel good and happy, i was good amd happy today, but now i have a lot of thoughts, my libido is low and i found it hard to kiss and do sexual things. Im scared i will br like this forever amd that i will never want to have sex (i am a virgin) , i will be 18 soon and i hate that i am like this. Im so scared i will never want to do this. i want to, but i always feel strange and my thoughts attack me making me feel so bad. i hate myself for posting here bc it is a compulsion and i feel like a liar, he loves me so much :(
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