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Maria you said that you felt as asexual. But know you are feeling as if you were gay? Have you ever felt sexually attracted to anyone before ocd? If you were truly asexual and things changes to be homosexual what would it mean to you? That’s the key part about ocd, The what if? Can you accept that? And the anxiety? And the uncertainty? Hopefully you find help and start taking your life back.
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Because I’m not sure if how I feel towards others is sexual attraction or just general attraction. When people describe sexual attraction im not sure i’ve ever felt like that, when people say “you just want to rip off their clothes”, I don’t think I’ve ever had that. I’ve had sex with men many times, sometimes it’s been good and sometimes it hasn’t. But I must add to this, sometimes when I end up having sex with these men, it’s not because I am necessarily Sexually attracted to them (I think?) it’s just because we get on and I find them physically attractive to look at. It’s hard to explain! I’ve always thought I was asexual, I never understood why people would have sex, now I understand but I just don’t feel the same. I only enjoy it when I’m in love with a person. I think. It’s confusing ?
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The actual act of sex is pleasing, but its almost as if I have sex with these men just because I know they’re attractive, not because I myself am very attracted to them. Does that make sense ?
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Yeah it doesn’t sound asexual to me, but who knows it’s your own experience and how you relate to them, I can’t even try to figure out that for you. But ocd is a little different than sexual attraction and experiences, and ocd can make them feel very real. And there is when you can make a difference to how you relate to them, either you start avoiding them or facing it head that you don’t really know if you are gay or not. Is tough shit but not impossible hope you find the help you need
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Hi everyone, I’ve been really anxious lately, and I just need to get this out of my head. Someone recently told me that maybe I’m bisexual — that I might be more sexually attracted to women, but more romantically attracted to men. That bisexuality is not 50/50. And ever since I heard that, I’ve been spiraling. The thing is: I don’t want this to be true. It scares me. I don’t feel romantic attraction to women, I’ve never wanted to be in a relationship with one. But yes, I get aroused by fantasies involving women — and that makes me feel broken or like I’ve been lying to myself. I love my boyfriend deeply, I don’t want to lose him. I want to feel fully connected to him, physically and emotionally. But now I’m stuck in this obsessive loop of questioning: “What if I’m just in denial?” “What if I’m not really straight?” “What if this is why my libido is low?” It’s exhausting, and I don’t know if this is OCD, anxiety, or if something is fundamentally wrong. Has anyone else felt this split — romantic feelings for one gender, sexual feelings for another? I feel so alone and scared. Thanks for listening.
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I don't know for sure if I have HOCD, but it seems like I do, I tried to accept the idea that I'm gay, I felt calm, and then I started to get scared because I didn't feel anxiety anymore, I still feel attracted to my girlfriend, both physically and emotionally, but I feel an attraction to boys, sometimes I panic when I feel attracted and sometimes I don't (but most of the time I do) and I don't want to break up with my girlfriend I want to get back to normal
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I really need help understanding what I’m going through. For a long time now, I’ve been struggling with thoughts and feelings about women that confuse and scare me. Sometimes I feel this strange emotional or mental ‘pull’ toward certain women — it’s not exactly sexual, and not clearly romantic either, but it feels like something, and it triggers deep anxiety. When I see a beautiful woman or a WLW (woman-loving-woman) couple, I feel something that I can’t explain — sometimes I think it’s just admiration or aesthetic appreciation, but OCD keeps telling me: “You felt something, so you must be gay,” or “You’re hiding something.” I get stuck in endless loops, trying to analyze these moments and label them. Even when I feel physical or emotional reactions, they don’t feel natural or aligned with who I am. They feel like a reaction to the idea of women, not real attraction. I try to be honest with myself — I even told a friend I might be bisexual at some point, just to test if that felt more comfortable. But it didn’t. It made things worse, and I felt like I lost touch with who I am. I don’t want to lie to myself or live in denial, but I’m exhausted. It feels like I’m being mentally forced to feel something that isn’t mine. I’m 14, and I understand that things might still be developing, but I can’t help feeling like I’ve always been drawn to men, and never naturally wanted women that way. Still, I keep doubting everything. Is this real attraction or OCD feeding false feelings and thoughts? Can OCD create emotional or mental sensations that feel like desire? I’m so scared that I’ll lose myself, or find out something I never wanted. I just want peace and to feel like myself again.
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