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Maria you said that you felt as asexual. But know you are feeling as if you were gay? Have you ever felt sexually attracted to anyone before ocd? If you were truly asexual and things changes to be homosexual what would it mean to you? That’s the key part about ocd, The what if? Can you accept that? And the anxiety? And the uncertainty? Hopefully you find help and start taking your life back.
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Because I’m not sure if how I feel towards others is sexual attraction or just general attraction. When people describe sexual attraction im not sure i’ve ever felt like that, when people say “you just want to rip off their clothes”, I don’t think I’ve ever had that. I’ve had sex with men many times, sometimes it’s been good and sometimes it hasn’t. But I must add to this, sometimes when I end up having sex with these men, it’s not because I am necessarily Sexually attracted to them (I think?) it’s just because we get on and I find them physically attractive to look at. It’s hard to explain! I’ve always thought I was asexual, I never understood why people would have sex, now I understand but I just don’t feel the same. I only enjoy it when I’m in love with a person. I think. It’s confusing ?
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The actual act of sex is pleasing, but its almost as if I have sex with these men just because I know they’re attractive, not because I myself am very attracted to them. Does that make sense ?
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Yeah it doesn’t sound asexual to me, but who knows it’s your own experience and how you relate to them, I can’t even try to figure out that for you. But ocd is a little different than sexual attraction and experiences, and ocd can make them feel very real. And there is when you can make a difference to how you relate to them, either you start avoiding them or facing it head that you don’t really know if you are gay or not. Is tough shit but not impossible hope you find the help you need
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Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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Like I can’t think straight. This is making me doubt everything I’ve thought about myself and even makes me feel like I like the thoughts when I know I don’t. Like I would be less anxious at a time while I still have the thoughts and my mind would go “oh so you like it you must be gay” or the other one where I’m not anxious and I think of my attraction for girls that I’ve had my whole life and my mind goes “see now you’re not into them you’re gay” like it’s so stupid but so effective. I clearly remember being into girls my whole life but my mind is making me believe that all these attractions and feelings for women were all fake or “a thing of the past”. But I can still get aroused by women but I have this weird anxiety going on which brings these sensations/feelings and it’s so weird. Today I’ve spent my whole day thinking about it like I’ve been doing for 5 months now. I know that this aint normal but my mind just won’t let me live in peace. I never cared about my sexuality cuz I simply liked women my whole life but now my sexuality is a fundamental philosophy. I hate this.
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