Anyone female here that also think, women are a little more physically attractive than mean? Don’t get me wrong I find men attractive but I think we’re physically attractive? Idk if I’m explaining myself correctly. Sorry lol (no offense to men what so ever.

Noooo lol, you guys are great! And handsome!!!

Yess exactly omg!!! I thought this made me lesbian. But okay I’m not the only one. But same, I’d find boys cute but it was always when we’d talk and they pay attention to me when I’d crush on them. But definitely agree with you if the sexualize women part. It’s always about women, if you notice they’re everywhere, like in Carl’s Jr. commercials (fast food restaurant) and all that.

@advice? The attraction to boys is like....different and heavy. For girls, we’re expected to put more into our appearance hence why we are more “attractive.” I always thought this too, but I never desired them if you know what I mean. It’s like....girls are pretty and everything, but boys are HOT

@Esosa Yeah I never desired to be with a girl or to touch one, but I think we’re really pretty. I guess it’s because we look at ourselves and what we want, and then we see it on other girls and just think they’re pretty. Or it’s like that in my case.

@Esosa Btw, how are you doing with hocd? You seem so much better.

@advice? It’s a slippery slope. I still get the repetitive thoughts and other stuff that comes with it but the key to getting a grip with it, is to not. Just pretend that your thoughts and anxiety is just a song that you hate playing on the radio. Whenever you’re “driving your car,” it’s best to turn the “music” down and keep in the present.

@Esosa Oh so your thoughts are still present?

@advice? Yep. I just gave up on trying to get rid of them and accept them as JUST thoughts. Your thoughts don’t define you. The more you pay attention to them or try to fight them, the worse they become. I’m also dealing with other themes regarding harm and incest so it’s a killer to move past them. But if I want to get better, then I have to. It won’t go away for you all at once, but you have to figure out a way to live your life regardless.

@Esosa Do you also get false attraction but just ignore it?

@advice? Mostly

I think a lot of guys are gorgeous.

I agree that softer guys are more attractive but honestly it’s just up to the woman’s preference. I think a lot of women are more attracted to personality and stuff like that as well

I don't like big bulky guys, but I appreciate long lean muscle. I think guys arms are really attractive. This is weird but the veins in their arms? Lmao. Wide shoulders are hot too. Mens necks and jaw lines. Even men's hands are attractive. Angular attributes are generally masculine and I personally think they're extremely atttractive.

Personality absolutely tops everything though.

@hateocd123 okay yes I always get anxious because I don’t have the same things to sexualize on men that I do on women (boobs, butts). and I always like guys’ arms and shoulders but I’m like is that enough? like is that as sexy as boobs and stuff but I think again that media has made us sexualize women in that way. it’s just stuff we have to unlearn I guess

yeah I feel like men are sexualized through abs and masculinity but for girls who aren’t really attracted to that kind of thing it can get confusing ?? and just having hocd and rocd is the cherry on top lol

Well what does a female in any other species seek out in a mate? I'm not too familiar on the sex/gender roles of early humans, but looking at Primates females tend to go for larger males. Why do males have more muscle mass than females in the first place? I think strong arms and wide shoulders could be seen as attractive from an evolutionary standpoint, just as boobs are attractive to men. Being able to produce healthy strong offspring means a better chance at survival. Makes for beneficial selective breeding=sexually attractive as far as the primitive mind goes.