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I think saying you can “change orientation” is flat out nonsense. I might as well say if you turn your car on you have an in increased probably of growing horns and wings. Your brain just can’t physically change from straight to gay or vise versa, as much as contracting psychopathy. That’s just fictitious babble. If this was so conversion therapies would work, but they don’t you see. Sexual orientation does NOT fluctuate over time, I have yet to see a scientific paper documenting this happening. And if it did the probability of this happening is near zero. Normally I hear this from misinformed people trying to spread some stupid agenda. If it changes that would be implying that homosexuality is a disease, which it is NOT. They say it changes like the flip of a switch, but that’s just honestly laughable. I can tell you I had HOCD, I sure as hell didn’t “turn gay” or bi or whatever. The odds of this phenomenon happening are so extremely low it’s entirely in your favor. I don’t mean to give reassurance, but it’s a straight up fact, sexual orientation DOES NOT change. It is fixed in your brain since day one. Losing your attraction does NOT mean your “sexual orientation is changing”. For instance, I adore the video game series Elder Scrolls, if for some reason lose my desire to play it, does that mean I hate the game? Absolutely not. It’s just called a decreased libido. And on a side note, most people who are bisexual figure it out WAY before their adults. There’s no evidence for this happening, and if there is, I bet it’s 100% trying to spread and agenda to make more people bi. Give me multiple papers which are unbiased documenting this, I bet nobody can give me any. Thank you, have a great day.
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Periottttt
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I’ve heard people know from a young age, I right now have hocd, and it makes you seem gay. But how about people who are bi but turned straight, how the fuck does that happen?
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@GummyDrop I’ve never heard of bi people turning straight. Unless there’s and unbiased scientific paper on that I would take it with a mountain of salt. Changing sexual orientation would take physical brain changes and grey matter gain or loss in order for that to actually happen. And ironically enough the part of the brain for sexual orientation is known to be fixed.
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@TheReptileCyka How did you overcome your HOCD?
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@TheReptileCyka I know who said they were bi and now their straight, you’ve got a point you will need physical changes and it’s confusing me, I heard other story’s of this too
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@vivlola I went through ERP therapy for it. But I still have other OCD themes, but it takes work to get through it.
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@GummyDrop I’d take those stories as fiction, did you know eyewitness testimonies and personal experiences are the worst form of evidence to bring to the table? They could lie, exaggerate, and fear monger.
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@TheReptileCyka I know someone in school that told me that so.... idk I was surprised was she told me she was bi and now she’s straight
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@GummyDrop No wonder where you got that from then. She was probably just labeled herself as bi because she thought it was “trendy” or “cool”.
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This thread was... i knew i shouldt have clicked but i did lol. Anyway gosh all the things they say are so complicated and all and im sure that its not the case for us like its not natural at all. If it was wouldnt there be waay more people around us that would be having a sexuality switch out of nowhere. I litteraly know no one? Very technically seen it might be possible but hocd aint that deep. Its litteraly proven to be a form of hocd so dont get it twisted please its so triggeing for yourself. Embrace that its hocd so that u know its not you who keeps feeding the lies to your brain but its hocd.
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I’ve just read some things that say it’s common in women and that is scary but i dont know how accurate and that just sucks for HOCD people
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I believe it's entirely possible under many circumstances. i came across research papers that some antidepressants can cause a change in orientation BASED ON THE INDIVIDUALS DNA. so it's not common. also, I think women are more sexually fluid - my opinion - and I also believe that straight male prison inmates can switch orientation based on their circumstances - no available women
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These comments were, extremely triggering :D
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So true
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Yeah this makes my hocd worse.
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Yes, it is normal for sexual orientation to fluctuate over time, for instance many people do not realize their bisexual orientation until well into adulthood, and many (but not all) bi people find their attraction to the same sex waning after marriage. However, it has been well researched that ‘conversion therapy’ a particular kind of unorthodox counseling purporting to be able to change someone’s innate sexual orientation, is both ineffective and leads to further trauma and dysfunction. If you have experienced a significant change in orientation (for instance never being attracted to women and married, but suddenly losing all attraction to your husband and other men) particularly if it involves physical changes to the menstrual cycle, balding, fatigue or hot flashes, please talk to a physician (ideally endocrinologist) as this may be a symptom of underlying hormonal imbalance such as testosterone insufficiency in men and premature menopause in women, or a benign endocrine growth (I had one on a parathyroid gland which went undiagnosed for 3+ years which made me lose my sex drive for both genders and interest in my girlfriend who was still very enthusiastic and beautiful)
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well at least you're laughing. I feel so bad now. one of my OCD issues is guilt over hurting people even if they are not really hurt. my therapist says I own people's emotions. not good.
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don’t even worry. we’re all going through the same thing (that’s why we’re here) and u were just putting your thoughts down.
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love the name btw
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I wouldn’t get into a relationship until I get my shit fixed
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yeah. probably shouldnt have said that. inconsiserate. I'll go back to pressure washing the driveway and stay off here.
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sorry vivola
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okay ya no I don’t think it’s possible for it to change but maybe for people to realize over time that they’re attracted to both and not just one gender? but I’m pretty certain it can’t just change... and for the male inmates... it doesn’t change lolll they just want something to cum in and they don’t care if it’s a man or woman because they’re literally stuck in prison, sometimes for life, and a lot of times it’s not even consensual sex.
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I...wish...i never would have walked into this thread
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this is the reason I quit facebook
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Yeah I feel like this goes against everything HOCD people find comfort in haha
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? im scared that will happen
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I think your born with being gay or bi from birth, You will realize your gay or bi from a young age. I heard people who came out say they knew from a young age. I’m have hocd and this is scaring me, I’ve always liked boys and now girls gives me anxiety. This is uncomfortable
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this thread just keeps growing and growing...
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World War 3
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fuck yeah...one simple question and boom...en fuego!!
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Do you have ocd?
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hell yeah. pretty bad too at times. mines many times focused on my relationship and questioning it. other times it's my health - primarily anything dealing with my happy place down below. oh, and my earlier comment about dropping Facebook. I got into a heated battle like this one time and regretted what I posted and agonized over that for weeks. klonopin calmed me down. yeah, you could say I have it.
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Can we talk you seem to have interesting topic to talk about?
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how about you gummydrop?
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I have mother fucking hocd and little pocd and it’s sucksss
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yeah. it all sucks. I had a major meltdown two weeks ago. total extreme panic attack because of an intrusive thought.
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I listen to music I suggest listening to NF “the search” he also raps about ocd
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I can u understand that feeling about a relationship. my SO has been right there by my side but is exhausted right now dealing with my emotional rollercoaster
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Bruh, I’ve never had anyone like me before how the hell will I even get into a relationship
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I'll check it out. I have a coping mechanism too. I listen to Alan Watts on YT. be was a philosopher of zen buddhism and just listening to him and his views soothe me. has nothing to do with OCD but you got to use what works for you. thanks
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I listen to NF a rapper who talks about ocd
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well, I think it just comes down to realizing EVERYONE has some shit that's wrong with them. being open to the possibility has to be there
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Wrong? Ocd is something you choose
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possibility of forming a relationship
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Huh?
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I didnt choose my OCD. been there since I was a little guy
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Yeah, I wondering if there’s someone who can help me with my ocd in my doctors?
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do u have a therapist?
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No
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My mom doesn’t even help, who will?
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maybe a therapist. I love going to mine. helps me develop tools to manage ocd
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Did you pay? I want a ocd therapist too
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insurance pays
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Shit I’m still young idk what to do
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@GummyDrop I’m still in school
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are you covered under your parents insurance?
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Idk what your talking about sorry? My parents don’t speak English and I only live with my mom
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This is hard I want this ocd to ? stop
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What should I do?
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your parents should have health insurance that would pay the therapist bill
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Idk they don’t speak English and their not American but we live in California, I have a doctor that’s all
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Idk what to do
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@GummyDrop what language do they speak? communicate with them and you can ask about insurance or therapy
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@rlr I only live with my mom, idk if she’s willing to take my to therapy she said it’s not that serious
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@GummyDrop I’m sorry :/ my parents aren’t from America either and at first they were not fully on board with therapy but then after they tried it themselves and saw how beneficial it was they understood. tell her that you’re really not feeling well and you think that would help you a lot
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@rlr Yeah I told her, she said talk to the teachers at school since she doesn’t understand what I’m tryna say, idk if I’ll ever talk to a ocd therapist tho, since idk if there one close to my house or have the money, should I just deal with it and accept that fact that I’ma live like this forever, and just move on with my day
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@GummyDrop watching videos online of ocd therapists or specialists talking about the issues helps when u can’t go to a therapist yourself! I’m sorry she’s not understanding what you’re saying :/
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@rlr This is hard I have school tomorrow and everyone seems happy
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Ok so I’m a 17 year old female, and I’ve always thought I was straight. But I just really want to know how you would know the difference between so-ocd and actually questioning your sexuality. I have nothing against the LGBTQ community (in fact I am very much a token straight friend, lol) but I saw a video about comp-het recently and it sort of felt like what I was experiencing. I don’t want to be gay, I want to be with men, I want to like men, I’ve always liked men, but now I’m questioning whether or not that’s real? Because people can be gay but not want to be right? I’m single and I always have been. I think women are gorgeous, but when I try to imagine actually having any sort of romantic or sexual relationship with a woman it feels wrong, at least most of the time it does? Sometimes I’m less sure, and I’ve never been particularly boy crazy. I’ve liked maybe 2 or 3 people in my life, (not to say I’ve never found other guys attractive, but it doesn’t seem to be as often as most people) I have no particular reason to be afraid of being gay, very supportive family, safe area ect, but I don’t want to be, does that mean this is ocd, I don’t know what’s going on every time I say I’m straight I feel like I’m lying, but that might just be because I think about it so much. The idea of being with a woman doesn’t feel like something I would want, but is that just because I don’t want to want it? People online say things with so much sureness, if you feel like this it means this. Ect.
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I feel so sad, alone, scared and hopeless. Until two months ago there was not even the remote possibility of being anything other than heterosexual and now the idea that I could find out that I was lesbian or bisexual terrifies me to death. Everything was born from the fact that I didn't feel sexual desire towards my ex-boyfriend and I started to be afraid that it was because I was a lesbian... how can I be a lesbian or bisexual if everything was born from this? I would like to run away from myself and my head. I would really like to go back and go back to my life before. I can't take it anymore. I just want to live my life like before
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Can sexual orientation ocd make you act on your fears and make you have same sex experiences ever and then after the experience realize that’s not what you are or want?
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