I’m having the need to confess that I was unfaithful to my girlfriend (even though I was not) because I drank too much Saturday night and don’t remember every single second from my evening. My OCD immediately goes to that I cheated on my girlfriend and I need to confess my sins. I know it’s only OCD, but the thoughts are extremely strong. Any suggestions? Thank you, community.
I get the same exact thing but with different themes. If I can’t remember a detail I automatically insert the worst case scenario! Even though I know the worst case scenario was actually physically impossible!
I would try to be as honest as possible.. if you 2 are open with each other about mental struggles then i would hope she would understand. I would simply say, whether it makes sense or not, my ocd is telling me things that aren’t true. It’s telling me I’m a bad person and did x,y&z, but i know that i did not. I want to tell you to make myself feel better but i know that it’s just in my head. If she understands your ocd then great! If she doesn’t completely understand, maybe find some resources or videos that could explain it to her from an outsiders perspective.
i get the exact same fear! ocd feeds onto the unknown, so now i tried to avoid drinking all together. the thing i always remind myself is no matter how drunk you are, your morals will not change. due to the fact that your OCD is making you scared that you cheated shows that cheating goes against your morals. therefore, you would not have done it even if you do not remember the night. a lack of memory does not mean the worst happens.
I’ve been recently dealing with this as well! But from something from 12 months ago, I just created it in my head. I was recalling the night and I’m like what if something happened in the bathroom stall etc and I didn’t feel this way when it happened when the memories were fresh. So I keep on trying to remind myself of this.
Thank you, everyone! I’m truly grateful for all your responses.
⚠️ TW sexual themes ⚠️ I have OCD regarding sexual themes. I struggle with real event/false memory OCD, and I used to struggle with different sexual sins before me and my boyfriend were together. My OCD tells me that if we get married, and we consummate our marriage, that it’ll be sex under false pretenses if I don’t confess everything I’ve ever thought/done in regards to my past. It makes me feel like when we do end up exploring the sexual aspect of our relationship, that it’ll be SA unless he knows everything. OCD is ridiculous. Can anyone relate to this? The thought of hurting him in that way actually makes me sick to my stomach and makes me shake.
I can't tell if this is OCD to be honest, but with how much I'm focusing on it, it has to be some form or another. My mom and I have never had the best relationship. Ever since I was 6 years old, my OCD has always made me feel like I need to confess my own guilts to her. Our relationship has gotten infinitely better ever since I started therapy a few years ago. Her and I have been able to talk about a lot of things in the past and she's apologized for a lot of things. Recently I've been remembering more real events that make me want to cry. I don't want to keep bringing up things to her that she's done wrong. Especially this current memory, as it was years ago and I know she didn't mean any ill-intent. I don't want to hurt her by bringing this up, because I don't want her to think I'm blaming her or make her feel like a bad mom. I can't tell if this is something I need to talk about with her to get closure, or if this is my OCD disguising itself so I can "confess" to get relief. I'm so tired, I can't stop thinking about it. I'm not even sure if I'm remembering things right anymore. Sorry if this isn't OCD or I sound crazy.
Hi everyone this is my first post on here but I need advice relationship ocd and ocd in general has taken such a toll on my life as of recently my boyfriend and I decided to not be together we still communicate we’re on good terms and he’ll be visiting soon( long distance) recently a friend I went to school w dad passed and it got me thinking of another friend (male) I used to have feelings for him LONG ago my boyfriend knows of that and I searched his name on Instagram recently and now I feel extremely guilty for this and feel like I need to confess this to my partner did I do something wrong? is this a normal feeling with ocd? someone please give advice.
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