i feel bad for my boyfriend

He loves me and complimenta me and saya beautiful things and does many things for me, he says he loves me and he is there for me, but me.. i cant even say i love you without doubting, i am doubting my feelings my atractuon for him, everything, i feel so bad, i dont want to be like this, i hate myself . He is precious and genuine and im scared im not, i have moments when i am happy … but rn i am sad. I saw him today. i dont know what i felt but as im writing this i feel guilt amd fear. Scared that i may be pretending. I want to be happy, what if im not happy with him.. it cant be.

Relationship OCD

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 19h ago

You’re in a cycle right now.. and you’re not alone. I also have ROCD, but this time around I’m doubting how he feels for me. If he’s lying, if he’s doing things behind my back, if he does things to hurt me and hides it… try to sit with these thoughts but don’t engage with them! Don’t try to pick them apart and analyze. OCD demands certainty and absolutes. Just sit with them, let it pass. It’s gonna suck but don’t cave into the cycle. Try to think “rationally” which means for us, look at the facts. Not what your mind thinks is facts. But true, real, facts.

Username: issphra 🫶🏻issphra 🫶🏻

Date posted: 19h ago

I know how hard this is—it really hurts. I remember seeing my boyfriend smile at me, looking so happy and in love, and it broke my heart into pieces because I was drowning in doubt from OCD. Sometimes, when he looks at me like I’m his whole world, I just burst into tears. He tells me, “I love you so much” with so much confidence, and it makes me feel nauseous—like I’m undeserving, evil, or lying to him. But here’s the truth: OCD is the liar. Doubts are normal, but OCD takes them and twists them, amplifying them into something unbearable. You’re not alone in this, and you’re stronger than you think. The key is to do your best not to analyze these thoughts. Ask yourself this: when you’ve tried to analyze and figure them out before, has it ever worked? Probably not. And if it did, the doubts just came back with more “what ifs” and “buts.” Analyzing feeds the cycle and gives you the same outcome as letting go—except letting go will help you step out of this endless whirlpool of uncertainty. Try this: with the next intrusive thought you have, don’t engage. Just let it go. Remind yourself, “That’s just OCD talking.” The thought will probably come back, but every time it does, practice letting it go again. The more you do this, the more you’ll weaken OCD’s grip and create space for peace. It’s not easy, but you can do this one step at a time.

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 15h ago

“OCD is the liar” is so true!! I’m in a flare up again, (my 6th one today) I’m sitting with it this time… instead of my compulsion of needing constant reassurance. It causes an argument between my spouse and I because he hurts that I can’t trust him, when he’s never given me a reason not to(rational fact) but my OCD says “yeah but what if..” my OCD WANTS TO BE RIGHT. Please know that too with ROCD. It wants to be right.

Username: vincenzokeezvincenzokeez

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 18h ago

Maria, why can’t you access therapy and where are you based?

Username: MariabaeMariabae

Date posted: 10h ago

@vincenzokeez because of my parents, they think i can be better on my own and that i dont need it, they say i can do something else with the money and dont understand me

Username: vincenzokeezvincenzokeez

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 7h ago

@Mariabae - Are you UK or US based?

Username: MariabaeMariabae

Date posted: 6h ago

@vincenzokeez no, im from europe

Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 23w ago

Guilt ocd

Idk if it’s ocd or not. But I’m feeling so guilty for thinking this. It’s bothered me since I started dating my bf. We been together 9 months now and he’s 5’8 and I’m 5’0. I understand how shallow and stupid it is to care about height. As every guy I spoke to has been about 5’8-5’10 idk why I care. It’s been bothering me how much I care about it. I’m in love with him so much but it isn’t getting out of my head how “I wish he was a little taller” I don’t want him to be 6’ or anything but even a bit taller. He’s also just smaller too and I feel so damn bad saying this and thinking it. He knew I felt this way in the beginning cuz someone told me and I told him it’s not how I felt now and I grew to love him so much so idc and it is true I don’t care he’s taller than me so who cares? And he’s the best person I’ve ever met and I don’t ever want to lose him. I have never ever felt this way for anyone ever I want to marry this man but I can’t stop fucking thinking this and it’s causing me so much guilt I don’t know what to do

Username: toey

Date posted: 20w ago

Help rocd/hocd

It feels like my boyfriend is ‘another compulsion” because he makes me happy and that is what ocd does, but when he is gone, my mind can go everywhere. Mostly thinking im not attracted to men (im bi and for some reason i feel like i have to choose 1 gender, and that that would be women) even though i know that i dont have to choose and can just be happy with my bf. But then my mind can go “but are you happy” or “youre not aroused right now or aroused enough so your gay or you dont like bf” Thats really hard, because my one of my biggest fears is being with a man all my life (having a family etc) and then falling in love with a woman and throw it all away. I really really love my boyfriend, but it can feel like this is not my real identity and im doing the wrong thing. Like when im not thinking about it, if thats maybe my ocd and not the overthinking. Does anyone understand?

Username: Anonymousesti

Date posted: 18w ago

SOOCD and Tiktok

I think I did something I shouldnt have... I reasearched comphet on tiktok and saw a video of a girl explaining how she realised that first she wasnt bi and then she was a lesbian. She was talking all about how when she was with men she was craving "male validation" and wasnt actually attracted to men and that she confused platonnic and romantic love. and that whe she really thought about she realised that she loved being loved and desired by men but that she didnt specifically like men or wasnt attracted to men. She just found them attractive and was not attracted. And that when she broke up with her bf and stop dating man she realised how much more she could feel and how thinking about men gave her the ic. And I real all the comments and everyone was like omg omg omg. Anyways im sooo triggered because I feel like I could relate on some level. Im not sure if I like my bf for who he is or that i love how he loves me. And at first I used to calm my OCD by saying noo noo I love how he loves me but if I imagine breaking up with him it feels like it will be my last time with a men... what is happenning!!!

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