How do you guys get past the anxiety? I feel like my thoughts are the only thing that control my mind. So often I feel like I should just leave my partner even tho I love them so much because I just feel like these thoughts are too much. I over analyze everything. I feel so stuck and defeated. I just want to be normal. I feel so toxic for the thoughts that I have
Try using rpms “like compulsions keep me stuck” and being able to let those thoughts pass. Sometimes you have to sit with this anxiety feeling without letting it get the best of you. Because spoiler, that’s what ocd wants, it feeds off you feeling out of control and to do more compulsions to give it power. But trust that you are in more control even with the worst thoughts and even when it may not feel like it. And leaving wont make it any easier even though it feels like that’s the only answer, it’s not. You can and will start to live with these thoughts, they may trigger you again or they won’t or both. But know that you are more in control than you think you are.
Do you feel like you know the truth and it is in your bones you don’t like them?
@521mullax No I know I care about them and love them a lot. I just feel like I’m the problem and every time something feels even a little bit wrong I convince myself they’re just done with me and staying because they feel obligated because they feel bad for me. Idk if that makes sense
thoughts are not threats and feelings are not facts. don't make decisions based on feelings (especially knowing that OCD is a feeling problem) resist the compulsions, the goal isn't to get past the anxiety its to go thru it and learn its not dangerous.
Hello, I would say you should start therapy, if you haven't already. Don't let OCD win and take the things that matter most to you. Try telling yourself (OCD) that you don't know what the future holds and that's ok because you don't need to know. It sounds like you are in an OCD loop and the only way to break that is through ERP. The only way out is through. You can do this!! Talk to a therapist, the ones on NOCD are incredible.
So i use to get a lot of relationship OCD. I recently got into a relationship two months ago. i have been experiencing some relationship OCD thoughts like “do i like my partner enough” and to complete the compulsion of telling them that i am having this thought. I use to be able to conquer them but after bringing it up in therapy it got worse. does anyone have any recommendations on how to conquer this compulsion and thought? I don’t want to scare my partner away.
I just started dating this guy not too many months ago. he is everything i ever wanted and he treats me right. but now my OCD intrusive thoughts are creeping back in. ones like “do i love him/like him” and like “i have to tell him im having these horrible OCD thoughts or we will never know how i truly feel.” but i know i love/like him. And sometimes I’ll be having a good day and then BAM, the thoughts smack me in the face and i get stuck in an anxious loop and it ruins my mood. how can i break this compulsion without feeling so anxious and do i tell him i’m having these thoughts to relieve the anxiety?
something that really bugs me and gets in my head with my rocd is that for most of my relationship i’ve had this nagging anxiety and ocd about it. i can accept my thoughts for the most part, but have this underlying fear that this one could really mean something and that makes me feel guilty! i don’t want to loose her but my mind tells me i do because ive had these thoughts. it’s even coming up in my dreams now! i had a dream last night that i cheated and it made me panic all today and feel so bad and this thought came up again! any advice?
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