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How do you stop OCD before it starts
So maybe the title wasn't the best to to put it but when you guys start having obsessive thoughts how do you stop them before it turns into compulsions and anxiety?
So maybe the title wasn't the best to to put it but when you guys start having obsessive thoughts how do you stop them before it turns into compulsions and anxiety?
I am not sure if this will help but it has helped me recently :) I can't always stop the thoughts but I try to recognize that they are out of my control and redirect my actions/thoughts as best as I can by focusing on a separate activity or physical movement. I saw a post recently showing the difference in neural activity across psychiatric disorders, and OCD was full of various hills and valleys when compared to the other waves. In these "valleys", neural activity gets stuck, which to me represents the consuming feeling of obsessive thoughts. When I've felt thoughts coming on recently, I try to visualize the "ball" of neural activity in a valley, and then work on pushing the ball out and back on "track", which is also my way of pushing out the negative thoughts. I hope this helps you somehow!
It takes practice and trial & error, and over time you’ll find what works best for you. When you do feel the anxiety come in, you can address it before it worsens. I like to verbally say what my OCD wants me to do, then announce how I will address it instead. For example, I worked through driving OCD. It’s very manageable now, but there are moments where my OCD wants to sneak in. So I’ll say out loud, “ok OCD, you want me to ruminate over getting into a car accident. But I’m going to drive anyway, and not give in to the rumination. Maybe I’ll crash my car, maybe I won’t.” Sometimes I add humor, like “it would be so hilarious if I get into an accident. I hope I do. I would laugh and laugh.” It helps lessen the feeling that my thoughts are urgent. If I do end up doing a compulsion, I’ll acknowledge that I did and why (like what reassurance I was seeking by doing the compulsion), and resolving to not continue. When I’m stressed, I’ll re-direct by saying “ok OCD, you can hang out while I keep working, I’m going to ignore you but you can come along.” Overall what helps me is just grounding myself by understanding my OCD is coming up and what my plan is. I also work on not listening when my OCD tries to convince me that some made up scenario or intrusive thought is urgent. Follow your values and the OCD gets quieter 😊
Thank you for sharing this! I think I get it but could you expand on having a "plan" I may be over thinking it or just don't understand entirely but I'd really appreciate it!
@Anonymous Of course! So for me, my plan is how I want to face my thoughts and how I’ll continue going on with my day. Sometimes, that may be a plan of reminding myself that I will not ruminate, until the urge to do so lessens. Other times, the plan could be to do exactly what my OCD doesn’t want me to do. Yesterday I drove to San Francisco, and my ocd was coming up. So my plan was to drive anyway, and to not cancel my trip to be “safe” like my OCD wanted. And my plan was to remind myself that my values right now are to live my life. So it depends on how severe my OCD feels, but my plan is my personal reminder of how I’ll work against my OCD
@MichelleV Thank you!
So while you can't exactly stop your OCD -- it is, for better and for worse, a part of all of us at a cellular level -- you can treat it with Exposure and Response Prevention tools. There's really no way to stop or prevent the anxiety created by these intrusive thoughts, but you CAN prevent the compulsions. The anxiety is what triggers the compulsions so, if you sit with that anxiety (rather than running from it or trying to "fix it" by doing compulsions), and you face that anxiety and those troubling thoughts head on without do a compulsion, gradually you will start to experience relief and those thoughts, and that anxiety, and by proxy those compulsions, will all start to diminish... Hang in there and keep at it!
Dealing with obsessive thoughts before they escalate into compulsions and anxiety is a challenge many face. It makes sense to want to find a way to stop them in their tracks. While stopping the thoughts isn't usually the goal in OCD treatment, changing your relationship with them and resisting compulsions can significantly reduce their power and the distress they cause. Help is here at NOCD and we can assist you in finding outside help if needed too. Also here are some helpful resources: https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/always-zoning-out/ https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/ocd-and-adhd/ https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/the-3-steps-you-can-take-to-regain-your-life-from-ocd/
Common posts on here are "i had a thought" "why am i thinking this" "what if" and these are all OCDs way of making you doubt yourself while taking you round and round in never ending circles at the same time. Regardless of the theme you are facing, there is no "figuring out" or "making sense" of a thought, because it isn't a real situation - it's a passing word or image or scenario without any meaning attached. You can't control your thoughts and the more you "don't want to have them" the more they will appear. For instance, tell yourself not to think about "apples", it will be the first thing that comes to your mind, because that's just how our minds work. Once you categorise a thought as "bad", every time it comes into your mind, your anxiety level will go up and this makes the thought seem real. Because if it "Feels" this bad, surely it must mean something or must have happened - But none of this is true. All we have to do is naturally notice thoughts as they come up, and rather than try to assess or ruminate over the content, we can almost shrug them off. It's the only way to accept thoughts as simply thoughts and nothing more. Anxiety drives the intense feeling and the more attention you give to thoughts, the more power they have over you. No random thought can change your real intentions. OCD is never ever satisfied, so the only way forward is to accept the uncertainty of never knowing "for sure" and to class the unwanted thought as irrelevant. OCD says "quick..bad thought..feels horrible.. what does it mean.. fix it". But in reality there is nothing bad here or nothing to be fixed, it's a false alarm. Once you learn to respond to a thought calmly by working on anxiety, it gets easier over time. It's your perception of your thoughts that needs to change, you believe they mean something about you, but random things pop into our heads all the time - both things we like and things we don't. OCD also latches onto what we care about most and it always comes with a feared consequence, so think about what yours is, e.g "what happens if my worst fear comes true" you can then practice imaginal exposure which is imagining your worst case scenario over and over until you become desensitised to it and no longer fear it - therapists use this technique in sessions. Everyone in the world has thoughts, the thoughts are not the issue, you just get more of what you focus on, up until the point that you can change your attitude towards the thought. If I asked you if you went upstairs today you would have an answer straight away, however if I asked you a question related to your OCD theme, your anxiety would increase and you would doubt yourself, because that's OCD doing the thinking for you. Once you give it less power it becomes a less significant part of your day. It's so easy to give into compulsions as they feel like a "quick fix".. but as I mentioned, ocd is never happy, which is why it wants us to continue to check and seek reassurance. Once you start reducing and gradually stopping compulsions, whether this is rumination, checking, or a physical action (whatever you falsely believe is "keeping you safe" from your feared consequence) you will see it's not necessary to do them, and that the time consuming little things you have taught yourself to do have no effect on what actually happens in real life. Thoughts prompt feelings and feelings prompt actions - meaning - thoughts cause anxiety and anxiety drives unnecessary actions. As a side note, I overcame contamination ocd (I was in a very very bad way and now the theme doesn't bother me anymore). I still have OCD and it can affect me slightly at times, but i can manage it in a way that it doesn't interfere with my day and without the need to carry out compulsions. Please practice, because I promise it helps, it's super scary at first and extremely difficult but the end result is worth it. ERP therapy is also very helpful.
it’s like when i fix one thing a new fixation comes along. how can i prevent this from happening? how do i keep my progress intact instead of making progress in one thing and going back on another?
I’m a bit curious, I’ve come up with many ways to handle them, I don’t have therapy, but how do ya’ll deal with them? Is it normal to come up with other compulsions to kinda just tame them? Or to convince yourself they’re not real? I’ve had different ways of handling them, but most times I get obsessed with the way of handling it or the thought that helps me beat the bad/concerning/thoughts to the point it just stops working and I need to find a more effective thought, compulsion or thing.
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