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SAME OMG. I’m going back to my home city in Russia and I am going to see my whole family and all of my friends and I feel like I will NOT enjoy it whatsoever because I have tocd
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Thanks everyone for the supporr! Truly helps :) @margo1 i understand completely. I always see my fsmily not so much but when i do Its just so cozy and warm and i always look forward to it. Except now with hocd. Now i lowkey dont want to go bevause i know Im going to be anxious instead of happy. Its like all these years before and i met my family have a special place in my heart they have like a certain vibe. I know this year i wont have that cozy warm vibe and thats why i dont want to go bevause i dont want it to ruin the place is has in my heart. Id rather avoid it than have pain while going. I truly hope for you you will have an amazing time and that ur Tocd wont be in the way to much!
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Thank you so much!! I understand about the cozy vibe like sitting together watching television or just goofing around in general with your family is so special and I only get to see them like once a year or two. And now it’s all ruined because all I will be thinking about is becoming a dude? I want my old self back
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I just have no dreams at all. Nothing i desire, nothing i live for just nothing i want to accomplish. Its so empty inside of me
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You will be okay, storms come and go. OCD has its highs and lows. Don’t think so much about thinking if you are enjoying something. OCD wants you to analyze everything, think about it as if you are watching cars drive by, you are just watching them and not judging them or asking questions. OCD on the other hand will look at the cars and go “how’d this one get here” “what’s the purpose of that one” “this one looks kinda like (insert fear here)”. That’s just OCD and anxiety for ya. Don’t judge yourself for having the thoughts keep them in the background just acknowledge them but don’t take ownership of them. You will get better, I promise ??
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You should watch Ali greymond hocd YouTube she really helped with my pure ocd
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@margo1 ugh it sounds freaking horrible what ur going trough. Ive experienced a lil tocd befofe and its verg similar to hocd. I judt hate that it has to ruin the special family moment. It always was so genuine and so pure and now it feels like those moments are poisoned by ocd and i hate that i have to feel so unpure about jt all the time. Im alwyas here if u need soemone to talk to!
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Its also so hard for me to see everyone around me still being themselves and jusr not understanding what ik going trough and i just wish they saw what i feel and than things Would make so much more sense for them. Also like do ppl unferstand how lucky they are for not going trough this, they litteraly didnt got interupted in life by this mental ilness and thats a big blessing. I wish i wouldve just grown up further being me and becoming the woman i was supposed to but ugh this thing just put a big wall Im front of it and its ruining myself and my growth. I hope better days will come
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Same. Good luck xx
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So my OCD has been bad lately. I’ve been ruminating and obsessing over my sexuality again. And it just keeps getting worse. I hate it so much. I try to sit with the discomfort but then my ocd does the backdoor spike. And the groinal response is what keeps me looped. It SUCKS. I am not attracted to men, but my OCD is trying SO hard to convince me that I am. There have been days where I’m just so mentally exhausted that I “accept” what my ocd tells me and I just walk around a hollow, lethargic shell. But then I rethink it and I feel better. It feels like I can only find my TRUE self when I tire my nervous system out enough that it literally breaks down and has me suicidal and hopeless. And then accepting my OCD’s “truth” (that I’m attracted to men) feels like a burden and a chore. I woke up today from an OCD dream, tried to go back to sleep, and my stomach kept cramping bc I was so anxious and ruminating over my intrusive thoughts. I’m starting to doubt it being OCD anymore. My brain is too tired to fight and cry about it anymore.
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Hi,im a fourteen years old girl. I live in a homophobic country,and i dont have any experience. I grew up and became homophobic just like my family and my religion.but in 13 year old.i was questioning why lgptq is illegal?while they are just being them and can’t select what they are? So..i became an agnostic or atheist by secret.oh,by addition,before i became atheist i was making sure i don’t like women,like looking at women pics and imagine some romantic or sexual senarios just to find out,(and i wasnt feel anything and didnt like them),and i was happy and comfort for being straight (i was liking fictional men and some actors,within experience except an online male friend i liked but we didn’t date).but after being atheist,its like fire,i start developing HOCD,im not officially have that because I can’t have a therapist,but i have the Symptoms 100%. I didnt know whats hocd ,i find out whats it before a month.when i was struggling with it like 7 months,so,i think it started when i was in very close friendship with a girl in school,i was confused.if i liked her or not,i was imagining,questioning,making scenarios,but i couldnt have an answer,but then i was comfort to keep it just friendship.when the questions about her go,i can see her normally as a friend and i dont think of her or text her every day and it sometimes reaches months in summer holidays and its normally to me,no romantic acts about her,but then i had a new friend to the group and i had the same thoughts and questions to her.and now my brain questioning if i like them both😢.ok.this gone.this is before year,before being atheist.after being.i was questioning “do i like women?” Or when i see a fictional woman,i start to look at her and questioning myself and try to catch any feeling,i swear i would accept myself to be gay or bisexual,but i just can’t feel or accept that..i feel like burn.i cried and cried.it somedays turns so hard that I can’t even study or live normally.i also started to lose my attraction to men.i feel like its gone,I can’t now imagine being a man without getting uncomfortable,i miss the days when i was enjoying imagining kissing and sexing with a man.but,hocd,always reminds me i have no experience,and its all imaginary,so I don’t have a real clue from beginning that im straight.and i also read an girl experience with hocd and she became a lesbian at the end,i get so scary.it feels so real.i just wanna cry forever.im afraid that i will like a girl in the future,it chock me and burns.i hate this feeling.to thr god i dont know or believe in,please,if i like women,just let me feel it normally without this fear and hurting.i dont want to be gay.i dont want to like women.i dont want to be bisexual or lesbian.but if being any of those but comfort without this feeling that makes me wanna suicide.i would accept,please.just please,i even can’t get a therapist,even online,i just want help.please.i dont want to be like those girls that find out they liked women all the time,im scared,i miss my old feelings and trusting.i hate this.i just want to die if its mean hocd to go.i feel like its so real and i will love a girl no way in hell future.i even feel its not wrong to like women,like its much better and more soft that men,but i just can’t.I can’t.i dont know,i did everything.i gave myself permission to find out or explore my attraction to the both genders but it hurts me more.i dont want to get hurts again anymore.just remembering i have no experience or clue i like men even if in past felt like i would like and date a man and liven with him,i keep reminding its all was Based on imagination…even if i was wishing to love a man,hocd ruined this peaceful feeling,i was really find peaceful of loving a man.but now,i don’t feel like before,and this scares me,i don’t know what to do.I can’t have a therapist,and dont even know how to get better,,,
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Need some advice please. I'm trying to fix my social anxiety, self esteem and confidence but ocd infests itself and makes me I had all these issues because I my ocd was true all along. For example, Im extremely uptight/awkward around people and have a fear of being judged, laughed at or seen through, fear of not being liked etc. One cause of this I read is it's because i suppressed my real self/feelings and pretended to put on a fake mask to be liked by others/fit in and now that im older that mask is breaking and causing me disconnect from my real self. My hocd inserts itself and makes me feel because I was gay all along without knowing it is why it happened. It genuinely feels like that's the case but then I feel dreaded and depressed because it feels so real I'm ready to accept that scenario. But back then I didnt think I could have been gay or anything. Im not sure how to handle this difficulty. Please any advice?
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