Anonymous
- Date posted
- 26w
My daughter is spiraling
She's been dealing with this for years but I've never seen her like this. She has her first visit with a nocd therapist tomorrow. How can I help her?
issphra 🫶🏻issphra 🫶🏻
- Date posted
- 26w
It’s heartwarming to see a parent care so much. I don’t have that, so it made me a little emotional. If she needs space, give it to her. Encourage her to drink something cold—it can help with panic. Applying something cold to the back of her neck and chest can also be calming. Taking deep breaths every few minutes might help too. Sometimes lying on the floor can be grounding. It sounds ironic, but physically grounding yourself can be surprisingly effective. I’ve found that letting myself cry on the floor helps; eventually, the intense feelings peak and pass. Watching a comfort show, snuggling up with a blanket, or just letting the emotions out can also be soothing. I don’t have the best suggestions, but as someone who constantly spirals and deals with intense panic attacks, these are things that have helped me, even if just a little. I hope her session tomorrow goes well!
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 26w
Thank you so much!! Those are great suggestions.
zsullyzsully
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 26w
It seems simple but just be present. Physically and emotionally. Let her know you are there and available if she needs you. Asking too many questions or giving advice can sometimes be more stressful in the moment, but being there when she panics or cries or wants to talk is huge! Let her know she’s not alone although it likely feels that way in her head - you are there to fight with her and for her. Growing up, my mom was the only one there for me with this and it helped tremendously. I’d get annoyed at times with too many suggestions that I couldn’t deliver on, but valued her being present and trying.
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 26w
Thank you. As a mom it is difficult to remember not to try to come up with solutions.
dslitedslite
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 26w
I also want to mention that since she is an NOCD member, you can get access to a parent/loved one support group on Mondays. It’s through the apps group features
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 26w
I didn't know that! Thank you. I will definitely look into that.
- User type
- Therapist
- Date posted
- 26w
Welcome to NOCD! I am so glad your daughter will be getting help for this. Her therapist will support you as well. Please do check out the family support group referenced dslite. We also have resources for you on the NOCD YouTube channel, I have linked a few below for you. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QZVIeBV9M-c&t=4s https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7jzHHjSI4Ek&t=4s
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- Therapist
- Date posted
- 25w
Hello Anonymous, Congratulations on the start of your daughter's treatment journey! I hear that you want to help her. At NOCD we offer education sessions to family members as a service. If your daughter is a minor, this will be part of the process and will be discussed with you in session. If your daughter is an adult, then you can ask her if she be willing to involve you in the process, to receive education from their therapist on how to help. Please reach out to our care team at care@nocdhelp.com to ask for an education session to facilitate this process. I hope this helps to answer your question and know that at NOCD, we are always here to help!
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 25w
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