I’m stressed :( I don’t know what my sexuality is right now. I’ve only ever had crushes on guys and when I think about it properly, I’d prefer to have sex with a guy. But a part of me finds women ‘sexy’ I guess? I’ve been aroused by the appearance of women before. And that scares me, because I’m worried I’m more turned on by women than men. I’ve found men attractive, and I’d want to be with them. But I don’t know if I’ve ever actually been turned on by them before. It’s more romantically I suppose. I just can’t tell why this makes me. Straight? Bi? A lesbian? And of course there’s nothing wrong with being bi or gay or anything for that matter. I just don’t know if it’s me or not. I like guys. Or maybe I just WANT to like guys... I’m scared.

Sexual Orientation OCD

Idk

Date posted: 6y

If you want to be with men, then leave it at that. I once read an article that straight women can get turned on by anything. So whatever turns you on but you don’t want it, then it’s just normal. You shouldn’t have to worry about. But FYI, I feel the same way. I doubt I’m bisexual or lesbian though because I don’t have any desire even though my ocd is constantly questioning everything.

garden

Date posted: 6y

Thanks for that! You’re so right

Esosa

Date posted: 6y

If you’re interested in exploring in the future, then go ahead. You just can’t do it (you can, but I don’t advise it) with OCD because it can get really messy. After the OCD passes, if the question still pops up and you’re comfortable with moving on with it, I don’t see why not. HOCD/SO-OCD sucks

garden

Date posted: 6y

Yeah. I just keep wondering if I’m holding myself back till I go off to university and stuff, and then I can declare myself bi or something. I know I like guys. But do I like girls? It’s so hard and weird. I feel like it’d be liberating to come out, but that’s also the last thing I want to do. Plus I’ve never even liked a girl. But I guess I have been aroused by them in like porn and stuff :(

Esosa

Date posted: 6y

@Eden :) Hey, OCD or not, do whatever makes YOU feel comfortable. If you think declaring the bi label is the best option for you, then feel free. However, don’t make decisions BECAUSE of your OCD, do it for your own happiness and well being.

garden

Date posted: 6y

@Esosa Thank you! It’s hard to know really. I don’t know what I am to be honest. I don’t want a relationship with a girl, but I have been aroused by them in porn. But porn is porn... ya know? I think women are pretty and stuff, but I can only really see myself with a guy. I think? Now I’m just reassuring myself ahhhh. Compulsions aren’t good for me (or anyone!)

Wisteria

Date posted: 6y

It sounds as if you are exploring for now since you said you've only ever had crushes on guys. Have you been in a relationship with a girl?

Wisteria

Date posted: 6y

@hopefulbb I'm not sure what kind of OCD I have. I was diagnosed without a type.

Idk

Date posted: 6y

@Wisteria Uhm this person has hocd which is a feat or becoming gay when in reality they are straight. What you commented could be a trigger for her.

garden

Date posted: 6y

@advice? It honestly seems like half HOCD and half exploration. I like guys and I don’t want to stop liking guys. OCD picks on that. But liking women is scary to me because I guess I just also worry my friends could think I like them? I mean I’ve never actually liked one I’m sorta just thinking ahead hahahah.

garden

Date posted: 6y

Sorry for not specifying if it was or wasn’t ocd. I guess I just don’t know enough to say. But thanks guys!!

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