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I’m so sorry that person commented that, it would have triggered me like crazy! but a lot of us straight women did that when we were younger and I’m still trying to convince myself that’s okay but we know it is!
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I just worry what if I’m secretly lesbian or bi and just lying to myself bc when I say “I’m lesbian” I feel calm and not anxious anymore and I thought a trans guy was hot who was a girl b4 and that triggered me and my brain was like “I’d still date them” but idk if I would ahhhh
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@aholcomb17 You telling yourself that you are a lesbian is a compulsion because it reduces your anxiety for a little. I have to the same thoughts I used to say it out loud and I think that im lying to myself all of the time. Ocd causes self doubt
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@aholcomb17 yeah I feel the same way!! ocd doubt is almost worse than the ocd itself lol
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Something like this would get into my head too. I always assume the extreme case that I am a lesbian and I get caught up. Also, I have kissed girls before too without any feeling or thought when I was younger like 15 bc we thought it was funny. The worst thing you can do is try to rationlize your thoughts with facts about yourself and try to prove yourself wrong. It starts a cycle that is very hard to end
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I have done this and I am straight I have also noticed attractive women and though "she's pretty" but I am not gay! And even if someone online said I must be because I notice attractive women I would dismiss their opinion as they have never met and do not know me like this person does not know you to say they know you are gay just because you watched videos is ridiculous dismiss this do not give it any value!
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you’re the only one who can decide!! that person is probably just trolling bc the only one who really knows what you feel is you
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I watched the trailer for the movie “Am I Ok?” and got completely triggered. Basically a 32 yo woman discovers she’s a lesbian seemingly out of nowhere. I was triggers and did some research (bad idea) and apparently some people who are gay have never had romantic or sexual interest in people of the same sex until one spontaneous moment of discovery. Now I’m worried that this could be me!! I’ve never had a long term relationship, have had crushes and fantasies but back out when things get too close for me. I do prefer my little fantasy world guy but now I’m wondering if maybe I missed something and am in denial, even if I didn’t know it.
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I keep seeing tiktoks of things that are like ‘things I did as a lesbian in denial’ or ‘things my not so straight straight friend said’ and I feel like I might relate to some!! But idk!! It’s kinda triggering me. I’ve had this 5 years on and off now so when it comes back the whole well you’ve had it so long you must be gay comes up. I have been with my boyfriend almost 6 years and i love him so much I don’t want to be gay (nothing weong with it - I’m just not and don’t want to be!)
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So I haven’t been on this app in a while. But I just want advice on how to overcome this. I’m now 18 and I’ve been trying out dating apps. I’m not gonna lie I’m kinda picky when it comes to dating only because I plan on dating to marry…so I take it a bit more seriously. But for some reason it’s so hard to click with people on these dating apps. So my friend was helping me through this dating apps process. I told her that I wasn’t interested in this guy I was texting anymore because of the way he was responding to my messages. And she says maybe you’re gay…this is honestly the sixth time (I’m definitely over exaggeration but this isn’t the first time someone had said this to me) someone has ask/said this. Every time someone says this it literally sends me down this spiral of are they seeing something I’m not seeing. Despite never having a crush on a girl my mind goes down this loop of overthinking. And when I say I don’t want that lifestyle or I don’t really find pleasure in being apart of the lgbtq community my mind is like in denial. I just wanted to have a fun teenage dating experience and now every time I open the app I always think what if I really am gay and I’m just in denial…or what if the reason why I’m not connecting with anyone is because I’m really into girls. Since i’m also religious, my mom wants to go what you’re denying who we are because of your religion. And I tried to reassure myself by saying I would know if that was the case like I would feel deep down who I’m truly attracted to and know that I’m trying to cover it up by dating men. This whole thing is so mentally taxing because I was going through this all throughout my senior year of high school and I’m not going into my freshman year of college so. Like I literally felt so much anxiety next to one of my classmates who was gay and a masculine presenting. I feel like if I would’ve told this to anyone, they’d say of course you’re in denial. But ig reply if you can relate
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