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I’m so sorry that person commented that, it would have triggered me like crazy! but a lot of us straight women did that when we were younger and I’m still trying to convince myself that’s okay but we know it is!
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I just worry what if I’m secretly lesbian or bi and just lying to myself bc when I say “I’m lesbian” I feel calm and not anxious anymore and I thought a trans guy was hot who was a girl b4 and that triggered me and my brain was like “I’d still date them” but idk if I would ahhhh
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@aholcomb17 You telling yourself that you are a lesbian is a compulsion because it reduces your anxiety for a little. I have to the same thoughts I used to say it out loud and I think that im lying to myself all of the time. Ocd causes self doubt
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@aholcomb17 yeah I feel the same way!! ocd doubt is almost worse than the ocd itself lol
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Something like this would get into my head too. I always assume the extreme case that I am a lesbian and I get caught up. Also, I have kissed girls before too without any feeling or thought when I was younger like 15 bc we thought it was funny. The worst thing you can do is try to rationlize your thoughts with facts about yourself and try to prove yourself wrong. It starts a cycle that is very hard to end
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I have done this and I am straight I have also noticed attractive women and though "she's pretty" but I am not gay! And even if someone online said I must be because I notice attractive women I would dismiss their opinion as they have never met and do not know me like this person does not know you to say they know you are gay just because you watched videos is ridiculous dismiss this do not give it any value!
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you’re the only one who can decide!! that person is probably just trolling bc the only one who really knows what you feel is you
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I was trying not to think abt it and honestly inwas doing a great job until a woman came on my fyp on tiktok and said “if u think women are objectively more attractive u re not straight” and now i’m so anxious and distressed and am scared i might be comphet. When i was little i remember being obsessed with the “i cant remember to forget u” mv so i rewatched it and thought it was sensual but nothing more. Idk. She also said that if u use a fantasy to get arroused around men u might not like them. Idk anything anymore Im so tired
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I am a 18 year old masc lesbian with a loving girlfriend for 1 year, and I have been lesbian for almost my whole life and I have never been attracted to men in any way. flash to my past, My ex girlfriend who used to identify as a lesbian had cheated on me with a man. Recently I saw this tiktok of this masc lesbian turn straight and my friends and girlfriend made jokes I am going to turn straight for my male best friend. My male best friend came over and he’s a great guy but I do not want him in any way. when him and i were hanging out my mind threw in a thought it was “What if i like him”, i came back home and i had the worst panic attack and i felt so sick, i cried and i cried. ever since that day I have been struggling with intrusive thoughts, i don’t want a man in any way, and i feel comfortable as a lesbian but these thoughts won’t stop and they become worse when i see people say being lesbian is a phase or that i haven’t met the right guy or i’ll change in the future. i just want these thoughts to stop, i don’t want to stop being a lesbian ever, i love women so much and i just want all of this to be over with. i do not want a man in any way and im tired of my thoughts doubting myself and i hate the “what ifs”, I just want to be my old self, I want to be happy with my girlfriend.
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I have been doing okay for the past week or so and was really happy i felt that i was getting back on track, but today i went on tiktok and i saw something triggering which was “i thought i was a lesbian for 4 years until i met my now boyfriend” and it triggered me very badly, i have been crying all day and i can’t seem to make myself feel okay. i feel like im lying to myself that im not lesbian and i truly want men, but when i get any thought about men it feels disgusting and wrong and not me, i don’t want men i feel so sick i want to get out of this. i always felt so happy as a lesbian im so stuck i don’t want to be with a man. i have a loving girlfriend i just want to be happy with her.
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