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I’m so sorry that person commented that, it would have triggered me like crazy! but a lot of us straight women did that when we were younger and I’m still trying to convince myself that’s okay but we know it is!
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I just worry what if I’m secretly lesbian or bi and just lying to myself bc when I say “I’m lesbian” I feel calm and not anxious anymore and I thought a trans guy was hot who was a girl b4 and that triggered me and my brain was like “I’d still date them” but idk if I would ahhhh
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@aholcomb17 You telling yourself that you are a lesbian is a compulsion because it reduces your anxiety for a little. I have to the same thoughts I used to say it out loud and I think that im lying to myself all of the time. Ocd causes self doubt
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@aholcomb17 yeah I feel the same way!! ocd doubt is almost worse than the ocd itself lol
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Something like this would get into my head too. I always assume the extreme case that I am a lesbian and I get caught up. Also, I have kissed girls before too without any feeling or thought when I was younger like 15 bc we thought it was funny. The worst thing you can do is try to rationlize your thoughts with facts about yourself and try to prove yourself wrong. It starts a cycle that is very hard to end
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I have done this and I am straight I have also noticed attractive women and though "she's pretty" but I am not gay! And even if someone online said I must be because I notice attractive women I would dismiss their opinion as they have never met and do not know me like this person does not know you to say they know you are gay just because you watched videos is ridiculous dismiss this do not give it any value!
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you’re the only one who can decide!! that person is probably just trolling bc the only one who really knows what you feel is you
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Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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I told my therapist I had intrusive about my bff and keeps asking me if I’m attracted to her and I’m say I am not he’s keep saying maybe u are .
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I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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