Possibly a future dad

Hello everyone! Me and my fiancé are planning to have a child and my fear is that like what if I think something bad during intimate time and those thoughts are what comes up when I see my child. Something like that. I know it’s not true and I know I didn’t have another person in mind or anything like that in my head. But now I’m having thoughts about like abortion or a plan b pill and I don’t want that. Any advice? I feel super guilty

Relationship OCD

jennarosefran

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 23w

I’ve had the same fear! But it’s because creating a baby is just so special and sacred - you don’t want anything “ruining” that! And OCD knows that…so here she comes!!!!🙄Just know that the not so favorable parts of your brain exist and they are going to exist despite the absolute miracle that a baby is; the absolute miracle that will happen despite any and every thought. We’re humans (with ocd…even worse! Lol) 🫶🏼Your brain is a part of you - so is this OCD - and even with that you can create something absolutely beautiful. It’s natural for people like us. No worries & God Bless 🙏🏼🍼 don’t let OCD scare you out of something. Take her along for the ride! I’ve been there. Hope this helps 💞🦋🧠

jennarosefran

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 23w

Ps. If anything, it’s a reflection of the pure LOVE you already have for your future child (and your fianceé) because you fear even the littlest thought clouding your experience of that inherent love, excitement, and joy. So much so that you’re not afraid to reach out. To me, that’s a good and loving person, fianceé, and future dad❤️

jesusm24

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 23w

@jennarosefran Thank you so much! I appreciate your words! 🙏🏼

jesusm24

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 23w

@jennarosefran Hey! I wanted to ask you for some more advice. I had more thoughts come into my head this morning. My fiancé and I lost a child due to a miscarriage a few years ago. I had a lot of intrusive thoughts back then. Now I had the thought of like if it doesn’t work again I’ll be with someone else and I don’t want to think that

jennarosefran

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 23w

@jesusm24 Just let those ocd thoughts pass you by…let them come and go with indifference🫶🏼🧠 have you tried working with a therapist on here? They are really great and mine has been helping me so much! I recommend.

jesusm24

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 23w

@jennarosefran I currently am! And he’s awesome but I’m still feeling off. It feels like it was me thinking the thoughts

Anonymous

Date posted: 20w

Posting again cause still feeling awful

I have a fear that i intentionally put a thought of my baby girl in my head during sex.. i dont know what happened anymore, was that intrusive, what happened at all, i just cant remember, everything is fuzzy... Only thing i know for sure is that i dont feel anything sexual towards my daughter and that is the only thing im certain of... Anyone had similiar experience and what has helped you move on? Im stuck with this terrible feelings for 5 days now..

Holl1

Date posted: 17w

OCD

So I’ve just found out I’m pregnant and I’m freaking out rn I’ve been getting thoughts like “I’ll be a bad mum” and overthinking everything & my OCD is convincing me that I’ll act on my thoughts because of my hormones and stuff. I’ve also got a fear of being sick & I’m stressing over that too. Anyone else who has harm OCD pregnant or a Mum can give me some advice pls😭

Harm OCD

sanshine

Date posted: 16w

I'm scared....

𝕊𝕔𝕒𝕣𝕪 𝕚𝕟𝕔𝕚𝕕𝕖𝕟𝕥 😞𝕋𝕎𝕋𝕎𝕋𝕎 ℙ𝕃𝔼𝔸𝕊𝔼 𝔻𝕆ℕ'𝕋 ℝ𝔼𝔸𝔻 𝕀𝔽 𝔼𝔸𝕊𝕀𝕃𝕐 𝔻𝕀𝕊𝕋𝕌ℝ𝔹𝔼𝔻 𝔹𝕐 𝕋ℍ𝔼𝕄𝔼𝕊 𝕎𝕀𝕋ℍ 𝕂𝕀𝔻𝕊 hi everyone, I am really struggling with something disturbing and I'm so afraid I'm a PDF. So my sis came to visit with my nephew for the first time. So the other day we were taking pics with the baby I was already feeling kinda nervous cuz I never held a baby before. Anyway it was my turn and I like I wonder if this would sexually stimulate him( not exactly the thought but the of thought was more graphic and I don't wanna disturb anyone). And I can't remember if I thought that while I was bumping him on my stomach (like how people bump babies on their hips) or before I started doing so. Anyways I can't really remember what my reaction to that thought was or if I started bumping him before or after I had that thought... So I tried not to think much of it but over time I started to spiral really bad and wonder why I thought that and why then I would bump him on my stomach after having that thought or during. I just feel so disgusted. Like was I curious about it? Did I disregard the thought because my brain thinks disturbing things? Ik right now away from that situation that ofc I have no sexual interest in my nephew at all. I played with him and helped changed diaper and everything and never had the urge to do anything inappropriate to him besides that one weird instance. So like I'm so disturbed like did that mean something? I have P OCD but that didn't really feel like an intrusive thought? I also can be very impulsive, and if it was impulsive does that mean I had a desire? Now I'm terrified of having kids even though I wanted some or to foster some. I mean I know but myself I'm not sexually attracted to kids but then why would I think that I am so disturbed really and feel so sick. 😞😞😞😞 I don't know what to do I'm so scared about what my motivation was I feel so bad and scared😞😞😞😞

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