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andrewt_andrewt_
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You’re looking for reassurance man , this isn’t going to help you if I’m being honest
MiloMilo
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I believe you're asking for reassurance, sorry pal
AG._.AG._.
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So I guess hocd triggered what I fear trying to make me believe that I’m something that I’m not
shabby123shabby123
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Yeah that's what it does, you know in your head your not but you have a nagging voice telling you that you are or you might be x
AG._.AG._.
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Yeah I get it thanks
AG._.AG._.
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You’re right I’m sorry
AsnkuAsnku
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Hey dont be! The same happened to me couple days ago
lisaclairelisaclaire
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This is extremely triggering ... I know you can’t give reassurance but I think you’re forgetting that when you have hocd you can also suffer from false attractions (which is very like the feeling of anxiety). Which can really stress and confuse people who are suffering from these symptoms, maybe sometimes you should listen to your actual heart and not those “attractions” you’re so terrified of having. If you want to be with a man be with one and if you want to be with a girl be with one it’s ultimately what you want and love in life !
andrewt_andrewt_
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No one is denying the power of false attractions and I don’t know of anyone , definitely not me at least , who would forget about them. But this has to do with him asking a question like this that would keep him in the cycle of OCD when he gets an answer. His mind would just shift to another uncertainty or worry. Yes , you’re right that sometimes you just have to follow your heart , but OCD can sometimes numb you out to the point where you question your heart and get further lost in confusion. Accepting uncertainty is the #1 thing you can do with HOCD.
andrewt_andrewt_
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I’ve dealt with OCD and false feelings and it ruined my entire life and self esteem , so no , I’m not forgetting anything... thank you. I didn’t mean to trigger you. I have to tell him the truth so he knows that there are better ways to deal with OCD than asking questions like the one he posted. The reason I know this ? Because I used to be the same way and it doesn’t work. People with OCD can also feel like they lost their sense of being and completely distrust their heart. I’m so sorry I triggered you , it wasn’t my intention , even though I fail to understand what was wrong with what I said.
lisaclairelisaclaire
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@xiiiandreww It’s not what you said but I’m really low today and I feel really freaked out and that uncertainty just freaked me out and I exploded apologies ?
andrewt_andrewt_
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@lisaclaire Aww I’m so sorry :( no worries at all , do you wanna talk ? ❤️
lisaclairelisaclaire
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@xiiiandreww Hahah thank you you’re so kind ? I just feel awful and so so sick . I feel like my head is turning my life into a nightmare and I’m being forced to think about things I don’t want ? it’s a really really awful feeling and I just wish it could go away, no matter what I do if one worry eventually goes away another one crops up and I honestly just want reassurance that everything will be ok and my fears won’t happen (even though that’s what you’re meant to NOT do) I just feel anxious all of the time and I just want my life back tbh!!
andrewt_andrewt_
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@lisaclaire Just know that you aren’t alone and you have all of my support ? I know things aren’t easy for you right now , but the present does not tell you how the future will be ! Things can change , you can recover ! And there is bound to be some good and even great days in the future , and they’re totally worth waiting for. My best advice would be to embrace the doubts and be like “ is that all you got ?? “. You know , show them you aren’t phased by them , and when you have a scary thought , be like thank you OCD ! I know it sounds stupid and counterintuitive but trust me it’s not. What you would be doing is showing your brain that it is not a threat , and your brain shape would change for the better (neuroplasticity). Hope this helps ??
notfortalknotfortalk
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They can't turn (as in become) gay because your born with your sexuality but some people realize they have been attracted to same gender all along and only now realizing but they always had that interest. It's like I get a crush on someone but I only realize later that it's a crush. But when you realize it it's kinda like “ahh that's what it is" not fear like ocd
AG._.AG._.
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Yeah fr
shabby123shabby123
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Yes, but you wouldn't think of it as a fear.
AG._.AG._.
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What do you mean
shabby123shabby123
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Like, some people with OCD Have a fear that they are going to be gay or are gay, it's a fear. But some people turn gay because they realise they are into the same gender, you would have had an incling anyway, you don't just suddenly find the same sex attractive
AG._.AG._.
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Oh for example me my fear is being gay and let say another person realized that they have always liked the same gender
shabby123shabby123
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Yes you cam realise you have always liked the same gender, do you like the same gender?
AG._.AG._.
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No I’ve always had crushes on girls I remember being in pre school and crushing on girls
AG._.AG._.
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I currently have a crush on a girl
AG._.AG._.
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Probably
AG._.AG._.
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I’m not asking for it I was just wondering
shabby123shabby123
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Yeah you can realise you have always like the same sex x
shabby123shabby123
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Great if you ever need to talk I'm here, it's not a nice thing to go through and you're not on your own x
AG._.AG._.
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How is it reassurance If I just said hocd makes me believe I’m something that I’m not
AsnkuAsnku
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Actually you did not say that. You ASKED can someone turn a gay. Thats reassurance. We do it many times and we dont even realize it. Dont worry i have been there too and sometimes i am still
AG._.AG._.
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I get it and I want to be with a woman
AG._.AG._.
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Yeah I get it I’ve been crushing on girls since pre school but hocd is trying to get what I fear
notfortalknotfortalk
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I know, I've struggled with it before and I can tell you that question your sexuality and soocd are two complete opposite things. I know I like guys and I've been questioning if I'm somewhere on the asexual spectrum and definitely it's completely different than when I had soocd. Plus you wouldn't even obsess that much if it was real
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LESBIAN DEALING WITH SO OCD
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edimichael
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question
can i turn gay? and suddenly start liking gay and men sexual parts even though i never liked them before i scared i will start doing it and lose my attraction to females
anonymous00981
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Can this really happen?!!! 18+
Last night I took my meds to help me sleep and I kept waking up throughout the night with thoughts like “I’m really a lesbian now” or “I’m ok with it now, this is what I prefer”. I really feel like everyday for a couple of days now, I’ve woken up feeling more and more like my preferences have completely changed. The first few days was major anxiety, panic attacks, then I had a really bad double-bind and reversal spiral, and I became a little bit calmer since then. Now I feel like I’m managing the thoughts without anxiety or panic like I’m used to, but now it feels like I really want them and that I’m ok with it. Like I don’t care anymore. But the thing is, in between all of the mini spiral episodes I’ve had, I had these little moments of clarity like “I’m not giving up on my fantasies of men” or “I’ve always wanted men, that doesn’t just change”. But last night I’ve had really sexual dreams that I’m having trouble interpreting. I had one where I think it was me sleeping with a guy, but I woke up frantically because I think the roles got reversed, but I’m not sure. Another one I was a random woman with a husband, but I think the roles got reversed again so I woke up immediately. Both times it felt like arousal. Obviously I still care somewhat if I’m still here asking, but my brain or maybe me (I’m really not sure anymore) is telling me that I’m a lesbian now and I prefer it. It’s like I don’t care and want it now. It’s like I’m not even feeling confusion about it. I don’t know if it’s because of the meds, I’ve been distracted (family in town), because I’m in maybe quieter stages after two bad spiral episodes, or because I’ve really changed. It’s literally like I think being a lesbian will be enjoyable now but I don’t want that, even if my brain (and body apparently) keeps telling me that. I was told that ocd doesn’t change who you are, but now I’m worried that what I thought was background noise leading up to another spiral was suppressed self discovery (I’ve had two major soocd episodes in my life: late high school and now a few years later).
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