I started having intrusive thoughts about my sexuality when I got into a relationship with my ex and I wondered if it would seemingly go away but it hasn’t and I find myself ruminating about it constantly especially before or during my period. Has anyone else felt with this?
My psychiatrist says it comes and goes. I know for me when it really started back up one day I was ok and the next it was like I got hit in the face with a sledgehammer and there was a troll goblin in my head screaming these horrible intrusive thoughts at me about something I didn’t have any doubts about leading up to it. Then klonopins became my best friends and I laid in bed for a month freaking out and staring at the wall with my husband trying to figure out how to help me. It was even more horrible than it sounds.
yes all the time! i constantly worry and check and ruminate about it. I also have never had a bf or really kissed anyone so i overthink it all the time
I relate to this so much omg! It's so difficult!
Hey there, thanks for your question! Like your fellow community Members already shared, this can be a common experience. Here's an article on the topic, https://www.treatmyocd.com/what-is-ocd/info/ocd-stats-and-science/can-a-hormone-imbalance-cause-intrusive-thoughts. Additionally, I'm going to link a few resources on challenging the rumination compulsion. I hope they help! https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/5-strategies-for-breaking-the-cycle-of-rumination https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UXIllLvRUZE&t=2s
Hi @Retta_712 , This can be a very hard thing to navigate and feel very isolating. Just by posting this here you have seen that you are not alone and you have helped others feel that as well. If you can think it, OCD can attack it. Transgender OCD is the spiraling of thoughts around trying to solve for gender, "am I male, female, nonbinary, and what if I feel different at some other point in the future..." When therapists work with someone with this expression of OCD we do not help them solve for their gender identity, instead, we turn down the volume and frequency of the questioning. Here's a good article on this https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/transgender-ocd-symptoms-and-treatment Please know you are not alone. We have therapists here ready to support you and groups even for folks who have OCD and in the LBTQIA+ community.
Hi everyone, Lately, I’ve been feeling confused and anxious about my sexuality, which has been challenging to navigate. I’ve always identified as straight and am currently in a happy relationship with my boyfriend. However, I’ve recently started questioning if I might have some attraction to women, which has caused me a lot of anxiety. To be clear, I’ve never experienced romantic or physical attraction toward women in real life, but I have watched lesbian porn in the past. Now, I can’t help but worry that this might mean I’m attracted to women after all. On top of this, I’ve noticed a decrease in my sexual desire for my boyfriend, which only intensifies my concerns about both my sexual orientation and my relationship. This confusion is something I’ve never dealt with before, and it’s starting to take an emotional toll. If anyone has experienced something similar, I would really appreciate any advice or insights on how you worked through it. What helped you find clarity? Someone mentioned that my anxiety might be OCD-related, though I’m not familiar with OCD in this context. I’d love to hear from anyone with experience in navigating these kinds of thoughts or anxiety. I’m open to any personal stories, resources, or guidance on how to approach this situation, both for myself and in communication with my partner. I want to better understand what I’m feeling without being overwhelmed by fear. Thank you in advance for your support!
The thoughts still exist. For the last couple months I’ve been able to say I don’t care and lean into the comfort of being uncertain. Im having a tough time with some things personally right now and guess what decides to show up… Anyways, I’ve been trying to get used to the fact that maybe I’m bisexual with a romantic preference for men (I’m married and love my husband) but when you start going through your compulsions it’s soooo easy for everything to blur out. To my knowledge I’ve never had a crush on a woman but I’ve most definitely watched same sex porn and have thought women are hot and beautiful, then come the thoughts about comp het and how I’ve never been an overly sexual person so that MUST mean something. Ugh idk, just looking for someone to chat with I guess!
Ok so I’m a 17 year old female, and I’ve always thought I was straight. But I just really want to know how you would know the difference between so-ocd and actually questioning your sexuality. I have nothing against the LGBTQ community (in fact I am very much a token straight friend, lol) but I saw a video about comp-het recently and it sort of felt like what I was experiencing. I don’t want to be gay, I want to be with men, I want to like men, I’ve always liked men, but now I’m questioning whether or not that’s real? Because people can be gay but not want to be right? I’m single and I always have been. I think women are gorgeous, but when I try to imagine actually having any sort of romantic or sexual relationship with a woman it feels wrong, at least most of the time it does? Sometimes I’m less sure, and I’ve never been particularly boy crazy. I’ve liked maybe 2 or 3 people in my life, (not to say I’ve never found other guys attractive, but it doesn’t seem to be as often as most people) I have no particular reason to be afraid of being gay, very supportive family, safe area ect, but I don’t want to be, does that mean this is ocd, I don’t know what’s going on every time I say I’m straight I feel like I’m lying, but that might just be because I think about it so much. The idea of being with a woman doesn’t feel like something I would want, but is that just because I don’t want to want it? People online say things with so much sureness, if you feel like this it means this. Ect.
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