Pocd is so hard 😭

Hi Katr, I can see how OCD might make this fear seems more important or urgent... like we have to do something to figure it out its validity, or at the very least what it might mean. I always try to remember that OCD sends false signals that don't need more attention from us, we can think/sense these things and carry on with our day! Hope this helps :)

I would encourage not trying to figure out the groinals. You can have a groinal to a lamp!

POCD is hard! One of the most annoying things about OCD (although there are many) is the extra focus it draws to our daily experiences, and then that crippling doubt sneaks in. It is important to remember that OCD craves certainty, and trying to give OCD certainty is what is going to keep fueling the distress. The best practice is going to be response prevention, and resisting that temptation to figure it out. Living with uncertainty is an opportunity to trust fall into yourself. All the best! -Marie

Great question! In the context of OCD, especially with themes like relationship OCD (ROCD) or sexual orientation OCD (SO-OCD), it’s important to understand the difference. Genuine attraction is natural, consistent, and often enjoyable—it’s not something you have to analyze or prove to yourself. False attraction, on the other hand, is driven by OCD. It often feels intrusive, forced, or out of place, and it comes with a lot of anxiety and doubt. Instead of feeling drawn to someone in a genuine way, you might feel the need to constantly check, compare, or ‘figure out’ if the attraction is real. The more you focus on it, the stronger and more convincing it seems—but that’s just how OCD works!

I hate the groinal movements it still scares me

OCD definitely wants your attention. Good for you for recognizing your feelings and knowing what is true for you.

Relate