Hocd vs actually gay (my opinion)

So I’ve talked to a couple of gay people and they all told me the same thing. They ALWAYS knew they liked guys and they have ever gotten aroused by a woman in their life. In fact they told me that they always found a woman’s body disgusting. Looking back in my life I’ve been attracted to girls for as long as I can remember even before puberty. All my fantasies were about girls and I can’t remember a time where I felt the same for a guy (because it never happened). At the end I can still get aroused by women and you can clearly see how much stupid this obsession about being gay is. Gay people can’t get instinctively aroused by a woman and like it. Groinal responses and sensations don’t mean anything because they simply do not bring joy or a feeling of desire. Instead they bring panic. I once got a groinal when “testing my reactions” and I was sitting there crying like my life is over. That’s not how genuine attraction works and no one has woken up one day feeling different and no one has been secretly gay and never noticed it and spent his whole life into women instead.

Sexual Orientation OCD

geodrimilis

Date posted: 13d ago

Stay strong

Tonytony

Date posted: 13d ago

This has pretty much been the exact thing I’ve been facing. I’m at the mental level where I’m just wanting to accept it but I think it’s my brain trying to trick me. I basically had one traumatic experience that made me question my sexuality and have been hyper focused on it for quite a few years. I’m just now getting help for it.

geodrimilis

Date posted: 13d ago

@Tonytony That’s now how knowing your sexuality works. If you were confident in your straight identity like I’ve always been then that’s who you are. For me it started from insecurity and then it started to gradually evolve into (what if I’m gay). I know that’s not who I am tho. Stay strong

Tonytony

Date posted: 13d ago

Thanks!

User type: Therapist

Date posted: 13d ago

Sexual Identity OCD is definitely a real thing. The way you know the thought is intrusive is when it goes against what you believe to be true. If you have a thought that makes you happy that would be a whole different thing. What happens if you allow the thought to just be, don't question it or argue with it, just say, maybe that is true, maybe it is not. The more we react to the thought, the longer we stay in the OCD loop.

geodrimilis

Date posted: 13d ago

@Deborah Nickens Thank you

Viny

Date posted: 13d ago

Heya dude it's noltar from discord

geodrimilis

Date posted: 13d ago

@Viny Wsg

Ms.shelovesf...

Date posted: 13d ago

Heyy you're right. I'm female and always liked men since I was 6(had my first crush on a neighbour son and I loved him, we would do stuff together, I would always ask to spend time with him, he made me shy and yk Just childhood crush and yh+ I liked other males after him) I'm female and I find thinking of being intimate with females disgusting and I get grossed out(I can't bring myself to like it no matter how hard I try, like it's not me and that's okay) how is so-ocd for you rn?☹️❤️

geodrimilis

Date posted: 12d ago

@Ms.shelovesfrogs I know it’s ocd so I’m trying to ignore the thoughts and groinals. I don’t get grossed by the idea of being gay I just never cared and to me it just seemed “unnatural” I should say. At the end of of the day if we were gay or anything else we would have known naturally and not start questioning it randomly

Ms.shelovesf...

Date posted: 12d ago

@geodrimilis True

Dead girl wa...

Date posted: 24w ago

I’m confused

Ok so I’m a 17 year old female, and I’ve always thought I was straight. But I just really want to know how you would know the difference between so-ocd and actually questioning your sexuality. I have nothing against the LGBTQ community (in fact I am very much a token straight friend, lol) but I saw a video about...

Sexual Orientation OCD

Mt2019

Date posted: 5w ago

Question about HOCD

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Ampyyy

Date posted: 27d ago

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